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CONTENTS

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Prolonging the Pleasure 114 Sexual Positions 146 Sensual tvleditations 206

Index 236

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INTRODUCTIO N

r l Iii$ JS A GU(OE TO GREAT SEX. But,vhat is

11great"sex? Pri,narily,it is /oven1aking. lb;;;;;;dl That is, a superlative intimate interaction between you and your partner in which you can express your innermost feelings without fear,

in a totally relaxed and comfortable frame of mind. It is about intense physical sensation, but it also involves a cathartic process of spiritual discovery and fulfillment.

RELEASING YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY

Above all, grcal love,naking is a process of sharing sexual and cn101ional energy a1 their n1ost highly charged, ,,..ith the one you lo"e.

Everyone deserves great sex, and everyone anshare it,

v1ith a loving and understanding partner and a little help. This book is designed to provide that he.Ip. In it you ,vill find son1e1hing that I can suggest bul that only you and )'Our

Lov TO BE LOVED

ua,,, ro wke oi'tf lo1>-e,,rakir1g .rtveli,1g ;,,

rhe gradual re.lea of your sexual '-'"t1XJ a,ul

llif experience catt b«or11e wo11.derf11I once ,non•.

G R SAT s ex G UIDE I N TR OOV CTI O N

partner can put intoaction -the activity of tapping into your sexual energy.And sexual energy is a version of the body1s "natural electricity'° -the in\•isiblc force-field of po"•er that is \\rithin and

v,hich surrounds us all, every day of our lives.

ENERGIZING ONE ANOTH ER

Yo11 <a1t }rrlp your partner to 1/isco••cr their sex11al energy by tapping into your own.

The idea that the body possesses energy ,,•as concei\•cd in ancient times. The ane:ient Chi1tesebelieved that certain n1eridian points on the body,if correctly stimulated. charged the individual with energy.

To rch these hidden pow•er points, you begin by thrO\\'l.ng a,vay

the idea that spontaneity is the only good ,.,ay in ,.,hich to experience lovemaking. The ancient Tao of Sex described some very specific actions to be practiced as a kind of discipline "'ith the

ulti1nate aint of arousing energy.Spontaneous lovemaking is wonderful but so are lots of other methods o( merging body and soul -and, in the process. enjoying truly great sex.

REKINDLI NG THE MAGIC

Do you remember the early occasions on ,.,hich you and your partner made love - ,.,he1t things ,.,ere going ,,•ell, when )'<>U felt relaxed and natural together, and lovemaking ,.,assuch joy and fun that you tumbled about in tx-.d like puppies? Do )'OU rcn1e1nber stretching out ,.,ith the pure luxt1ry of all that StllSualiry? Those were

,'IOnderful days ,vhen you discovered sensuality for the first time. You can't, o( (Ourse, recreate a first tin1e,but with this book }O' \I can le.arn hO\\f to recharge your sexual batteries. rediscover the joy o( maki1tg lo,•e,.,ith your partner and the cnlighten1nen1 of spiritual discovery and fulfillment, through the greatest sexual experiences you can imagine.

FREEIN G YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY

Investing a little time in preparing your mi nd and body for the pleasures to come will reap wonderful rewards. What if you could discover waysof focusing single-mindedly on sexual pleasure and losing all inhibitions about your body? vVhat if you could find waysof tapping

into your innermost spi ritual and bodily energy. of elevating your lovemaking to a higher plain?

Read on. and learn how.

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RELAXATION AND ENERGY

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R E L A X ATI ON A N O E N E R G Y

PREPARE TO RELAX Close)'Our tJ'tl

os,•OF THE ACTIVITIES described in this book are designed for two people to carry out together.

This is because, for the majority of people at least, the most pleasurable way to expand and expend sexual energy is in the company of a lover.However, the exercises described in this opening section differ slightly in that they pave the way for the build-up of sexual energy in the individual'sbody.Of course, you are free to carry out the exercises in each other's company,if you prefer.

It i$ nor ah'tty$ ensy si,rrply ro "switch off.,. Rdaxatior1 1akt.s preparation: loose clothing - or t101tt at all - a cotnfortablt plate ro lit dow11, a,id total, 1111disrup1ed privacy.

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TENSION VERSUS REu\XATION DELIBERATE $TRESS

Not all relaxation is desirable - i( rou relaxt.-.d to the point of being co1natose. li(e \\'Quid shudder 10a halt Sexual energy is no exception to this rule. \¥hen your body is exceptio11ally ph)'S-ically relaxed, its inclination is to go to sleep rather than be fired up with sexual cnthusiasn1. Ho,"c,•cr,when )'O\l embrace that rare and invigorating state of be-ing 111entally relaxed but physicaJly alert, you achieve

a type of sexual balance that can lead to ,vonderfully satjsfying feelings. Paradoxicall)',one ,\•ay of

arriving at such a state is by starting off

relaxed in both body,u,d mind.

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Weachieve bodily relaxation best by deliberately putting the bod)'under strt. then ft-cling ho," relaxed it can beoo1ne i1l contrast. Most people think that in order to experienceorgasm you need to be rcJaxcd. Yet orgas1n itself is oon1posed of a 1nixture

of relaxed n1ental stateand tensed muS<'.ular activity. So consider relaxation as a starting point for several different aspects of sexuality.

LEARNING TO RELAX

\Viti,practice, after a whilt you will fi,rd it easier to re.lax.Closeyour e)

,,rake a rouscious

effort tofree yo1,r 111i11d, lie still, ,u1d Slroke yourself (Otttfor1i,rgJy.

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How TO TENSE AND RELAX

TRESS AND RELAXATION arc opposite sides of

the same coin; without one, you cannot have the other.The exercises that follow help you to achieve

complete relaxation by deliberately putting the body under stress, so you can feel how relaxed it can become in contrast. They also teach you about bodily energy -your first step in the journey toward sexual dynamism.

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IDENTIFYING TENSION SPOTS

As you become aware of )'OUT tension SJ>()lS:, clench thC$C areas hard for a count of three and the11Jet go. If you find it difficult to identify tension spots, or if you feel tense all over, try \\'Orking your \\13Y up through the \\•hole body,first tensing, then relaxing. Begin at the tip of the right foot and \\'Ork your ,.,.ay up the right leg.\\then you reach the top, go back do\.,.n to 1he left foot and co,ne up that leg. Once you reach the

E. xluak slowly 1hrougl1yo11r 111<1uth to

,11a.ximize your growing sense of relaxation

LYING DOWN COMFORTABLY

Place a towel on the floor and lie dO\\'n flat on your back. Breathe in slowly through your nose and out through your mouth. After a couple of minutes, start noticing, while you continue \vith the breathing. ,.,,hich parts of your body feel tense.

pn1ct1«,)'Oii will beable 10 tlL.trch ond rtlax

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abdon1en, ,.,•ork your ,.,...y up it, all the ,.,.ay to the neck,

tensing and relaxing as )'OU continut.

SETTING TH E MOOD

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TENSING THE FACE $LOW MOVEMENTS

The fucc can be exercised, 100. Begin by squeezing your chin 01110 your neck hard, for a count of three, then relax. Then tip your head backv,ard so that you arc looking a1 1he ceiling, hold, and Jet go.Tense e-.ach side of your

race, hold, and relax. Open your nlouth v,.ide, hold, 1hen let go.

TOTAL RELAXATION

Once you have tensed and rela.x. ed every inch of )'OUf body,exanline )'Ourself for remaining spotsof tension. If )'OU filld any,sin1ply tense these areas again until you are relaxed aU O\'er.

MIND AND BODY

IN' HARIONY

Keep focusi,rg o,r at1J' parts of )'Ollr b()dy that

rer11ai11 te1,se.

Th.kc your 1i1nc ,vhen )'OU finish relaxing. Don't in1mediately undo all your ne,v-found caln1ne.ss!\Vhcn

you sit up,don't just sit bolt upright. \Vail a while, S'.lVOring 1he stillness of your lin1bs.l'ell

yourself that there is no hurry to rise. Roll ovtr onto your front and co1ne up back,vard and slov.,(y.This

preven ts 1heblood fron1 rushing fron1 the he.id. n1aking you feel faint.

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Once standing, raise)'Oflr aru,s slowlJ' above )'Ollr head as )'011 brmthe,leply. Fcl the

t11ergy surge ,.,;,,,;,,)'Oil.

THE MPORTANCE OF BREATHING

\r\fhile tensing i1'seasy 10 forget to con1inue breathing slo,,•ly and steadily.When ,ve feel tense and hurried, ,.,e bre.a1he in short, shallo"' gasps. Deliberately slo,,•ing do\vn your breathing ,viii help to aid the rest of the caln1ing process.

BODILY ENERGY

HEIDEA THAT THE HUMAN DODY possesses a kind of invisible force field (which can be described as

energy) is not a new one. If we breathe fully,we

THE VALUE OF BREATHING CORRECTLY

Breathing deeply is one of the keys to releasing emotion. Son1e of us get used to "not brea thing;•or to brea thing only in short, shallow•bursts.By doing this,•e may prevent outselves from

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experiencing "bad..feelings,but

alsolose out beause

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can feel energy by using deliberate bodily tension to "open"ourselves.But be prepared: some people get quite a shock when they first feel the flow of sexual energy.

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FEEL YOUR

ENERGY

By ,u,,ing i,uo iacl1 orhe.r's energy.you a,rd your lover will

enjoy physicat and

spiritual har,nony.

preve1H ourselves from enjoying ...good"' feelings.

How TO BREATHE CORRECTLY

Breathe from the diaphragm .This n1eans taking deep, slov., breaths, in through the nose and out through

the mouth. If you don't know

,vhcthcr you aredoing this correctly,

place your hand across the gap in

the ribsjust bclo,v the chest. As you breathe il,can you feel the ribs lift and expand If all you can feel is your stomach going in and out, then you'vegot it ,\lfong. Deliberately shift the activity up,vard.This

regular breath ing from the diaphragm underlies all of the exercises on the following pages.

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BIOENERGY

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GROUNDING

w>10LE se•r of physical exercises has grown up out of the school of thought that is"bioenergy."

These will put you more in touch with you r body, release energy, and serve as a great prelude to lovemaking.

THE ENERGY FLOW

Grounding isa bioeoergetic exercise that helps you to sense the energy that flo,.,.s through both the ground and )'OU. M'"'ell as being pleasurable and relaxing) the exercise

"•illput you in touch ,vith your in11er force. Grounding is a great ,vay of enabli11g rou to feel the po,,•er i11your body, particularly in

)'OUr upper legs and pelvis.

fEEL THE Vl6RATION

11'11t11 yo,lvr: dout 1l1iJ t'Xtrtue " couple.of titflf-S. yo1lll feel a vibration i11 tl1c to{H of yo1,r

llgs that sig,rals Ore e11ergy flow.

P11slr )'01,rfisis mto the snrall of rour ba<k to ht'lp con«nrratc

the tn<rgy flow i11)'Ollr ptlvic regio11

FIN ISH I N STYLE

\Vhen i'""hal>r

finishe d doing tire

groundittg exercise-, lie dow,r 011your bed

and allow )'Ottndf to rda:.:for a ,ui,11,tc or tM> beforegiving

your body and

,irals a se,rsual massaS'- Foc11s your mind 011 lhe ,r1uidle

of>"'"'body a11d tlte wps of )'Qllr legs, and co11rt111plate the

tnnf.Y surgeyo11 luwt

lldt e...:perie11«d.

Stand "'ith your feet firn1ly apart at a distance of about 18 in (46 cm).Point

your toes in to,"-1.rd each other, bend your

knees slight!)',and press your fists into )'OUr

back. just above the ,Y-aist.

Let )'OUT head fall back and, at the san1e tinle,press your heels firrnly do,\•n on

the ground. Visuali1.e the ground as a giant energy source and you as a tree or a plant,

tapping into this energy. Don't let up on this heel pressure. Hold the stance for as long as your legs and neck can bear it, breathing front the diaphrag,n throughout.

Stand up straight, on the out•brea1h, then let the lop half of your body fall forward

so that your hands arc nearly touching the ground. Hold this, while still grounding those heels constantly.After a couple of minutes stand up straight again and relax.

After carrring out the exercise a couple of times, you should start to feel a vibration

in the tops of your legs. This vibration signals the release of the energy Oo,Y-.

PELVIC LIFT

\VhiJc some people discover their entire body comes alive during love1naking,others only feel a sensation in the genitals. By doing pelvic exercises. you will learn ho,\' to "open your body n1orc fully.

The first exercise is the pelvic lift:lie flat on your back. \\•ith your knees dra,vn up and your armsalong your sides. palms do'""•Push up your bottom and arch your back. Your feet, shoulders. neck, and head should be the only parts of your body touching the floor. Press your heels down, grounding the,n ,vith the earth'senergy.Hold this for a couple of ntinutes. then let your body do,vn again.You ,nay feel vibrations in your thighs as w•eU as sensations in the pelvis.

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LOOSENI NG UP THE BODY

By using deep breathing and by actively encouraging the build up of pelvic 1ension, ,11e can learn ho,.,. to stress our bodies beneficially. Moving with ease and freei11g stiff lin1bs is part of the process. Understanding your O\'ln individual pattern of sexual tension and climax is another.

PEWIC EX ERCISES

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PELVIC ROCK

Lie on your back. palms do,vn and legs flat. Oil an in breath, arch your back (keeping your bouorn on the ground) and let )'Our pelvis fall a,vay fron1the direclion of rour head. On an out-breath, press your spine to the

ground and pull your pelvis to,,; ud the direction or )'Our

head. By doing these tA'O moven1ents, you vt'ill realize you are rocking your pelvis. Repeat 10 ti1nes.

WALL EXERCISE

This is a variation or the pelvic lift, only instead ordoing it on the floor.rou do it

w•ith your legs up against a \\•all. It's very like the 1\valk ing up the v..au..game small

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PELVIC CIRCLING

Stand ,\•ith your feet l8 in (46 cn1) apart and 1nove your hips in a circle, as if you \\ ere hula dancing or hula-hooping.Move fonvard, side, back. side,around and around. Oeco,nea\\•are of how you are breathing and ensure that you

breathe evenly and rhythmically ,vhiJe you circle. It n,ay help you to imagine a hula- hoop'"hirring around and around your

hips.You 1nayhoop clock,..,isc,.1hen

counter--clocl.. "isc, 1hen in a figure eight. The aiin of the exercise is to free the pelvis of stiffness and rigidity.

children sometimes pla)'•

Lie w•ith your buttoc.ks against a ,vall and place the soles or )'Our feet square!)'

on the ,vall itself. Rock your pelvis back as you breathe in, and lift your spine a little higher front the ground. \\fith each in-breath,lift the spine another vertebra higher until )'OU have reached as high as feels comfor,able.Your body forms an arch. Then, on an out-breath, let your body relax back do,,rn.

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PELVIC

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11,is bioeuergetic exen;ise ease$ the pelvi1 at1d 1,dps you 10feel tireflow of et1ergy in nnd around your ge.riitals..

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LOSING INHIBITIO NS ALL FOURS

ANG•VPS PR EVENT vs from being fulfilled. The impact of childhood commands -"thou shall not touch thyself." "thou shall avoid appearing

ridiculous at all costs" -is the greatest culprit. The following exercises are designed not just to awaken pelvic sensation, but also to test and overcome childhood shame.

Our parents inherited attitudes about sexuality that were originally vested in their grandparents.The legacy for us is that we struggle with outdated mental controls that we may not even know have been lodged inside us.As children, we cannot escape our family's attitudes and examples.

Posi1ion yourself on all fours facing a\'l'a)' from 1hc ",all and place the sole$ of rour feet against it. Rock your pelvis back 011an in-breath (bonon1 up) and then fon\•ard on an ou1-breath. As )'OU rock back, push ,.,.ith your hands against the floor. As you rock fon\,ard, push against the ,\•alls ,Y-ith )'Ot1r heels. Do this 10 tin1es. It ison]y your pelvis that n1oves. Do not come farther fon,•ard ,vith the rest of your body.

THINK POSITIVE

The exercises 011 this and the following page not only ask you to lca,'e any prcconccp1ions behind. they ask you

deliberately to encourage ,vhat might

LET GO, AND LI BERATE

Yoi, (annorf1,lly release )'Ourself 1u1til you fr«. )'Ollr 111i,rd of dcep•seartd prej11dias about sex.

Gtntlycaress e,-uy i,ith of

,-011r hotly

seem like ridiculous behavior and

body poses. Exaggerate the pos,s.

Examine your feelings. Can )'OU

bear them? Can you enjoy

them? Relax, and develop your sexuality.

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BonOMS Ur

On all (ours, rest your head on the Ooor> with your arn1s sprc.ad Otll on the ground on either side o( your head, and your bottom sticking up into the air. Deliberately exaggerate hov., far you can 1nake

your bottom jut ou1. As you do so.grov., :.n...are o( the follo\\•ing

sensations:expansi01\ i1l the chest; a loosening and relaxation of

the ston1ach; and a sense of the buttocks opening and spreadiltg.

SQUATTI NG

11,isexercise isdesigned principally for \\'01nen, as it opens up and relaxes the fC"Jnale genita1 area. although 1nen can try it out i(they ,\fish.

Squat dO\\'n, knees bent and out 10 the side.\'lith your arms inside your legs and your heels 01\ the Ooor. Since n1ost of us are not contortionist.S, it n1ay be advisable to begin by putting a book bcnc.ith your heels. Hold ontosorncthing if

you need to keep your balance. The object is to open up and relax the genital area v..hiJe n1aintaining rhythmical bre.athing.

RELAX AND ENJOY

If )'Oiifeel silly doi,rg a,iy of tltese exercise$, do1l1 worry.Just sray with )'Ollr ft'eli,1gs a,id get 11sed to tl1e1,i, You'll soo11 fi,rd you enjoy the cxperie11tt.

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People ,.,ith knee injurie.s n1ay

either do this by lori11g

tht 1nselves slowly, first taking the weight of 1hc body on

their hands 10 reduce suddtn knee pressure,or 1nay lca\'e it out altogether.

MEN ONLY

One problen1n1a.lC$ sometimes experienceisfeeli11g too tense in and around 1he genitals, \\•hich can prevent 1he penis and testes dropping do,.vn. The testicle pull is a n1e1hod of letting the genhals relax and of defusing sexual arousal. It can be done in any posi1ion that fecJs co111fortable.

Take a testicle in eac-h hand and gentlr pull down. I!old for a count of three and then let go. Do this about 20 tin1es.or more if gcnitaJ tension isexlrcn1e.

AN ECSTATIC RELEASE

HAVE lllARNED THAT, through tension and relaxation, our bodies grow alive with energy. II is impossible to have one without the other:

stress and tension need to build before one can relax. 1 have focused on tension because, recently, I was impressed by a contemporary Swiss therapy called

the Grinberg Method. In it, through a build up of massive tension, the client reaches a type of

catharsis ( see opposite page) .

AGONY TO ECSTASY

Uanr to rrletue yourulf througli

,letp rt11sion, and you will experittra

truly wondtrful fttlirrgs.

Bu l LDING TENSION

By u$ing the force of their entire body. the client pushes against the therapist, breathing in whatever exaggerated "''ay feels right. The result is an almost orgiastic sensation

of gut emotion joined to a terrific build up of bodily tension. In a less exaggerated form, by carrying out 1he bioenergetic exercises shown on pages 22-27 I am asking you to deliberately put your body under similar stress. You, too,

may l>e able to reach a state of body tension which ultimately rtsultS in deep relaxation.

CATHARSIS

The rull of the bioene.rgetic exercises should be a ..letting go" of such heightened tens•ion that it'sc.ithartic. Stress feelings disappear.O..pshoulder pain loses layers of agonr.Ifs

possible to end up looking as if you ha,•e just stepped out of a bed of passion.

-RuE INTIMACY

Building and releasing tension isn't necessarily asexual process.. But it isan inrimate one. You wW experience each other in a ,..iay most of us only get dose to with a loY<I', With bioenergetic

=rcis<syou should r<ach aheigh1cned body state tha1

leads na1urally 10 lo,emaking,

SENSUAL MASSAGE

Part of the process of releasi ng sexual energy is preparing the body for the counterpoints of tension and release that will occur in any extended session of lovemaking. Massage is part of that prepara tion . There are many wonderfu l massage tech n iques that can be

employed, some of which charge the body with electricity,and others that soothe away stresses and cares and prepare you for the joys to follow.

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THE POWER OF TOUCH

HERE'S NOT H I NG QUITE LIKE the sensation of ,,rarm handson a receptive body to restore the hwnan spirit and stimulate hope. When ill babies are

GOLDEN RULES

The fingertips arc cap.3bleof crea1ing o, crwhclming sensation

all O\'er the bod}'•But in order to obtain the 1naxirnun1

plt-asure from 1heexperien«.there are cer1ain golden rulc.s

that shoukl ah\'a)'Sbe ob.scned.

stroked they gain the will to live.A patient

in a coma has a greater chance of recovery if touched. And relationships

can be revived through caress.

HANDS-ON ENERGY

There's a belief that the friction of hands on body creates energy.It certainly creates he.at.The sens:a1io1t of touch is itself profound ly satisfying,but also if carried out

sensually.very exciting. If you visualize the body as a great sexual battery, the hands are the primary fueling catalyst.

MEMORABLE MASSAGE

Skillful strokes can stir a range

of wo,ultrfi,I fttlings..

• 1\itake sure tire n1aSS11ge roon, rer,rai,u eo11.si.srt11tly war,,,.

• Ensure that the 11,assage oil and )'Ollr ha11ds are wonned.

• G11ara,11« that you have. u,ri,11trrrtpted privacy.

• A1a.s.sagt 011 rl,tfloor (a,vcred witIr rowt'ls) or 011a n,assage table -not 0,1 a bed.

• Support tire ltead with a

low pillo,v.

• £,r1surc rhar tire ,nassage oil smells attracti..-.c (baby oil lvill not do).

• MaJ.:t sure,hat your Jrands art scrupulously clean - dirt can hurt the J.kin.

• Po1,r a little of tire oil into

,v,,r hands and roar t/,e,,, before applying toyour

partner's J.kiu - do uot, ever, drop oil 011to tire body.

• Apply rite oil with quick,

fir,,,strokes.

• O,ice you liave begun tire 111assagt proper, deliberately slow down all s1rokts and 11evr.r lose touch again

1111til theend of the

u1as.sage.

S E NSU A l. M A SSAG E S EN SATI O N A L l A SS AG E

SENSATIONAL MASSAGE

LL OF MASSAG1, is SENSUA L. But, as George Orwell might have said, some strokes are more sensual than others. Some areas of the body

spark into life quickly, while certain atmospheres defi nitely increase sensuality.Most of you will know about the electricity that is obtained by rubbing

two pieces of silky material together, or by brush ing your hair and then picki ng up scraps of paper by holding the hai rbrush next to them. The electrical charge on the brush

acts as a "magnet.,,

SOFTLY DOES IT

\Vl,e-11 ntassagirrg, always 1ry 10 bt serrsitive 10 )'Ollr partner's needs.

<ht,.our lld,1ds tofind tli niosr

/.,t,ponsi "a,eas

SENS U A L ?-( A SS AC I!: SEX Y Tl!:X T URES

SEXY TEXTURES

H EN I WAS LEA RN ING MASSAGE in highly

alternative San Francisco in the mid-1970s, we used many aids.I remember arriving home from

one trip bearing a massage glove -one side of it was red velvet, the other rabbit fur. I also invested in a red edible bikini that my lover was supposed to bite off me (actually it didn't taste very good), a foot roller, and a sort of loofah composed of large wooden beads that rolled as you rubbed them up and down your back.

NATURAL TEXTURES

Lo,rg and S()ft ltnir nrakes a tt'011derful natural

111assage aid wl1e11 su-epr a,ross rl1t body.

ROUGH OR S100TH?

Everybody enjoys different bodily sensations. Ask )'Ollf partner what sire prefers.

CHANGING TEXTURES

The 1imc to use different textures is aA:cr the body has

already been subjected to son1e deep pres.sure mas.sageso that it is relaxed and receptive. \\fhcn you are using fabrics, avoid massage oil. as it dogs up the fabrics, rendering then1 useless.

DIFFERENT SENSATIONS

Each fabric feels subtly differe,11 to the next and my preference is to graduate then1 so that the harder fabrics, such as pvc.arc used first and the softer, more erotic textures, such as "•onderful long hair, are used last. Use these lightly a11d teasingly and, above all, slo,vly: \\•hen they ,vork - wo,.,,! -you really kno,v

)'OU have had a massage!

S ENS UA L M A S S AG E C REATING T l-I E M O O O

CREATING THE MOOD

T 1\1AY SEEM ODD THAT TH E A PPl:,A RANCE of the

room i n which you arc being massaged has an

CREATING ATMOSPH ER E

• /,nt iu s«ntcd c,u,dles and light the,11 all o,yr tl,c roo,11. Do not 11se any other ligJiriug.

impact on your body,but it does. The old 1970s

• Tun1

rhe

l1roti11g up high so that the

model worked -exotic Eastern drapes, drifts of patchou li and jas m ine scent ing the ai r, palm trees stacked around the room, and hours of harmonious music played on a tape. Atmosphere affects how we

think of the experience, registering in the brai n and affecting all our sensory percept ions so that our pleasure is enhanced.

COMFORT IS ALL

Sympathetic decor, aod seosual sound, lighting, and fragrances <:rea1e a receptive mood (or m3S$3ge, but you stiJJ need to be physi<:ally con1for1able as '"ell. Stack piles o(

colorful, fluffy to,"els arourtd the massagesiteas a finishing touch.

H AR10NIOUS ENVI RONi ENT

Ca,ullclig/11, i,rce11se, a11d arou1atic oils l,elp to c11l1n11ce tlie right ,,,c,od.

roo,,,fttls like a Ti,rkis/1 bath.

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SENSUAL BODY SITES

ANY PARTS OF THE BODY are extremely sensitive

and will respond to good, sensual massage. Never exclusively target the erotic sites. Instead,

talk to your partner about what feels good, experiment with slow, tantalizing touch, and keep your massage strokes as smooth, continuous, and flowing as possible.

Etuurc yottr lla,uls are cltA11, smootl1, a11d w11rm bf/Ore 1011.tl1ing

)'Ollr part,1er

"L'<S\IAL HOTSPOTS

roplt hnvc dif/ett,it

.!llSpots."Ask whnt

.rr o.rt before >'Ou

r,:n tfie ,,WS$'1gt

S E NSUAL t A SS A G H F £EL THE HEAT

FEEL THE HEAT ,•,suALIZE YOUR ENERGY

The energy surrounds the bod)'in a shin1mering haze.Ever)'Olle of us

OR AN EN ERGY MASSAGE to gain heat and provide pleasure, begin by focusing on your aim. Try to sense, through touch, the growth of the body's

electrical charge - yours and your partner's -and then concentrate on this feeling throughout the massage.

SAVOR THE SENSATION

Close your eres and revel ill the feeling of your hands on your partner's body.See your hands as slo,vly sending Otlt \\f'aVCS of he.at. Your partner,in turn, should focuson your strokingand teasing and picture their body as slowly dr.nving in po,,•er.

As you relax into sensuality, i1nagine the gradual lightiog up of a halo

of J>0"'er."See., 1hi.s ellel'gy in your mind'seye.

rontai11s pure energy.It pulsatl'S through us. affecting every fucet of our lives, our emotional and physical ,,,ell-being. I( "•eare a,,,..1rc of this energy in our lovc,naking, we can derive 1nore pleasure and satisfac1ion.

Utyour wnrm hrMtl1 sri1t1ulate your parturr'sskin

FEEL TH E FORCE

Ut theforcefirl,I build beiwu,r your luu,ds and your partner's bod)

..u-ei11g'' tlte energy

as heat or light.

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SENSUAL STROKES

HERE ARE MANY OIHERENT massage strokes that have a whole range of uses, from soothing tired muscles to relieving the stresses of everyday life.

Most of them also work well as a wonderful prelude or alternative to lovemaking.

TRYING DIFFERENT TECHNIQUES

Cirdiog is still the n1ain 111edium of sensual mas.s:.tge, but it is how• you do it,and at ,vhat depth and prcssurf!,that counts.Try:

+ fingertip • fingernail • scratching • stroking

cirdi11g circling • hair sweep ,,..ith fabrics

SENS ITIVE AREAS

A ,,,a,,'s tlitss

aud nipples are ofteu ns se,rsitive '"hi.s part,1er's..

CHANGING THE PACE

-\ co,ubinatio,, of differe,rt cirdi11g n11d $(rar(l,;,,g r«l1t1iq11es tttnkesfor "grror 1,iassage.

"rr 1/1e pnssure

l'Tth "'"'

fij.,gtt1, a,11/

•'12J1btge,ule

W nippla art

...ally the most

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THE IM PACT OF PRESSURE

Deep pressure feels heaJthy and reassuring; n1ediun1pressure feels pleasurable and sensual;and light pressure begins to be erotic.The key to using the n,any different sensual massage Strokes effectively lies in delivering the right a111ount of physical force at the right pace. The foLIO\'ling techniques require different degrees of pressure, but they should all be administered s.Jo1vly.

\foOULATJNG PRESSURE

:nnate the pressure

"apply -fro,11 a stroke n,ur hair 10 a/inn

-,.as of tire hand -for

..ui,11u,11 sti11111latio11.

S ENSUA L ST RO K ES

Hl;,A l,.I NG HANDS

\Varttr, sn1oc1h'"""'prt'SS11re -varied tlirouglroul the n,assage- will i11d11ce

feelings ofbotl, tro1icis.,11 aud •vt.ll•being.

Swe<p your /,air t'roti<'1llyover his body

SE NS U A L 11' ASSAG E S ENS UA L STRO K ES

GLI DING

T},is is a hvy stroke beai11se you are actually ltani,ig on

your partner. Site will experit11('e. it asa serue of overwhel,,,ing

PALM CIRCLING

Circling is the basic nlassage stroke and can be used ,.,ith

varying degrees of pressure. As a general rule, never massageon

bones. Place the palms of both

THE GLIDE

l think this is the 1nost spectacular n,ovement in any massage. It's used on the back only. Place your hands on the lowest part of )'Otir partner's bottom

,vith the palms Oat and the fingers point ing to,.,ard the head. Then, ,._,ith the ,,•eight of your body directed from the solar plexus, start pushing both hands up along the spine, taking as long as you like. When you reach the shoulders and neck, lightly bring your hands down again to the buttocks and recommence.

ripple like a wavt

that flows directly along rl1t back.

hands on your partner's body and move then1in circles. firmly out,\•ard and a\,'ray from the spine.

PAL1CIRCLING

771efundamental nrassage strokt, rhis isafir,,ier ttclr,1iqut tl,a,r just usingfi11gertips orfingernai l$.

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SWIMMING

The hands) paln1d0\\111, n1ove in circles. close together, bul in opposite directions to each other. taking on a kind of"swinuninsensation.This can be carried out up and do",'"all the fleshy parls of the bod)•, including the buttocks.

CROSS CURRENTS

"Swi111111ing" i$ also known as

.,. rou•c11rre11ts,"'

bt"Cauu the 1ecl,uiq11t i11t'Olt1es II IOYing 11,c luu,ds ar differt11t te,,1pos.

THUMBING

Vlorking ,-.,ith both thu1nbs positioned on the lo"•er back. n1ake short, rapid. alternate strokes with cac-h thun1b. rnoving up and ac:ross the bunocks toward the ,\'.list. Continue up the right• hand side of the body all the way 10 1heshoulders, repeat 011the left-hand sideand finish off co11cerura1ing again on the buttocks.

FIRM

Tl-lUl\i HS Prm lightly biu fin11ly with JVUr 1f1111nbs. n11d

r0<k tl1efl,..sJ,

l,cnearh tlreu1 rntl1rr 1l1a11 scraping o 't'.T 11,e s11rfa<t

of tl,t s.ki11.

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CLAWING

With only your fingertips resting on the skin, pull down firmly, hand over hand, along one side of the bod)•and then the other. Try to keep the strokes as long and continuous as possible.

CARE WITH

YOUR NAJ LS

If you l,avt long fit1gernail.s., bt cartful ,ior ro rake •c1awi11f' roo littrau, }'<>11 do,1•1 want to

Kratch a,rd hurt

yo11rpartt1tr.

TOPPI NG U P

To apply ,,,ore oil,kup tl,e l,ack of 011t l1a11d resting on yor,r partner's hotly, cup it,and tl1t11 po11r a little oil i11to it.

SWEEP ING

&firrn with J'Ollr hands, a,id use Ion continuous strokes to ensure an eff«tive. sweeping c.:du1ique.

SWEEPING STROKES

When )'OU arc n1assaging relatively large areas of the body,such as the back, use long, sensuous, Sh'eeping strokes. Try to keep the sensations your p3rtner feels ascontinuous a.s possible.

SHORT STROKES

The smaller,more complicated parts of 1hcbody such as the arms, hands, and feet, should receive short and decisi,•cstrokes. Avoid massaging areas

'"here the bone is dose to the surface of the skin.

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ENERGIZIN G THE BACK

e1;0R.E Tt-1£ HUi\tAN ooov can generate sensuaJ

energy, it needs to be freed of everyday tension.

This is paradoxical,since it is by tensing the body that we come to sexual arousal and climax. But, to put it simply, it seems that there's "good" and "bad" tension.

The first back strokes therefore need to be firm,lift ing the tension up and a\,ray from

the spinal column. Once your partner feels relaxed, then

the body begins to be receptive to the surface strokes,which are more disti nctly erotic

in overall sensation.

Gooo AND BA D TENSION

11,e streS$ of rhe ,lay rhar has been carried t1ro1u1d i11side yoi,r frt1111e, especially w•ithi11 the spi,,e, cou"tsas ..bad" tf,isio,i.

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SP INAL

RELEASE

The .:ffi:ct tlwt l'Our p,irtner rls ,s of liavi11g strain ,11ovtd

t of rl,t spi,1t

n11d away

;iugl, the sidfS

of the body.

vVEIGHTING

Sitting by your partner's side, place )'Otir hands on either side of the spine. just below• the w,1istline. Lean heavily on rour hands, applying

the pressure evenly arld allO\\'ing the force of your

body to move your hands apart and dO\\'O to,\•ard the hips os slowly as possible. They will slide apart. Move your hands do\vn the back slightly and repeat the san1e n1ovcn1cnt sevcral 1imes,

,noving fro111 the \\'3ist do,vn to 1hc area juSL above the tail o( the spine.

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THE GUDE AGAIN

Repeat this Slroke (seepage 52) afrer doing the

\.Veighting stroke.The Glide is an.other effective deep pressure move that shifts pressure a,,ro.y from the spine and out through the rop of the body.

SPINAL TAP

Press your thun1bs into the indentat ions on either sideof your partner's spine,starting at the neck, and dra,.,. them slow-Jy do,.,.n untjl you reach the spinal base. Repeat. varying the pressure.

CORRECT PRtSSURE

Be careful not to prt$S tht spiut itsdf. as prtss,,re on bo,ican be very pain/111.

SMOOTH

HANDS

As )'O il slideyour iJuoubs upyour pa rr11er's back, rry ro avcid contac.t betwee,r thermof your hands and your pa rtt1er's back.

THE THUMB SLIDE

In this reverse version of the spinal tap,push your thun1bs firnlly up on either side of the spine, sending them fro1n the base of the spine to the

hair-line. Repeat, varying the pressure.

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BODY ROCKING

Kneel at your partner's right-hand side,reach across ,.,ith your left hand, and slip your fingers under her body.Pull up to lift the body s]ighll)',

then release it. Slip rour rig.ht hand under the sa,nc sideand repeat Pull rhrthn1ically,each hand i11 1urn,10 set 1hebody into a rocking pattern .Then repeat the technique on the other sideof your p.trtner's body.

\\'A RN ING

Body rockingcau be difficult on a heavy person. If your partner is too large (or )"Ou to lift safoly.avoid this n1ovcn1cnt altogether,as you

could easily strain your back.

FJ il1\1 HA NDS

Handlt )'01"par1t1er fir,,,ly )'tt stnsitivly whtu perfonui11g body rocking. so tltar $.Irefeels secure in the ,,,ovt,,1tut.

SENS U A L t A SSA G E

HIP LIFT

Glide your hands dO\\'l'l your partner's body fronl the shoulders to the buttocks, then slip your hands under the hips.and drn,v them up the t1ndcrside of the body.This will lift the body slightly.Repeat.

REPEATING STROKES

Once these pressure removal strokes ha,•e been carried out, the basic strokes can be used in a leisurely fashion, to tease the skin and lift energy levels.Feel free to improvise and to respond to your partner's indications of pleasure. Keep in mind that the slo,ver the massage. the n1orc impact it has.

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HANOl.E \VITH CAR£

Hold your partner firrn fy. a11d lift lier

slowly and g111Jy, ,naking sure'"'"'

luuids do 11ot slip. Pinched skin isnot part of a

$OCthing u1assage.

Lift gc,uly co avoid straining tht

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ENDING BACK MASSAGE

FTER 20 1INUTES OF BACK 1ASSAGE, your

partner should be feeling pretty fired up.

So it's a good idea to end with a routine that feels firm, but also clears away some of the energy generated so far.

FINISHING OFF

The object of this techniqt1c is to sculc your partner and prepare her for the end of the mass.1. .ge. \<Vhile )'OU need to dissipate sorne of the energy generated during the massage as a "'hole, be careful not 10 undQ all the good that has been done in the proo-.ding 20 1ninu1es.

Kneeling at your partner's side,place the backs of your forcanns close together across the center of

her body.Theo very slow•ly spread your anns apatl aod turn the1n slightly in,vard.

\\then your a.rn1s teach the nttk and buttocks, the

fronts of your fotearrns ,..,ill be

in contact w•ith )'OUT partner's shoulders and buttocks. Lift then1 off and repeat the s1roke.

&gin the stroke wit!,

)'011r harid1pnlms•up

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FRONT MASSAGE

ANY NEWCOM ERS TO M ASSAGE hesitate when faced with a partner's front. Both sexes meet with the uncertainty of how to treat the genitals.Anxiety

creeps in. Fortunately, the necessity to take massage slowly means we have a chance to get more comfortable.

THE SLIDE

ln back mas.sage, circling is the basic stroke. In front mass.a.ge, the slide takes its placeand is the best stroke "'ith which to begin.

Kneel at your partner's he.ad a11d place your hands, pahn dO\"fl, on his che.st, w•ith the heels of rour hands next to his armpits.Lean fonvard and slide your hands slO\.,.ly over your partner's body until you can reach no fanher; repeat n,•o or three times. If your part 11er is female, reduce pres.sure "'hen your fingers slip over her breasts.

R.ESPECT VULNERABILITY

It is in,ptrari,'t' O,at your ptirr ,1et/tels conf,ortable ashe lirs 011 his ba(k.

BE GENTLE

/11 pmctical ter,,rs, nmssagesl1Cttld always be gentle.Tourl1i11g breasts,nay onlybecarried out after pcru,m;o,, lras bttn souglit aud gi,ffl and,for tlte

,,,,o,,,tt,t,tltegt11itals sl,ould be excluded.

Take,.our n•tig'1t

on )'01,r legs asyou

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HEAD MASSAGE

H SN TENSION BUI LDS in the hu man body, it often ends up concentrated in the shoulders,neck, and back of the head. People complaining of stress

mention these feelings more than any other symptom. However, there is help at hand; a good, slow head and shoulder massage can dispel tension and induce relaxation.

HEAD ANO

$H0ULOER LIFT

Slipyour l,a,rds u11der your partner 's shoulders, then draw

lhc-111 11p at1d Ollt,

lifting tl1e s.J1011ldm as )'OU tlo w. A

•ariatiou is to pull

your l1at1ds alo11g tlit 11,ulmide of tl1e head, with your

fingers agaiust tlrt bad: of the ru'. lk.

REDUCI NG PR ESSURE

Ket'Ping,•our part11e r'shend 111ppor1ed ,

, ptt Ut•,lly draw

t'tldr hand i11

,,,,,,frou, tl,e

nap,t of tlie ut<.k to tlie crown.

CARESSING THE HEAD

The head as a \hole isan incredibly sensitive pa.rt o( the hu1nan body. The scalp alone is home 10 countlessdifferent nerve endings, making it especially responsi"e to gentle n1assagc and stroking. A head caress can be ,vonderf'ully cahning.

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BREAST MASSAGE

HEN YOU ARE GJ VING YOUR FEMALE PARTNER a

body massage, don't be nervous about includ ing her breasts in the routine - if you leave them

out, she may be left feeling that the massage has not been properly fin ished. The simple but very sensual four-step breast massage routine shown overleaf was devised by the noted Californian masseur, Ray Stubbs.

TENDERLY DOES IT

Your parr,re.r 'sbrtasts are vtry

nsitive, so n1akt sure you

always handle the,n gently.

H EALTHY PLEASURE

As we.II as btit1g a,r extre,ne.ly pleasurable. expe.rie11ce. for the r«ipienr, agoud breasr ,,,as.sage. stimulates nerve endings a,rd i,nprovtS bloodflow.

SENS UA L M A SSA C E BR EA ST IA SS A CE

THE RAY STUBBS TECHNIQUE

Slide 1he Ba, of your left hand diagonal1y across your

Using a \\'Clloiled fingertip and 1he liglnesl possible

Gently sq,1ce1.e a little skin at each sideof your partner's

Squee-.te rour partner's nipple gendy bet,.,•een a \\•elloilcd

par1ner's

left

breast, moving

touch, place )'Our finger gently

•upp1c,and then very light ly

forefinger and thun1b,sliding

slo\.,.ly tO\\•ard her right shoulder.

Then slide )'Our right hand across her right breast in 1he same manner. Repeal these l\.,.O strokes alternately,about six or seven timeseach.

and trace out a spiral on one of your partner's breasts.Star1 01\ the outer side and spiral in smoothly and gradt1aUy tintil

you reach the nipple, then repeat 1he stroke on the other breast.

:ide oul\"'1.rd toward the sidesof r breast as though )'Our fi,tgers "(re moving along the spokes of

,"•hec-1 to its rim. Repeat this

-.troke on all of the ..spokcs"of

c.1,h nipple.

then1upand oil' it. For extra effect, you can use both hands alternately so that the action, and the sensations, arc made co,ninuous.. Repeat on your partner'sother nipple.

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CU PPING THE BREASTS

When cupping the breasts., it is intportant to re1nember that they areglands, not ntuscles, and should not have heavy pressure applied to then\.

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Now cup your hands lightly u1tder the breas1s

,1nd gendy s,oJttp your palms a1td fingertips

,und the1n a few• tin1es.

Starting at the breastbone and using the

fingertips of both hands, n1ake tiny circles over

the ,.,.hole of the upper chest, excep1 1he breasts.

Fina1ly, increase your partner's level of

excitement by gently brushing the ends of her nipples ,vith )'Our fingertips.

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MASSAGING THE BELLY

HIS FORM OF MASSAGE can aid digestive processes and is very comforting. If your partner is one of those people whose beUy

is very ticklish,try making the moves slowly and firmly.Don't take your partner by surprise.

FINESSE IS TliE KEY

Using the fingers of one hand, massage the belly with small cirdes.\Votk in a docl"\vise direction (the direction in '"hjch the colon runs), and then use your p.1hn to 1nassage in a large

circle around the outer rim of the belly. Prt'SJ down tinnly t snrsi1i11tly with

,uur fi , rtips

USI NG BOTH HAN DS

Vary11,e belly

circling nrokcs by using the other ha,ui as wrll. Make

u1icircle.s wit!,

bot!, lia11dsfro,,, hip to hip. in tl,e sa,11e dim:1ion.

C01FORT AND CARE

A stor,1ach ,11assage is t'try plMS11rablr, but be ge,rtle beau,se tl1e ,1111S<les here art Y11si1i1--e and rasily 111rtdc sore.

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KNEADING

This technique should be pcrforn1ed on the front of the body using both hands and focusing on the fleshy areas around the ,\-aist and the hips.

Use both hanW simultaneously or alternately,and once you'vecovered a]J the suitably fleshy areas, vary the sensation by niaking circling motions " th the tips of all the fingers. Don't knead bony areas ,\•here the skin is tight over the flesh -it can be painful.

CONTINUITY

Vorkyour rh11111bs and fingers itt dose co11j11nctio11 o,-er

)'Ourparr,1u's body toprovide a co,nplere, rolling ,of l'tlrying

sensat io,rs.

KNUCKLE

PRESSURE

Useyour u,d.les 10 w,ry A prtssure aud

•hol<f «l of 'f' rruugt ns 11111 work the liack of f 'Oltr ""1o,'tryour

-,.rtner's tONO.

HAND TWISTING

Continue docb\'ise circles'"ith one hand, only 1his tin1e t\\'ist the hand itself for part of its run so that you arc then massaging vt'ith the back of the ha.nd.

Bend your fingers and 1heback of your hand over and arou11d )'Our partner's torso.being careful 1101 to press too hard but varying the sensations as much as possible. If you have long nails, be careful no1 to scratch your partner.

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THE ABDOMINAL SLIDE

This is a ,.,ondcrfully s<>othing stroke, but 1es i1\vigorating and energizing at the sa1ne tirne. Berore you s1ar1,straddle your partner's thighs, positioning your ,.,eight so that he is entirely conlrort.lble befote the n1assage con1n1ences.

Slide >Our hands gently but firn1ly up your parlner's abdomen fron1 groin 10 ribs. Place both pa1111s on his lo,ver abdonten. ,vith your fingers pointing IO\\•ard your partner's head. Then push your hands (do not lean on thent becauseyour ,\•eight \\'ould be too much for )'Our partner to take) slo,vly up the ab<lon1en until your fingertips n1eet the ribcage, then bring your hand down around the side or the body, back 10,v.ird )'OU. Repeat asdesired.

t A SS A G I N C TH E BE L LY

1-lf.ALI NG HANl)S

i\1assagi11g tl,e abdo,11e11 (a11 i,uli,cc

fee/i,rgs of wdl-being "" 'nctually benefit

your par1rrer's ltenll/J by s1i,t1ulati11g

COM FORT FI RST

Ensure 1l1a1your part,rer is co,nfortable and lrnppy wirl, rl,e po1itior,i11g of yo11r body weight IK/orc yoi, begin rlie ,11assage.

Prt'SSfir,11fy with

)Vllrfingrr1ips

befon begi,111i11g the slide 11p your J"trt,irr's torso

diges1i1'e processes.

Posirion >v.>11ru-lf

w.c11rcly a11d

kttp still rlll'ougl,

tl1c,011mof 11,c massage

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THE ABDOM INAL TWIST

To vary the abdo1ninal slide technique (see page 82), posi1ion your hands so that the htt.ls of your p:dms face Out\'lard and the fingertips meet at your partner's middle. Gently sweep your hands apart below the ribcage so that your fingertips trace the bottom ribs..

• As w•ith all other tccl\niques, rentove any rings before starting.

• Make sure your nails do not rake your partner's ribcage.

• Maintain a firn1but sensitive pressure on your partner's abdon1en throughout the massage.

CONSTANT TOUCH

A11 in,pcna,rt rr,le of 111assage is 1ha1 when you are giving so,neo11e full• body s1roke1,, you sho11ld always tty rohaw at least one hand in co11tact with )'01"part,rer's ski11. It is vital to ,11aintai,1 consis.ttnt

ccntnct bttwtt11 your hands a11d

)'011r partner's body, in order to generate the e11ergy llllt$Sll.ry to

,11ake the massage suam/1'1 andfulfilling for 11,e ret:ipit11t.

S ENS U A L M ASSAC 6

LEG MASSAGE

01PLETING A TASK is as important as beginning it,and the rnanner i n which you complete something

often reflects on the ki nd of person you are. If you're an impatient character, you might skimp the ending to get thejob over and done with quickly.However, if you're a thoughtful personality, you might make

the ending as lingering and as tactile as you did the beginning, and this is the approach to adopt for the leg massage, the final stage of a full-body massage.

LEG M A SS AG £

KNEADI NG

Usir1g both ha11ds, "'krtea,f''dow11 1licfleshy areas

of the legsfronr tl1e thighs down to tl,e ,ah-es.

TA KE YOUR Tli E

TI1c legs an:jusl ,rs i,11p«ta11t as any otherpart of the bod) so trtt.Jt rJu.'111 with rl,esau1e resp«t.

Cer,rle UJutairrg with

)'Ollr tlrighs will '°"11a11,c tllco 't'rall txpcrit'rlt'C of 11,e massage

O,nir 1Jic backs of 11,c knees.

Apply dc-r-p fi,iger pressure bypushing downfirmt,• with )'""'fingtrtips

SENSUA L MA SSAG E BOO \' CONTA CT f

BODY CONTACT

H EN YOU H AVE FINISH ED n1assagi.ng your

partner's back, head and shoulders, front, and legs, it is time to move the whole experience on

from relaxation to arousal.

BODY CARESS

Lean fon,ro.rd onto your partner and sensuously slide your body from side to side against his.Rub your chest .1g.iinst his back and press )'our genitals against his bunocks.

Prm yo ur brmsts inst liis bock

8r11sJ1 )'<>IIT hair against liis body

FACE•TO•PACE

Full faa-to-fac e body co,1ra(t ojfeN extra ditt1eusious. 11,e genitflls fire pre$$ed 1ogetl1er, attd e)'e-to-e

'""ta(t enhances tire experie,rce.

Gl:TTING CLOSER

Tltt all-01-er sensa1io11 of a full body press inducespowerf1d feeli,rgs of togetlten,ess.

INTIMATE

TOUCH

No sen sual massage would be complete without proper attention being paid to the most erogenous areas of the body and, in particular, the genitals. They need preparing for lovemaking as much as any other part of the body, and the whole process of sexual energy exchange will be more complete if )OU

embark on a long, lingering program of intimate touch before making love.

IN T lt,.f AT E TOUC H

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\\T H AT I S ER OTI CISM?

EROTIC TOUCH

\.Von1t11 tan enjoy high levels of arousal and achieve orga.s,,r tlirougl, ero1ic toud,.

WHAT IS EROTICISM?

ROTIC TOUCH I S W HeN he strokes her forefinger, shooting molten desire through every pore.

Erotic touch is when she casually grazes her lips across his until fire consumes his limbs. Eroticism always

takes you by surprise. Eroticism is the sum of sweet talk and seduction, the quivering

culmination of tease and tantalization. Eroticism is thought, innuendo} and finding out that your neuronsare

plugged directly into your lover's fingertips.

FOR HER PLEASURE W 11}ULING

Siar/ with 011e of the outer labia. Usi11g

HIS l\1ASSAGEt ANO TH E FOLl.0\\'ING ONE for rnen

( seepage 96), is based on techniques taught by Ray Stubbs, and also by graduatesof the Institute for

the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco.

Itis interesting to note that, while all of the strokes for men came with a title, none of the strokes for women had names, so I have christened them'

ASK H ER

ivl,e,r you are

111nst1ubr1ti11g >'""'

partner, ask her

which to11d1es sire preft.n

both your ha,uls "'tire Sd,,,e ti,,ie, gntly

pull 011 it, tl1e11 let go. just t1$ you ,uigltt

,lo ifthis u,ere>'Our bouo,11 lip.

CLITORA L MAN EUVERS

Extre,uely delicately, will, an af,,,os1 fearht'rlight touch attd usb1g ple11ty of lubrication,'""your finger first arou,rd tlu hMd a11,I then upn11d dowtt the sl,aft of her clitori:<.

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I N T l l AT E TOU C H

FOR HIS PLEASURE

H EN MASSAGI NG your man's genitals, remember that you are not trying to bring him to orgasm.

If it happens, it's a bonus for him, but if not, it really doesn't matter, because you will still have given him wonderful sensations. These are two of the more basic strokes I was originaUy taught, but there is nothing to stop you from inventing a few of your own, with a

little practice and imagination.

EXPLORE

Fotrdlirrg your partner 'sge11itals isn 11a11,ra/ progression from kissing and cuddling. Find

our wl,ich technique

he prefers.

THB LEMON SQUEEZER

Steady tirepe11i$ bygra$pit1g it around tire 111iddle witli one liatid. 111e11 rub the cupptd pal,,, of your otl1er luu1d arou11d tlle /read of tire

penis, as if)'OU ,vctt juicirrg n le,11011.

HAND OVER HAND

Slide,,,,,, t11pd l,and up over the

head of thepenis and down tl,e

sl,aft. Before it gets to the base, bring the other lwnd up to tl1t head once n,ore ro repeat the stroke.

S£ X t ASSAC E

SEX MASSAGE

Alwt1)'J i1td11de

tl1t' brro.sss i,r

a sex nmssagc

ALL-OVER AROUSAL

Useyour hands. lips. a,rd tire wann press of your

,vltolt body to electrify your partner 'sskiu before tt1()Vit1g IO gtt1itnl•

focused caresses.

NE OF THE TENETS OF A GOOO i ASSAGE is

that the masseur or masseuse should be completely trustworthy -that is, you could

trust him or her to refrain from becoming sexual. (Sensual is not sexual.) But when you massage with a lover, the rules change. Sexual massage then has the opportunity of becoming an art form, as it is

in the "Three-Handed Massage" techniques shown in this section. NaturaUy stimulating each other's genitals plays a large part in sexual massage, but

it's vital to remember that this only works well if you have paid attention to the

whole body first.

THREE-HANDED MASSAGE FOR HIM SETTING U P THE MASSAGE

American 1naster of n1assage Ray Stubbs \"3S the man responsible

for sensitively developing the ..Three-Handed Massage."His concept

\\•as to combine the relaxed sensuality of massage with the gentle touch of intcrcoul"$C. The ancient Chi11ese believed that the penis and vagina contain certain meridian (energy) points. Ray used this idea to bring to life internal aspects of body elec1ric.ity.

Take turn.s ,vith this next exercise. The person 1nassaged does not try to reciprocate simultaneously because their efforts

,viii detract from the inner c.al1n they

,night othen'lise achieve.

SENSUAL SLIDING

Slideyour welt-oiled lower body all o, r

)'011r parrntr's buttocks 1111d rhighs before entering her.

Give your partner 15 n1inutes or so of manual body massage, using the techniques sho,vn earlier. before

touching the genitals. Don't hurry.Take the strokes slow•ly and don't ai1n at org_asnl -for either of you. After this manual nlassage, ,nove on10 step 2.

Gi\'e your Jo,•er a back 1nass.ige and bring rour legs across her thighs so that )'Ou are her. f n order to have exceptionally

sn1ooth and slippery mobility,lavis.hly oil your o,,..n abdomen. genitals, and thighs.

Without interrupting your sensual massage

of her body,let )'Our well-oiled lower half glide back"•ard and fonvard O\'Cr her thighs and buttocks so tha1 )'Our genitals arc in contact ,.,,ith

her skin and. in effect, are also n1assaging her.

As you continue, let your penis find its slippery way bel\\'een her slightly parted legs and ,nake its o,\•n

cont.tel ,...-ith her vagin<'I .AIIO,\' yourself to penetrate her exceptionally slowly - and let your hands n1assage

at the $a111e time so that all the movcn1ents blend.

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I N TI M AT E TO U CH

THREE-HANDED MASSAGE FOR HER

111e 111ree-Handed Massage,"Orks just as wcU the other ,vay around, too -that is.\\*ith the won1an conducting the exercise.

The ,Y'Onderfu) thing about this technique is thaL it C."11'1 )'leld as n1uch pica.sure for thegiver as it does for the receiver.

How SHE CAN PLEASURE HIM

Sit astride your partner with your thighs across his abdomen. Begin by n1assaglng his upper body,and then lean back LO

1nassageas n1uch of his thighs as }"OU can reach. After doing this for IS minutes, lean over him and pro\'OCatively dra""your breasts o,rer hi.,; chest. l'noving thetn up and d0\"11and fron1

side to side. The ,noteoil you use.the 1nore me1norablethe

breast-to-breast move,nent \\ill be.

COMPLETE PLEASURE

11,ree-Hnuded Ma$$t1gc enables yo11 togi,'tyour part,ier afull ra11ge of wo11derful St'.111"tions.

S E X l ASSA G E

The next ,nove is to slide your pelvis slowly and ge,nly across his penis.

ShO\\' )'O\lr love b)'kissing and nuzzling hi1n as you do this. Once his penis stirsand con11nences to grO\\',\'Cf), very slowly slide

)'Ourself so that yot1 can let rour vagina gradually slip against his penis until you have

genital con1act \Vithout penetrat ion.Gently rub again.st his penis while continuing to ruas.sage\\•ith your hands in a OO\\'ing and sensuous 1noven1ent.

The secret of these special n1as.s. gcs is toslO\\'

e\'er)1hing do,"" one hundred-fold.

A1<n•e,-our hn11ds slqw/y a11d

pro•«arfrely 01-'t"r l1is lxNly

I NT l ?.{ ATE TO U C H

SELF-TOUCH

£ CANJT ALL BB LUCKY

enough to have someone sharing our lives and, in

any case, some of us prefer to live alone. This does not mean that we want to be starved of sensual

touch, nor that we lose our

sensuality or the wish to develop as sexual beings. In such circumstances, a

sensual self-touch routine can help us maintain our sexuality. Such a routine can also enhance a

sexual relationship.

LEARN TO ENJOY

}'()11 1t1ay so,,reti111es feel alone - even wlu'.11)'Oil

l1al't a parr,rer -bur J"'"

ca,1 c.o11nter this lot1ely

feeling by learning to

e11jcy ulf•toucl,.

SO MUCH TO FEEL

Do 1101 tttake the n,istake of thinking that self-touc/1 is all abo11t 1nasturba1io11: rhcrt nnso,na,ty different ted111iq11e..s a,rd areas

of yo ur bodyyou ca,1 enjqy. New,feel guilty aboutyour preferrt!d ki11d of to11cl1: self•

fulfi ll,nent is your gonl.

LOVING YOUR 600Y

Toerrjcy relf-toud1 to the ttJ/, ir is t'mnrial to bt ""'1iti-e nbout your bodJt

---------' N_T_,_.._A_T_E_._T_o_u_c_H ..,. ,;s;.;.,L;.;•:.1:•.o:.u C f-1 1:0R \\! 0 ?-1E N

SELF-TOUCH FOR WOMEN

HIS EROTIC SELF-TOUCH ROUTI N E is a particularl y enjoyable way of exploring your own body and getting to know and appreciate it. By giving

yourself such intimate and powerful sensations, you will be discoveri ng your own preferencesand

dislikes when it comes to sensual touch.

ARMS

1>ou r a little oil into the pahns of your ha1tds a1td coot your foreanns with it. \\fork it ,.,.ell into the skirt, using po\verful strokes, then Stroke your fore.anns gently and lovingly "'ith your fingers. No"' repeat the exercise on your tipper arms.

Try our difleret1r kinds of S-trokes 1111til you fi,id the ones>'"" like brst

SELF-APPRECIATION

l\'o nuuttr l1ow yo11 touch J'OttrsdJ. e11joy )'Ollr botl)' a11d trtat it witlr respec1.

FONDLING

YOUR

BREASTS

uperi,nent with

n ra,igeof di(frrc,11 strokes a11d,arrSS/!$ as

)'O tlftd )'OJI(

"'rrnsu.Anui:i11g

,<n1atio11scan be

c11jo,-ed.

BREASTS

\Vith \,'.lnn, \vell•oiled hands, fondle and caress your breasts and 1nO\'e then1in circles, paying atlention to the botto1n s and sides as \,•ell as to the tops and fronts.Then gentl)' k11ead and squee-1e.

then,, first 011e at a tirne and then both together.

Note which kind of touch feels best.

106 107

BELOW THE WAIST

Do not confine your self-1ouch to your breasts. You can awaken a rnngeof wonderful se11.sations by experimenting ,vith touch Orl different parts of your body,particularly below your ,vaist.

8l"TTOCKS

,11ilt lyiug on your front or side, srroke.your burrOt'ks

11,,)'Ollrfiug rtips and tire pa/r,,s of your hands, using

,-µ. circrilar. Slvirli,rg 11101--e,111e.11ts.

INSI DES OF TH IGHS

Aftet 1na.ssagi,,g >'Ottr buttOlh, roll t»'tf 011ro >'Ottr back and) lvirhou1 1011cl1ing )'OHr g11itals. ssroke and

/011dlt tire i,iside$ of yo11r thighs. Vary the prffiure and speed of the strokes asyou rr,11)'OUr l1a11ds upa,rd dowu.

OUTSIDES Of THIG HS

Slowly roll 01--er onto 011e side and

,11ake yourself ro111for1ablt.A1asstrgt tire.outsidt of yo11r upper,nosr thigh fro111 your b11tt<Xk down to )'OUr kntt Tlre.n roll onto your other sitlc a11d rfpcar 011 tile other 11,iglr.

108

CALVES

n )'Our back and ru11 your

Js up the backs and side1 of

,,cal1-'t'S. l411taing gently with fingt rs and tlru,nbs.\Vork tt,flyf ro111 rl,e.ankle.up to rt« a,rd back again.

GENITALS

Fi11all, close.yo11r eyes and begiu 1'> lol1ingly caress a11d fottrll your genital!. Slowly explore tl1ttn witlt your fingers, srarti11g witlr rite labia and l'agitta nnd theu 111oving 011 10 srinu,Iart yo11r clitoris.

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1N T l,\1AT£ TOU C H SE L F TOU C I I PO R M E N

SELF-TOUCH FOR MEN

THE CHEST AND N IPPLES

OR TH IS ROUTIN B) arrange to have at least an hour of uninterrupted privacy. Begin by giving yourself a warm bath or shower; a bath is preferable,since

it is n1ore relaxing. 'fhen move to a ,varm roon1) take the telephone off the hook,and lock the door.

THE HANDS AND ARMS

Bt-gin by maS$i1ging a liule ,varrned oil (ro1n one hand to the other. Next, ,nassage the back of each hand, then 1nove on to your arn\s. Use po,\•erful strokesup and do,.,n each arn1, then squeeze the arn1 by the ,.,.rist and push your hand up to the elbo,.,.. Folio"'these firrn st rokes ,vi1h n1ore gentle touchi11g.

Fit1islr by ro11d1it1g,md

HfDki1tg )'Ollrstlf lovingly

JJ O

Apply the 1nassage oil "'ith both hands and n1ovc them in circles all over your chest except on the nipples, coverir1g a s,nall area at a ti,ne.Then

apply a linle fresh oil 10 each of vour nipples, and gently stroke, squeeie. and (ondle 1hen1 to find out ,vhat it (eels like.The nipples are a ver>'sensitive part of the bod)' and you might find touching 1he1n highl)' ero1ic.

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CHANG I NG STROKES

Grade tire strokes n,rd circles yo11 11111.kt 011your cl1n1, 1renti11g yo11r nipples ,11ort st11sitiwly.

RELAX AN D ENJOY

Tl,e u1ore)'Oil cau rtlnx and clear yo11f 111i11d, tlrt 1nore

1-011 wilt bt able to

conceutratt 011 and

e,ijoy tilefeel of)'Ollf

self to11d1.

BELOW THE WAIST

hui,nate self•touch "•orks on all pans of the body, not just the torso. There are areas belo,v the ,"3ist that ,,•ill respond to sensitive touch and provide a

range of ,vondcrful feelings.

TH E A BDOMEN

Oil your ha11ds and ,1101-e tl1t111 firmly irr short, circular strokes over your abdo,11e11, repeatedly u•orking do,vufro,,,yo11r wai.sr toyour groin

a,rd back. Usea cott1binatio11 of

fi,,,,ond light stroke,,

THE TH IGHS

Stroke repeatedly up your rl,ighs fro,,, your k11tes toyo1,r genitals. covering both tire outsides and tire insides of your legs lVith fin11

111orio11s.Do 1101 be re,11pted to 1011clr

yo1,r genitals ar this srage.

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TH E LOWER LEG

'lrokttacit leg in ,,,,,,, worki11g 1Tptatedlyfro,,, the ankle up to rite 11te and back agai11, being tartful 1101

1ab the s....,sitfre back of tl,e k11't.t.

--u nzay find tl,at >'011r a11kle.lxu1e osurprisingly erotic area.

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TH E PEN IS

Ooseyour eye$ a11d begi11 toligluly strokeyour pe11is, b111 not as )'011 would d11ri11g 111as11,rba1iot1. Take

)'Ottr ti,t1t asyo11 ex ri,nerit, ,roting the 10:11,re of )'Ollrpenis and how

it feel$ to yrn,r hand.

PROLO NGING THE PLEASURE

Take time over your lovemaking - learn to prolong the experience and enjoy it to the full. The Taoist and Tantric masters of ancient China

and Jndia believed that ou r bodies are steeped in a rich and infinite source of energy that finds its greatest expression i n prolonged lovemaking.

They taught that the release of sexual energy should be a gradual process, lead ing to sexual satisfaction and complete self-fulfillmenl.

P RO LONGING TH £ PL£ A S UR E A N ECSTAT IC UNION

AN ECSTATIC UNION

O ACHIEVE TRUE SEXUAL ECSTASY, you have to be

completely at one with your partner. Spe?d time exploring and enjoying each other; revel m your

nakedness; kiss, touch, and caress the whole of your partner'sbody; feel the electrifying energy that engulfs your bodies. Buildi ng this powerful union of bodies and minds before you begin full intercourse, will bring you to

TUNING INTO YOUR PARTNER

Thisancient Chinese visualization technique helps lOYcrs unite sexual energy.

Picture )'Our lover's naked body.lmaginc tiny tongues of flame erupting from every pore.

The skin is bathed in a hovering haze of fire that

soon b«omcs transparen t,likea sun1n1er haze. BECOMI NG ONE

By taki11g tire ti,,,e to

extremes of intimacy and pleasure.

PREPARING FOR LOVE

11'lere a.re several ,va)'Sto lead into and prolong the pleasure of lovemaking. 'fhis chapter explores the sin1ple pleasures of kissing and forepla)', and reveals someof the ancient Eastern sexual secrets that ,vill enable you and your lover to build your energy Je..,els

10a peak,and enjoy heigh1enedsexual pleasure.

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Place your hand above your lovers' skin. The tiny,invisible flan1es aresucked intoyour

hands, they Ricker up your arn1sand out along your shoulders. Soon your entire skin is burning invisibly,as is )'Our lover's-)'OU are linked by a picture of aconsun1ing.yet head fire.

tu11e i11to each otlter,

)'Oil and yo11r partner will enjoy a 1r,,ly i11tir11ate arrd special lovemakitrg experience.

P ROLONG I N C THE P LEA S UR E

KISSIN G

Kiss CAN ue many different things - a greeting, an expression of love, or an essential part of foreplay and lovemaking in general. Since the

lips and tongue arc among the most sensitive parts of rhe body,gentle, tender kissing and deep kissing alike can be as erotic as sex itself. Never underestimate the

power and importance of the kiss in your lovemak i ng.

I NT1f,.1ACY

Kiuiug nr rhe heislir of lovt,11aki11g is i,uiuwre and urovi,rg, It is as pri ntt n11d tptrittl as a11y otl,tr asp«r of sex.

Kiss ,vlTli

CONFIDENCE

Skillful ki1.siug will t11lia11cc your own e111otio11nl stt1tc and build your pa1111tr's co11fide11ce and

excireu1t11t

Ie,'CIS.. too.

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SENSUA L FOREPLAY

0 A\VAKEN SEXUAL 1)£$1RE GRADUALLY ies essentia) that you don't rush into intercourse. Sensual foreplay techniques - from tantalizing touch to

TA KE YOUR Tl1E

Arouse )'Ottr lover by txplori,ig et-try in(h of Jier bo<ly. and discover tire touclies, kisses, nttd

gi•c the

soft kisses and caresses -will start to arouse your partner gently. Use your hands, lips, and tongue to explore and enjoy every inch of your lover'sbody and discover the most erogenous zones.

Slowly h"Orkdowr1 your lo.'tl''sbody wirl1 kiSS(j

,11,d (tlftsm

(dfe.$$ts 1ha1

,uost pleasure.

TANTALIZING TOUCH

PROLO NG I NG T H E P L E A SU R E

TH E S F.TS OF N I N e

THE SETS OF N INE

OOT REFLEXOlOGISTS OEU EVE that by applying stimulation to nerve endings in the foot, they can energize related organs. There are similar nerve

endings -or reflexology zones - in the penis and vagina. The "Sets of Nine" (seepage J 25) is a Taoist exercise designed to massage these genital reflexology zones evenly and thus benefit the rest of the body.

The body parts affected -the "Seven Glands"- are the pineal, the pituitary,the thyroid, the

thymus, the pancreas, the adrenal glands, and the sexual glands (prostate and

testes in the man and ovaries in the female).

011fy squ«ugent/)\or II 111ay eja 11/are Ix/ore con1plcti11g tJ,e Stzs of Ni11t

8\• raking your "-right 011 yo11r

1n11s.)'Oil ca,i

'"'urol rlirusti,rs

iort tffcrthTly

INTERNAL MASSAGE

The folds or the vaginal canal and the uneven shape of the penis n1ake it diffict1lt to evenly massage the penis or vagina during regular intercourse. The Set.S of Ni11e exerdse -one complete Set of Nine being a total of 90 strokes

- ain1S to put this right

Serious students should aim at 1nore tha 1\ one set, although it can take a lot of practice 10 n1aster the technique without ejaculatiog.

"INJACULATION "

TI,e T1. oist technique of"injaculation" using the Jen-Mo point (,..,page 137)can be used in conjunction ,vi1h the Se1s of Nine, both for its beneficial effec1on the n1an's health and for its usefu lness in helping hi1n to prolong intercourse.

INTERNA L MASSAGE

71,e Sets of Niue are lwlie,•td by so,,,e 10 gh-e e11e.rgy tlrrougli internal n1assage

to tlit: l'agi,ra a,ul penis.

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P R OLO N G I NG T H £ P L E AS U R E TH E SETS OF N I N E

CARRYING OUT THE SETS OF NINE

It's important 10 understand that 1his is not intercourse for pleasure alone.The activity may feel arousing, but the principle here is that you are taking a preventative he.alth n1easure ,vith the result that the "Seven Glands"are energized ( see prev;ous pnge).

Perhaps the most ln1portant prelin1inary for a long lovemaking session is that you should fee) comfortable ,vhile doing it.•ro this

end, decide on the most easeful place and ensure there "•ill be no interruptions.Take the phone off the hook, lock the door,and ensure that anything you may need is'"ithin reach.

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P ROLONGI NG T HI! P L EA S URE 0 £ ER EX ERC IS E FOR H E R

DEER EXERCISE FOR HER

NCIENT CHINESE PH ILOSOPH ERS perceived that the deer,noted for its strong reproductive activities, exercised itsanus when it wiggled its tail. They

developed a"tail-wiggling" concept, to increase sexual arousal in men and women, and called it the Deer Exercise. Women can also adapt this technique by exercising their pelvic

floor muscles, which in turn evokes erotic feelings.

GETTING PREPARED

To prepare for the Deer Exercise.sit cross•lcggcd on the bed, get :is comfortable aspossible,and focus your n1ind. Make sure that )'OUT hands are,,-ell \'la.rnlOO.

PERFECT SELF-TOUCH

Self to11tlr should be e11joytd as ro111ple1dy a11d i11 ,1s g11ilr-free a n1a,i,1tr as p0$Sible.\Vhe,i it isdone ro11fidcntly, with total relnxatio11 i,r t11i,rd, it 1111 yield pleasure.s asgreal as rl,ose r/,ar

<a11 bt enjoyed i,1 IO'Vf ,uaki,ig wit/, a1101lier perso11.

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BREAST MASSAGE

Beg.in your sexual arousal with slow, sensual breast massage. Stroke )'Our breasts slowly ,vith circular movements.The n1oven1ent is counterdock,,•ise on the right breast, dock,vise on the left. Mas.sage your breas1S this ,vay at least 36 tirnes and at n1ost 360in the 1norningand again in the evening.

R11,r yo11rfinge.rs smoolltly u11,tu rhe: run-e of J'Ollrbrmsrs

CONCENTRATE ON TM£ FEELING

As you s1roke a11t1 ,naMage )-Ollr brra.sts,feel 1hc-ir rontours and focus hard on tlte:ir tex11,re<111d u1ass.

D E E R e x eR CI SE FO R H E R

VAGINAL PRESSU RE

Sit cross legged'"ith the heel orone foot pre$$ed up against your vaginal enttance. If this is difficuh, place a s1nall ball bet'.\'een )'Our foot and vagina. The pre.ssure fron1heel or ball stiinulates sexual feelings

a11d releases sexu.-.1 energy.

HUMAN oeeR

\Ve'""Y no1 have tails towigglt,

but sti,,utlating the 1111,scles

in the aria/ and t'agi11al areas

}uu the sa,,ic tff«t.

Prw )'Ollf linl ngainst

J'OUr ntginlll opt11it1g

ALL OVF.R PLEASURE

As you co111raet yo11r vagina and a,rus.)'O" should rxperft1ttt a deep

and satisfyirrg fa ling tral'tlit1g up through

)'Ollr spint, right

toyour ears.

DRAWI NG UP ENERGY

1assage each breast in turn w•ith one hand, using the other hand to press your vaginal opening.

Contract the muscles in your vagina and anus as i (

)'OU \\•ere trying to control your flo,\• of urine, then focus hard on contracting the anus further.Hold, then relax. and repeat 20 times.To check that you arc doing it properly,insert a finger into the vagina to seei(you c:an grip it, or at least tighten on it.

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P ROLONGI NG T HI:! P L E A SUR E

DEER EXERCISE FOR HIM

HE DEER EXERCISE works just as effectively for men as it does for women,and - at least

according to the Taoists -offers the added bonus of i ncreasing the production of semen. Whether this is the case or not, the exercise is alwayssoothing and relaxing.

fACIUTATING SEMEN PRODUCTION

Sitting cross-legged, cup your te.stide.s gently in one hand and place the fial of the other hand on your abdon1en,just belo,,• the na\'cl. Usinga circular n1otion, 1naSS,1ge 1heleft side of )'OUT abdomen 8 l tirnes,and then repeat on the right side.The pressure exerted on both your tcs1idcs and your abdon1cn should not be too great. Make stare you are co1nfor1able with both the handling and the 1nass.1.ging.

WA RM H A NDS

Tl,e D«r f-'<ercise i,woll'N stlf-11,assage so. l,eforcyou bt-.gi,i, it's a good itle" 10 n1akc s1,rt tl,at yoi,r '1a11ds are war,,,.eirhtr by rubbing tlie111 vigorowi.Jy together or by wrulii,rg rlre,11 in hot wa.ter.

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MUSCLE TENSION

11,is exerciu wcrks bt•cttuse 1/Je pref.sure o/ 11uusage 011 your sto111acl1 i111pacts 011 yo11r l4!1tides.

Uu: a circular

,notion to ,11as.sage

)'OUr abdo,,rr,i

_.s---- Cron)'Ourlegs

and get coniforta/)le

bt:fore )'011btgi11

DE E R E X E R C I S E FOR H I M

GR..I P ANO H OJ.0

Sq11etze rht ar1al ,111ddts rogerl1(r and l1old rl,e 1111,sc11lar u,11tra<tio11for ,u long as you cnn wirl1011t ,Jisco,,iforr.

You will ftd a brief ringling s.e11st1rion dow11 your ar,n

S11pporr >'Ouru/f

,rrly on rour arm or lie do,vn if)'Oii prt/(r

PROSTATE MASSAGE

This s.in1ple and di.scrttl 1e<hnique txcrcises the anal muscles \'+-hich in tum mass;ige the prostate gland.

Squ«ze the anal muscles together and hold as tightlyas)'OU comfonablycan. Rdax for a n1inutt,then repeat. Do this as niany 1in1e$ as )'OU can ,vithout di.scomfott. You on do this an)"'hcre,b(, it in the privacy of the bath or ,,•alking in the country.T:,1oi.sc: teachers say that anal contrac1ions.which stimulate the

pl0$latc gland, produa enhanced hormonal s«r<tion and a natural high.

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S1T OR STANO?

}'c,i, an bcnfi,J'OHr

pt'Offttrr gland witlr rtg11ktr anal ro11rraaion in any pMitUJn a,id ar any rimr.

PR OI.O NG I NG T f-1 6 P L E AS U R E N I N E L E V E LS O P O R G AS M

N INE LEVELS OF ORGASM

E IGNORANT WESTERNERS have little understanding of the quality of a woman's orgasm. Even though

THE N IN E LEVELS

Each le'V'cl of org3s1n t11ergi:t.csc(.'rtain pans of 1hc bod)' :ind t'\'Okcs c"•rtain observable nnd prcdic1,1blc responses in thewornan .

clinical observation sho,vs that ,vomen experience climaxes consisting of many differing lengths and strengths, i n a variety of body sites, somehow this has taken its time to mter through to the ordinary man and woman in bed.

OPENING U P MA K E li l!R liAPPY

Conrc,11ra1e ou givi,rg

• Lt"-el Oue(111,g, s): 1he wonw11 sigl,s, breathes deeply, a11d !<llfrares.

• lei/ n,•o (l,earl): while k;.ssing tlte u,a,,,she extends lrer to11g11e out to l,i,,,.

• Lcn•l Three (splc.:11,pancreas.

• U1er/ Six (livrrand nerves): she 1utd11lates like a snake, trying to 1w-ap lier anus and legs around l,i,11.

• Lc'c!I Seve,i (blOOfl): her blood is ''boiling" and she is fra 11rically tryi11g to 1011ch lu•r

Ancient Tao sexology

describe$ a ,\•01nan's orgas1ns as a series oi upwardly rising steps followed byone declining step.These

steps actually flo,.,. together,

each step overlapping a1\d

building on 1heprevious one.

hrr thr lx'1t orgasm

s14,,,1arh):as hfr ,,,ustlrs btw,uc

ar,fra1ed, .slie grasps hi,11 rightly.

+ u •d Four (kidneys a11d

bladder): she experiences a series

of 'tlginal spas,ns at tlris ti,11e and

s«r,•1ions begin toflow.

• U'Vtl Fi-c? (bone): herjoi11t1

loosenand she bites lier partner.

uw11 evr.ry,,•lrere.

• levrl Eiglrt (,1111scles): lier

,,,111</es a,n,ple1dy rtltlX.

Slit bitts even ,uore and grabs fra,uirolly tit J,jj nipples.

• Lc1-e/ Niue(entire body): sht rollaps,•s in a ..little deatl,," s11rre11dcri11g 10 her partner.

EX PERI ENCING N EW LEV ELS OF PLEASURE

i\1ost U'i!ster11 wo1ne11 will ha1'eexperit11r-,..d thf firss four

/e,'f'ls.but to rear/, the heiglirs of tht rr,uaini,rg fn 't,the ,11a11

,,rust ro11ti1111e 10 s1i11u1la1el,isJ'(lfhlt.'1when sire l1as ret,cl,ed or-gas,,,:he M1011ld ,rot stop.

MAKING LOVE LAST LONGER

HE TAOIST 6£LJEF is that prolonged intercourse is desirable because it ensures that the sexual batteries are recharged . But sometimes the sheer

excitement of all that wonderful feeling coursing through the body, as every inch of you touches and rubs against every inch of your partner, proves too much. Regardless of your desires or of your "higher" feelings,a sensational sex session comes to an end for perfectly delightful reasons.This is why the Taoists invented the

Jen -Mo exercise -a method by which the man delayshis orgasm by "injaculat ing" his semen.

CoNTINUING BLISS

The Jen•Mo rtth,1ique ennbld )'OU to ,un.k.e the heighu of lo•, makit1g last as long aspossible.

THE JEN-MO POINT TECHNIQUE

The Jen-Mo point technique involves putting pressure on a sensitivespot located bet,vttn the anus and the scrotum at the very moment orgasm approaches.

Pressing the Jen-1o point is easy. Sin1ply reach out behind you at the appropriate moment, and press so that the sen1inal fluid is not allowed 10 travel througlt the urethra. You ,nay like to practice this in private first. The pressure should neither too firm nor too soft. I(you apply the

pressure too close 10 the anus. the move ,,•on't '"°rk. If you press too close to the scrotu1n, the semen ,viii go into the bladder rather than the bloodstream and make your urine cloudy when )'OU urinate.

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PROLONGI NG T H E P LEA S UR £ M A K ING LOV I!. LA ST LONG ER

DON'T HOLD ON Too LONG

Despite the ancient belief that the expulsion of bodil)'fluids rcsuhs in a Joss of energ)', I happen to belic\'C that constantly building up sexual tension and then giving it nowhere to go is b.1d for )'Ou. In 1ny vie'"•scx.uaJ tension an1oun1s 10 bodily energy, and energy needs a point of dispersal. So never go 01\ for too long,and do allo,\• yourself to di1nax in the end.Apnrt fron1preven ting your ow1\ co1nple1e satisfaction, choosing not to cj.act1la1c could offend your partner,

'"ho 1nigl11 vie,\• it as an act of v..ithholding. Creating relationship problen1s is not part of sexual enjoyrnent.

HELP 1R0"-1 YOUR PARTNER

8y using tht squttze r«l111iq11e

(set opposite),your p(lrt11er

'""lielp rode.lay )'Our

org,uu, a11d prolong

tire pltas11re for botI, of you.

MAINTAINING AN ERECTION

Techniques to delay ejacufation, such as the squeeze technique {see bclo,v), 1nay re.suit in you losing your erection for a short ti1ne. However,so1ne spttial sti1nulation -ideall)• fron\ your partner - ,viii allo,v )'OU to regain rour crec1ion and con1inue ,vith the prOCC$S of energizing and lovcrnaking.

TH£

SQUSSZ£

To prevent ejaculatio11, press with your 1/111111b j11s1 beneatl1 thtglans.

PROLO N G I NG T H E P L E ASU R E E N E R G Y FO R A DAY

ENERGY FOR A DAY FIRST STAGE

After eating a light breakfast and

E A RE POOR AT TAK ING T 1E OFF to nourish our

bodies. And yet, all of us have a need to do this regularly.The following is a touch program for

one day only which,when practiced once a week or so, will rejuvenate you and give you greater peace of mind.

WAK I NG UP

Take your time over v;ak.ing. Snugg.]c, spoons•fashion, for 3t least 15 n1inutes. Revel i11the se11se a11d s1nell of each other. Jf you norn'l<'lli)' leap out of bed first thing

and thro,\• b.1ck the

drapes., don)I.

visiting the bathroom, sit opposite e.1ch other,dose together. Lightly stroke each other) with a circling action.Avoid the breasts a11d genitals and spend a, leas, 15 n1inutcs on caressing. Take a brief break, then repe-11 for another l 5 n1inutcs.After completing this firs1 stage, lie quietly together in the spoons position, enjoyin.g each other's closeness. Listen for each other's heartbeat.

S.nttggk "*

/ rogetl,ui" rh,

FEEL THE CLOSENESS

Do,r'tj11.st sit dos.e 1ogtt'1er - get close togethc-r -by conunrrating your 1t1i,rd$ and e,rjoyi11g eaclt otlrer's prese,ru.

(;) ,p0-0,.,po,irio"

L•E QU I ETLY

Gfreyour$el1,'Cf 1i,11e ro rel.ax properly and gi, ;:011r bodie$ a break. lie q11ietly togetherand $/n'Or the 1t10,ne11t.

P ROLO N G I NG T H E. P L EASU R E E N E R G Y PO R A D A Y

SECOND STAGE

Sil oppositeeach other again and stroke once n,ore, only this tin1e include the breasts.Contintic 10 Jea,•e the genitals out.Then rest again.

PLEASURE FOR H IM

A """''s<lrt-"St a,rd nipples will respo,rd arousi11gly to ,,,a,,11al

""''oml sri,1111lat io11.

SKI LLFU L

HANOI.I NG

Vary 1Jicpare a11d

pressur, of your stroki11g togi >'""'

pnrt,ier a truly

,,,e,11ort1blc bn•,u1

,,rnSS(lge.

Drt1w J'OUr fi,r r1ips

slowlJ• tlow11 a11tl

,0111111l,is,J1es1

PROLO NG I NG T H E P L E AS U R E E N E R G Y FO R A DAY

RAISE TH E STAKES

Brittg tile nuwage to its 11at11ral c.lin1ax byr,1ovi11gyour l,a,idsgently

a,id tantalizingly to the ge11iral.s, 11sit1g light, li11gering

strokes ot1 a11d aro1111d the,,,.

FINAL STAGE

Massageagain) on this occasion spending a1 least an hour on genital stroking. Then take a f'ivc-minute break. No,v lie n1otionless. with

her on top and your penis in her vagina until your erection subsides. Then rest in the spoons position again.

Repeat the last stage, only,Oil this occasion, take it to its ultimate conclusion, reveling in the pleasures of nn1tual orgas,n.

Done at a relaxed pace,the program can last 1heday.You may

,.,.ant to include a light lunch some,..,here in the proceedings. And i( you find part of the afternoon is free,go for a ,,r.i.lk 1ogethcr. But stay apart from the rest of the \"Orld until the evening, relishing your closeness and the intifnacy of ,vhat you have experienc<".CI.

S EX U A L POS I TI O NS

MAKING LOVE

H ERE ARE LOVEMAK I NG POSITIONS which

genera1e so much skin electricity that you end up giving off great clouds of energy in the form of

heat. Some of the most exhilarating lovemaking sessions are those where fiery body meets fiery body, transforming lovers into incandescent meteors, crashing toward the shock of cosmic explosion.

M A K I NG t.O V E

ENJOY YOURSELVES

rf you have by now experin1en1ed ,..,ith massage and other foreplay techniques, you may choose to incorpora1e some of 1hesc activities in the sex position suggestions that appearon the foUo,ving pag. Bui there are no rules to sex. It isah,•ays up toyou,the individual, ,vhat you choose todo. Never feel

constrained to act out something sexual because

)'OU think you "ought"

CHOOSE WISELY

Of course, inorder to reach these height.S, you need to be fit. Energy conse.rvation is the opposite of energy generation. and older people, or less fit lovers, must make energy conservation a priority. Accordingly, this section. describes methods that generate maximu1n energy as,,•ell as love positions that conserve energy.

_,. 1hrusting

"'"bring «stfJSy

• )'Our parr,,tr

Enjoy yourstl/. bul considtr ,-01,r

pfJrt,itr's n«ds

BE REALISTI C

Do what ,--ou at11 enjoy in comfort - don't try to bt a

sexual s11perl11111ta11.

SE X UA L POSIT IONS

WOMAN ON TOP

KI N UPON SKIN creates sensations of wallowin g i n sensuality; some of the very best lovemaking can be achieved when

one's full body is pressed against the other. But as a lead-in to such all-immersion scenarios, here arc some of the more athletic love posit ions

in which she builds up body tension.

Posit ions that are especially effective are those where tension is

centered around the pelvis

and gained through tantalizing each other in upright sex maneuvers.

BASIC POSI'rlON

Tl,is s1raigl,tf<>rwrud wo,nan-011- top positio,i is grM t for detp 1l1ri,sti1'g at1d buildi11g te,rsU,,,,

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\\'O M A N ON TOP

THE HORSE OF HECTOR

,,, 1/Jis wo,,uu1-011-1op position, her kttm are plactd rod, side of 1,;,,,, She sits upd11ri,ig pcnetratiou nud then len,rs back. 11si11g lzis raised k,r«sfor support. Thisposition is t!X(e/le111 for ,lrtp penetrntion.

J\1aximiu ro11tact by strok;,rg n11d l1oltli11g liim

S £ X U A L PO SI T IO N S

THE LYONS

STAGECOACH

111 rJ,is posirion , sht sirs on J,er parr,itr 's pt,iis witlt Jrer legs urn11rd (or

even over) liis

$l1oulders while

leflning bfl(k 011

Jrer hands.

LOVING CONTACT

Lying pro11t or1 top of hin1 allows you to ust your e11tirt body to sliow J1i,,r your love

and affee1io11.

\\'O M AN ON TO P

PLEASURING YOUR PART NER

Using your hands, lips.hair,and breasts can arouse an explosion of sensations in your man \vhich ,\•iU affect fur more than his genital area. The beauty of wo,nan-on-top positions is that they allo,v >'OU to exert such positivecontrol over your partner -a control that can gi"e you an intense thrill while pleasuring him to the utmost.

Prts.syour

t-Tco.tlS againJt

hd <1,a1 Tell your

S E X U A L POS I TI O N S

TAKING THE LEAD

The rhyth1n of sexual intercourse gathers nC'\v s.h:,pc ,vhen a wo1nan takes o,er. Not only can you better ensure your o,vn sti1nulat ion, but you can also allOh'lo\'cmaking to 1ake on ne,"' directions. 011e ,....ay in

\\•hich you can tease rout n1a11is to pro1nise intercourse. but then

,,,ithhold it up until the very last n101nent,drav,ing a,\•ay frosn hi111 even as you allow the head of his penis 10 slip inside.

\"11,ere your O\Vn croticis1n is conctnted) the \\'Ontanon•tOp position allo,\'S )'OUT clitoris to gt't the atten1ion it deset\'CS through the subtle con1ro1 of wcll positioned thtustil\g.

\\'OM A N O N TOP

BEING I N CONTROL

Enjoy the experience of ge11rly do,,ii,uttit1g your pal'tll ff. to111rolli11g tltt pa« of pr0<«di11gs, a11d i11trod11cittg 11ew vnl'ia1ions

,u )'iJ" ride l,i,11.

- / A tlominat1t body p(Hitiot1 is

/ p(lwc,ful a,ul ,uousi11g

lloldi11g tlow,1his lla,rds 111ah!s him feel submissive

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S.£ X UA L POS I TI O NS

UPRIGHT FROM BEH IND

111 this vmionof tht back-to• front, l,'Ol11tl'1•0n•top position, it is easy to rend,dowrr and fondle his testicles..

St'roke her ditoris as)'OU thrust

\v'Ot A N ON TOP

BACK TO FRONT

\+\101nan-on•top positions afford \'IOnderful versatility for both partners -there

arc so many variations.One hig.hly

erotic a1\d no,•el alternative is the back-to-fron t variety,

,\•hich enablesdeep

penetration and easy

a. CCC$$ to her clitoris.

RIDE A COCK HORSE

Si,ik dow,1 deep ontoyo11r partner'sµ11is. 111tl,ling your buttocks witl, J,is scomad,.Le,a,1 back agai11st hi,11for support.

S EX U A L POS I TI O N S

MAN ON TOP

H E GREAT Al)VA N"rAGE of the missionary posit ion is that it aJIO\VS n1en and \V0111en to get

about sclose as is possible. Body proximity is one of several factors in arousing energy under the skin. But the other beauty of this face-to-face love position is that it allowsyou

to sho,v love and affection during intercourse.

My own theory is that the lips contain a few energy meridians too, and that the more you kiss, the more electricity

flowsbetween you. .;;::,..---

M A N O N TO P

TAK ING TH E STRAI N

hi aface-to-f ace posi1io11 sucli tU the 111issiouary, your full weight bears dow11 011 ,'()11r parrntr. J\/akc sure )'OU re,luce the pressure 011 her by l1oldi11g

)'Ourself up t,s 11111,Ji as p(>$Sible with)'Ollf (lfl/lS .

SE X U A L POSI T IO NS

FUN TIME

So,11t of ,ht ,,,ost /1111

in loi•t1t1aking co111es

whe,i "'" roll aro11,rd like puppies. letti,rg wild 111oi•eu1ents take you fill Ovtr tht btd.

M A N O N TO P

VARIATIONS ON A THEME

One of the joysof the man-on-top positions is the nu1nber of

\lariations it offers. l\1ost of these involve the ,,•oman altering the position of her legs -for exan1ple, she might put then, straight out in front of her so that her man is aln1ost trapped ben..-een her

legs, creating greater friction. But she 1nay also \\'rap her legs around her lover's bod)', or dra,\' her feet up toward her chest, enabling him to penetrate her dtepl)•,

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S E X U-A L POS I TI O N S

t A N ON TO P

SHOWING AFFECTION

Perhaps the greatest advantage of face-to-face positions Like this..

,vhet.her n1an on top or V'()n1an on top, is that they allo,11 you to be affect ionate to each other. E>re-10-cyc contact, kissing, nuzz.ling, and whispering S\vcct nothings are aJI so much easier face•to-face!

Pu/l 1iim 10, rd

t"Oua.s "O., rarst

CA RESS \V I TH \\'OROS

Sweet, wan11 talk 111ea11s so

TEASE ANO

TEMPT

"011r hip.s 111uch 10 a part11er ar the

heigltt of

lo •e1ut1.J.:ing.

•

As well a.s being r,ff«rio11ate, in a

face-to-faceposition, you can excite ,virl, suggestive re,narks and rxpressio11s.

J'}rru.st d«ply against

htr Mi.std pelvi.s

I A O N TO P

CARF. AND

CONSI OERATJON

Thewon,a,r is very vulnerablei,i this position.The

,nn,r sho11ld bt

ge.,rtle and

careful.

Push hu legs back asfar as tl1ty will go UJrnfortably

DEEP PENETRATION

For a 1nan-on-top posi1ion that enables really deep penetration, you shouJd lie on your back and bring your knee right up to,vard your chin, so that \Vhen he enters )'OU, your fttt areat each side of his head.\Vhen you are using this position, which isadvisable only if you arc rea.Uy suppleand fit and not prone to back problen1s,he

should be careful not to hurt you and a little cautious in his thrusting, because of the deep penetration possible.With care, deep thrusting can be intensely erotic and exciting.

BUILD ON TH E

EXPERIENCE

In this posirion you (tlfl increyour pnrtntr's pleasure by strokitrg a11d

,,rasMgi,rg tire backs of lier tl1igli1,, her vulva, and lier clitotis, nil of whit/, are easily accessible whe11 her legs art tlrrow11 back sofar.

S EX U A L POS I TI O N S

SIDE BY SIDE

EXUAL INTERCOURSE EX PENDS ENERGY . A great

deal of strength is used by the person on top.

Couples can conserve energy by adop1ing a more restful approach. Lying side by side while

lovemaking is normally energy-conserving and gentle. Try lying face-to-face, in the spoons position, or spread out in the scissors position . One of the other advantages

of side-by-side lovemaking posit ions is that it is possible to use strong thigh friction to give both the penis and

the vagina extra stimulation .

SI D E 8 \' S I D E

EASY DOES IT

Side•by•side positions areperf«r for slon; sens.14ous lo•t111a.ki11g.

SEX U A L P OS lT J O NS Sl 0£ B Y Sl D I!.

LOVING SIDE BY SIDE

Lo\•emaking side by side offers tren1endous scope for variet)'• There isa sort of",,•eighdessncss" to the positions, because rou are never pinntd beneath your partner "'hen lying in this "•'.ty. By repositioning your legs frequently,you can change the angle and depth of penetration at ,..,ill, \..,h ile enjoying the intimacy of fuU face-to-face: contact.

CHANGE TH E PACE

Tr is ttl$Yfor tht ma11 to control ,ht dtprh, speed, and frtq11errcy of his thrusting in n1cnt sidt•by•s'dt positions,bt<.a11se he isfully supporred 011 one side.

Alassagt your part,ttr's b11trocks with your fr'et J1tu1d asyou n10

back and forth _ ;._.. :_ _

Lovi11gly caress the "'1k of his nttk

$ATISFACTJON GUARANTEED

lovt111a.kit1g side by side isduply i,ui,,iate and/11/jilling because it tttabla

/act-to•fac eproxin,ity without tire pressure of 011e body on top of a,,otlttr.

S E X U A L P OS IT I O NS

TENDER LOVING

Make the ,nost of the closeness of side-by-side positions. Tell

)'Our partner hO\\' you feel, ho,\• much you care, and exact l)'

what you are experiencing as rou rnake love. lntin1ate interaction of this kind "'ill jo in rou e1notionally and add po,\•crfully to

the eroticism or the experience.

S I DE BY S I DE

KISSES AN D CARESSES

Tire experienceof side-by-side

lo,-e,11aking ca11 be ridtly cnhn,rctd by 1l1c 11u111y opportu11ilies it offers for kissi11g and,,ut.ssing,

Stt'Oke a,id caress his anus[()1'

Grip him tightly witl1 ycur 11,iglufor fxtra stimulntiot1

TALK ABOUTIT

Take adva11tngt of the i11ti111acy of this positio,,by tt'lliug tac/, other whnt you nrtfeeling as yoi, nu1.kt lo,Y.

S EX U A L POSJ TION S

SITTING POSITIONS

LTHOVG H SI TTING POSITIONS do not provide the fastest means of achieving orgasm, like side-by side positions they promote intimacy and

closeness because of their symmetrical, face-to-face nature. Neither partner is required to take the dominant role, and there are plenty of variations on the theme to keep things fun and interesting.

LEANING APART

By lea11i11g back and taking the weight°" yo 11r hands, you t'4r

,novt ,nore: f.O.Sil):

SITTING

ASTRI DE

111 this position,

)'Oil can press tire: whole: of your uppe.r body agai,ut

)'Qllr panner.

SEATED POSITIONS

The delight of fooling around erotically \\1hi1e seated 1neans that he can increase sensation for her by stroking

her genitals \,rith his fingenips, while

she encloses his penis.

1- VmpJ'Ollr legs

sed11trill'(ly owr l1is - --

SEATED

SIOE\\!'AYS-ON I

If slit turns sideways.

he willfi,ul il easy to Jti1n11la1e her genitals witli

se,1$itivefi11gm. ._

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SEATED FACE-TO-FACE

/( )'Oll are supple, )'OU "" ,nakt this J,igJ,ly eroticposition part of a i<lJrtettce:f,o,,,sit1it1g. J'Ou can "10l't' toa standing position, a11d rift1110 a k11uli11g positio11 .Finish "a'1UUl•O,, topposirio11.

SEATED FACING A\\'AY

The 111ai1 carr't 11101-e too ,11ucl1i11 11,isposition e..rxept to read, up ,u,d caress his part11tr 's breasts. Tlie

-l 'On1a11 can tason,eof her weight and 1tire ren,pa by sittingforward and faci,ig awayfro,,,l1i111.

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REAR-ENTRY POSITIONS

AGINAL PENETRATION FROM BEH IND can be in

a standing,sitting, kneeling, or lying position, and it doesn't have to mean that the man is

dominant. There are several positions in which the woman can take the lead and control the sexual tempo.

R EA R- ENTR Y POS I TIONS

Hold>'O'" part11er tiglttly, but try 1101 10 place all ,.our weight 011 her

SUPPORTED

•ooGGIE"

/,r this position, by op,ening yo11r

legs wid you'"" prt.se11t your upturntd vagit1a

invitingly.

&st your K'tighron your armt. ftttning on wft pilloW1

LAP SITTING

In 11,;s po,sition, lo,.,-er yo11Nflf

011to}'Ollrpartntt whtn he is

seared, and 1,seJ'Ourar,u-s to

support yo1,Ndf

R.niK )'Ollf buttocks prow>alfitlr witlt your legs spread wide to prese,ir a11 t-Xciti,rg vinv

TA O PO S l 'rlON S

THE DRAGON TU RNS

1'1tis positio,, allow$ tht IIUtXil"ll"I possible peuetrruio11, so

always go gt-.,1,Iy ro ,woid disconifort.

TAO POSITIONS

tlB TAOIST ROOK T',mg Hsiia11 Tz11 describes 26 positions for lovemaking. As the Taoists

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regarded lovemaking as an art form, nearly all the

positions were designed to be esthetically pleasing. Many of the tech n iques involve unusual juxtaposition s of limbs and bod ies but are deeply visually satisfyi ng.

<;.upporr )'Otir

"1rr11cr's legs

T,"o F1SHES

like a pt1ir of spnw11i11gfi1h bending their tails around end, other, the /ol'ttJ lie side by side. After pene1ratio11, he lifts her ltgs onto his.

$E X.U A L POSI T IO NS

TAO POSITIONS (CONTIUEO)

MANDARIN DUCKS

Its ,1a111e i,ispirt.d by the ,,iating of ma,uiarin dlltk$, tliis side-by-sidt, rear-entry pos!tion allows the ,,,an to thrr,st frnly. There u so111ething $ly and std11c1h'tabo11t

slippi11g i,110 yo11r partner frotn tire rear, apuially if she has

,iot been exp(cting it.For ex.au,pl.if sht is asleep. ii

.Slide your hand up,u,d d0111n her thigh 4$

you rJirusr

TA O POS l1'10 NS

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may be a s11rprisi,ig and

erotic way to wake her.

BUTTERFLI ES I N FLIGHT

The,nan'su1ovemtnt islimittd 11nle.ss his partner is very light, b1'1thisp0'5itio,i is great for dosebody contact.

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T A O PO S I TIO NS

TAO POSITIONS (cosn,eEO)

SEAGULLS ON THE \\'INC

Ju ,uost 11uu1•011•top positio,u, thepenis tlir11s1s d01v11n•ard i11 the w1gi11a,but l1ere, 1/1c penis and w1gi11a areparallel, so 1hat rht i,rterior of the •agiua is sri1111dated very diflcre11rly.

THE GALLOPING HORSE

Like a barebad: ri,ler c/i,rgi11g ro Ilic ,11a11.e a11d rail of a $fJN•1Ji11g h<J. rhn'1t wl,ilelloldi11g onto

)'OUT pnrr,rc.•t's neck a,rdfoot.

THE PINE TREE

TI1ispositio11 is ide11l if )'Our pt?1tis is short b«ause

it provides drcp penetration. a11d yo11r partna can pull herself upand down witl1 her legs.

Pull bin, in t,S dost'

to )'011 aspo.ssible

TA O POSI T IO NS

TAO POSITIONS

(CONTIUED)

Caress yourself

fo radded stim11latio11

A PHOEN IX PLAYING IN A RED CAVE

n,e,'1vid i,nagery of this pos.ri, re'sIIOHlt liints at rite deep penetrario,,that

it allows.

Spread your ltgs

widefor easieraccm

THE GOAT AND THE TREE

Alrlio11gli tlie '""'' n1oven1enrs are rNtriae,J, liis hands arefreetofondle liis part11er's face at1d bretuts and sri,n11fate

her ditoris. Tl,is last possibility can prove vitnl b«ause the wo,nan isotherwise 1u1likdy toreacli orgas,rr.

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EXOTIC TECHNIQUES

OST OF TH I! LOVl!i\1tA K I NG POSIT(ONS in this section arc inspired by a manual called The Perfumed Garden.This originated in male-dominated

North Africa in the 15th century,and its primary aim was to instruct men on how they could enhance their sexual pleasure. However, many of the very exotic techniques do

in fact deepen the lovemaking experience for both partners. Introducing some of these positions into your lovem•king will help t<> enhance your overall sexual experience.

Exo•r1c TECHN IQ UES

THE FI RST POSTURE

t,, this positio,r, a 111t1tt witl, a lo11g pe11is ca11 adjust his le11g1h of tlir11sr 10 a,-oid tausi11g his pnrt11t•r

any disr.0111fort.

Caressyour partner

slowly attd leisurely,

INSPI RING AFFECT ION

The Perfunwd Garden .Urf'MS 11,e in1porta11a of i,ispiriug affectio11 i11 tl1e wo,,,a11, b111 these days tlwt $/1011ld be

thejiNt objttrit-e of any loi'tr. regattllt'$$of tl,eir stx.

V1NE J NTERT\\'INED

Prolo,,ged it11tr<o11rse is facilitated if the couple lie 011 rl,rir sides. Siu lies with ot1e leg

bc1wee11 l,is..

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EXOTIC TECHNIQUES

(CO TINUED)

THE ONE WHO STOPS AT HOME

Lying on her ba<.k, tlrt woman te,rstS and raises her buttoc.ks a,rd lifts a,id swi,.•els her hips as slit thrusts upward. Her pnrr,rer follows lier 1non!n1e111s,

1t1aking sure lie does,i't slip out.

FROG FASH(ON

Tl,is position is quitt dilfue,it. Neither partner ca,i ,110,'t 11ery nu,ch, b11r i1's curiously secure, cosy, and intimate.

Rest your wtighr 011 your sho1'1ders, ka11ing into soft pillo,vs

Tt:,ist '()'"

buttocks and tire

barks of yo11r tiiiglis a,you t/1r11J.t IIJm'ttrd

COMPATIBI LITY

11,e 111ore ti,ireyo11 spe11d

making IOl't,virl,)'Ollr parttrer a11d tryi,ig 0111 di/fertnt positions.the more sex,,ally compatibleyou will becotne. This, in tun,, will I.tad togreater self

awareness a11d fi,1fil/,11e11t. _

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S E X U A L PO S I TIO N S

J!X OTI C TEC H N I Q U ES

EXOTIC TECHNIQUES (COSTINUEO)

Push btttk with rour

bottom a11d liips agait1st

M•-••<""'\

TUE CRYING OUT POSITION

1l1e """' lifrs 11,e wo,,ian so tlwt

her legs are 01-er Iris ilbows..

He tl,e11 ,110•,t"S her

Jro,11 side 10 side.

Rea<h arou,rd lter witl1 your frf'.4! an,1 10 Cal"($$ lifr g(t1itals

fuci,s stnsiti 'fly

011 thefe.•lings

)'014 ,:xpuin<c asyou tl1r11$t

THE SIXTH POSTURE

Tl,e adva111tige of the 111a,r e11tering tlte wo1ua,rfro,u tl,e rear is that he ca,r easily read, her rlitoris a11d sti,1111/are l1tr to orgas111 w•itl,Irisfi "g<N.

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EXOTIC TECHNIQUES (CONTISUEO)

£XOT I C TECH N I Q U ES

THE TENTH POSTURE

Tl,e woman

i.s ncrunlly don1i11ant in tl,isposit ion. She inirintes n1ove111e11t and 1,e rt1pc,ul.s to l,er rhytlun.

PROLONGING THE PLEASURE

Tl,e l-'CNlftile ,nissionary position is a11gu1c11tt.'d by tl1e ,nan pulling his resricles downward.

This co,rtrols i,npending orgttsrt1 and prolongs i11ttrcc11rse.

£11joy 11,e warnuh and pressure of liis t.l1es1agai,111

>'""'bmuts

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STIMULATION FOR HIM

URTNG J,.OV61AKING,a \\IOll an can greatly

enhance her partner's sensations by using her hands and fingers to provide additional

stimulation. To do this, draw on the information you have already acquired from sessions of mutual pleasuring by hand.

MASTURBATION DURING LOVEMAKI NG

You ,vill be more constrained than usual, a$ penetration prevents a full grip on your partner's penis. But if you knO\\' a certain touch drives hin1 crazy, do your best to incorporate it during lovemaking.

T\VJCE THE PLEASURE

Whl.'tiyou are astride )'OUr partner a,id with )'OUr ba(k tohin,, it isve.ry easy 10 reach thl.' ba.u of his penis tosqueat it as he thrusts.

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KEEP A HANO FREE

Before ,uaki,rg love ;,, a rear entr)' position 1/utt

i1n'01''t'S>"'" k11eli11g or

bettdi11g o,'tr,get )'OUr

pt1tt11er to support yoi, securely Jo that yo11 will ha-e afrte Jra11d tvith which tocaress hin,.

UseJ'Otir /rtt ha,ul 10 srrok, his b1dtocks as ht tl1rus1s

S E X U A L P OS I T I O NS STI M U L AT I O N FO R H I M

(OITAL STIMULATION

Good sex can beco1ne rc.1lly great sex'"'hen you enhance the basic action of intercourse

'"'ith sensual hand massage and stinnLlat ion.Thete are several versatile posit i01\S that

fucilitate hand-to-genital contact, and of course there are othet areas of the body ,,•hich can be reached and will respond to

touch during loven1aking. Sq11«.u

his pe,iiJ

VERY INTIMATE

PlEASVRE

\Vl,en you nre 011 top of )'Our partuer iu a position sud1 as rl,is 011•,, yo11 will find it easy to

le1u1 back ;,, order to stroke tire ri,11 of liis a11us wit/, afingertip t111d to

srituulate Iris pe.ri11eu111.

'fl1rusr your

pe WiJ agninsr

KNEEi.iNG POSrriON

\V11eu your part11er is 011 top, but kneeling mrlrt."f rltari lying 011 you, it is easy ro reacl,anti ,nassage 1iis peniJ.

rhyrh,nically

as '1c tliruSt.$

it1tO )'OU

bothher l'1bin

a111l lia11d

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OR t\1ANY \\rOMEN, S£X UAL STl 1.U LATION isn't

created by intercourse alone. Add the magic ingredient of fingers. and climax becomes a

serious possibility. So ask your partner what really, turns her on and, while you are caressing her, make sure that you give her pleasure by massaging her genitals in ways

you know she adores.Don't leave out the rest of her body, though: massage is best when it culminates at the genitals instead of just beginning and ending there.

VARY YOIJR

ACTIONS

Exra,d >"'"r cart$.Si,,g and s1i1111,latio11 ofyour partner beyond l1tr

$(-'11it11larea -by

gently srroki11g /Jtr belly and rr11111ing yourfin up tire insidfS of ltcr

rl1iglrs.for t'X11111ple.

wl,en you are ,,,akiug lol't in tl,is rear-tnlry position. E"erywon,an lias lier own prefert11cts when it co,ues to cliroml nutS$age, sc che<k withyour partner that what )'Ott are doing is wlrat she likes Mt.

ad1 W.rreatlr your partner 's lvis tofondle

htr clitoris as

)'OU rhn,sr

S E X U A L POS IT I O NS ST l t U L ATI O N FO R H E R

STIMULATION FOR HER (co,n,uto) KEEP YOUR H ANOS FREE

/,i any l<nie,,,aki,rg position 1vhere

l,Lau for ward to

,11ai11tai11 ski"•

. , ro-ski,r contact

you sit upright witlr your pnrr11er ou top of )'Oii,)'OU ,viii luo:e both l1at1dsfrfe n,ul so will bt able

to<nres$ a,id fo,tdle her M you ,unke love.

MA KE IT £1<01"1C

To spice 1hi11gs upa little iu a rear•e11rry posjtio,r, try swirling your hips aro101d as)'OU tl,nist.

Doing this willgi1-e J"011r pt1rt11er

a varietyof new

se11sa1ious as)'Ollr

penis n,bs ngai,rst

the walls of her

1'rlgiu,t

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SAFER SEX

HE TERM "sAPE sex" is con1111only used

to describe forms of sexual activity that are unlikely to expose the

participa nts to HIV infection and thus to AIDS. Safe sex is regarded as any form of sexual activity where there is no exchange of bodily fluids - an exchange of bodily fluids being the most common way in which HIV infection is passed on.

SAFER SEX TECHNIQUES

You can reduce the risk of infection by:

• Using a latex condon1.

• Stimulating each other w•ithout having penetrati\'esex.

• Havingoral sex, but please be a,vare that

this sexual activity does carry ,\•ith it a Jo,v risk of infection.

IT CAN STlLL OE FUN

Safe sex does not necessarily n1rn11 boring !>f-X. You uu1 still enjoy tlte experience i1111ntnsdJ

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THE ENERGY SKIM THE SKIM TECHNIQUE

OR MOST OF TIIE TI M E, I hope you are able to enjoy a complete sexual program - from kissing

to sensual massage to mutual masturbation,and

Hold your hands p.a:hns do\vn about

an inch above )'Our partner's body.

his

body asa haze. Make sw•ceping

then complete intercourse.But if for any reason climax is

not an option,or if you havejust enjoyed a massage with someone who is not your lover,you can disperse all the

energy that's been generated between you by following the energy skim technique.

DISPERSING ENERGY

One of the great SC(rcts ormamge, carefully safeguarded by those 1naster n1asseurs of the 1970s, is the energy skim. This technique involves 1nassaging the energy out of the body's extremities

,vithou t even touching the body. It sounds incredible, bu1 it truly ,vorks. If anything \\'trc dC$igned to make us believe body cncrg)' definitely exists, it's the skim. You can actually fed )'Our body lighten as this layer of energ>• is

re1noved. It C.!.11 ntake you feel sensational.

hnagine energy lying above

1no1ions w•ith both hands., and sweep that energy along the

limbsand out 1hrough the

body's extrentities -the fingertips, toes., or

head.At no point

should you touch

)'Our partner.

F££L TH E ENERGY HAZE

Asyou hold yo,,r hands above your partner's body, )IOU wilt atllu,lfyfe<I an aca111111lariorr of trrergy rising up.

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SENSUAL MEDITATIONS

When l trained with massage master Ray Stubbs

in San Francisco in the 1970s, !was taught that for a massage or sexual encounter to feel beautiful, it helped to tlri11k beautiful first. Where massage was concerned, Ray started off his sessions with a little flute music and then talked his willing victims through a gu ided meditation. If flute music is not to your taste, some restful music (such as Pachelbel's Ca11011) on tape or disc might be a good alternative.

PREPARING TO MEDITATE

Preparing the meditation room so that it appears welcoming is desirable. The ideal is the 1970s model where the room, with mainly white waUs, is gently heated.

There are gre<:n plants, and the smell of Indian incense sticks scent the air. Once you have listened to the music and begun to feel peaceful, you might take

turns to read a meditation out loud.

CHOOSE YOUR MOMENT

I personally choose to meditate immediately after a massage,because the subsequent journey of the i1nagination feels like a poetic rounding off.

But please feel free to include this treat at any stage you judge to be desirable.

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A MYSTICAL J OURNEY

This meditation is the first one I ever experienced when training with Ray Stubbs in San Fra ncisco.

It consists of a journey th rough an alien landscape, which Ray originally brought to mind and

which I have never forgotten. The purpose of a sensual meditation is to stimulate the sensual imagi nation. This means that the narrative

does not contain many details in itself, but consists of just a bare outline.This lack of detail is designed to give you the freedom to flesh out the action with the exotica of your own mind, making the overall experience a very individual and very personal one. As with all meditations, ensure you are comfortable and relaxed before you begin.

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A 11-f YSTJ CA L J O U R NEY

The roaring of surf is in your ears and so is the sound of pebbles being dragged away from the beach by the tide. The sun is Io,.,, in the sky and as you peer to\\•ard it, you realize

that it looks older and larger and is a deep copper color.

PAUSE

Look closely now at the beach you find yourself washed up on. The rocks and pebbles are heavy with copper shadow and seem purplish underneath. The sea is warm and copper and you ,.,ronder \\•hat is in itsdepths.

PAUSE

Somehow you stagger from the surf and collapse onto the sands.Where have you come from? And what is there to go onto no,v?

PAUSE

You are seized by an overwhelming compulsion to sleep, exhausted by your battle with the water. Crawling farther from the water,you find a soft sand dune warmed by 'the alien sun. You curl up into its side and slip into sleep. Just settle into the sand and let your body relax..

PAUSE

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And as you sleep you dream.

PAUSE

In your drcan1, an alien creature comes cra,.,Hng

along the surf line looking for something.

PAUSE

It's looking for you. Itcrawls toward you and stops where you are doiing. It's like nothing you've seen before at\d yet, you can sense that it)s intelligent. •rhis is no animal,

it's a thinking being. You feel no fear. Instead there's a

\\iar1n instinct to n,ake contact. Tentatively you touch it.

What does it feel like? What impression do you gain?

PAUSE

The creature, i n turn) touches your face. In fact it presses son1e1hing onto your face. ;\nd then n1ore of these strange artifacts onto niany other partsof your body. Soon you are covered with these little pressure points. Then the creature steps away from

you and ,vaves a square stone in your direction.

Every pressure point tingles. ,,

PAUSE

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Look down at your body.What do you see?

PAUSE

As you gaze you realize that son,cthing is gro,ving from each pressure point, binding you skillfully and closely. Frightened, you struggle to escape. And then you wake up. And you see that the dream is reality. You are cocooned in a web of light silky material and you are unable to 1nove.

PAUSE

As you panic, a soothing voice speaks to you, inside your head, i1n1nediate)y cahning and reassuring you. Fear not) it says, I n1ean you no harn1. I care for you. And miraculously your head clears and your whole body feels light. Looking down, you see you are flying.

PAUSE

You fly across the alien landscape. The colors a re so different from your hon,e, the textures unfamiliar and yet this land feels warm and comforting. Take a look at this wonderful landscape. What do you see?

PAUSE

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S E N S U A L M 801TAT IONS A M Y ST ICA L JOURNEY

SEN S U A L M E DI TA T I ONS J O U R N EY I N TH E I NT ER I OR

] OURNEY IN THE INTERIOR

Sensuality is abou t much more than sex.

Sensuality comes from touching textu res,hea ring harmonious sounds, seeing voluptuous colors, and feeling imbued with beauty. This meditation is not specifically sexual, but I hope i t will stimulate your sexual imagi nation. The imagination is a powerful tool. lt allows you to

re-experience past events or to go forward in time. It allows you to become part of a fantasy and gives flavor to the mood. Here is a

meditat ion about journeyi ng that I hope leaves you rememberi ng what it was like in heaven.

It retu rns you to your earliest experience of sensuality -a time of pre-consciousness.

Your eyes are closed. You arc \\13rm, and snug, curled up and cosy. You are safe and contained, \\•ith Familiar sounds regularly soothing in your ears. You are squeezed

and contained and to test your freedom you put out an arn1 and prtMit against the outside of your world where it wraps around you. You feel that

world. exploring it with your fingertips and with the palm of your hand.

PAUSE

Open your eyes. A faint redness glea,ns sornC\\fhcre below you.There's little to see. But there's plenty to touch. You run a hand across the rim of your

world again. It's soft and elastic and it gives a little. Suddenly,pressure from the outside pushesback onto your exploring hand. Contact!

PAUSE

You push in return. Suddenly there are sounds.They bear no resemblance to the harmony of the deep,

the deep that you have bathed in for so long. You shrink back, surprised by the noise of the outside world.

PAUSE

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And yet the sounds take on a pattern of their own, a beat, a kind of rhythm. And you are moving, swaying, the liquid swishing through your limbs

and back again. The fluid pours around your body, stroking and ruffli ng your skin, till the strokes feel as though they are inside your very being.

floats around you. Pleasure is jetted into your limpid world and now it froths and bubbles around your body and your face. You breathe in the sharpness of itssensuality.

PAUSE

PAUSE You are part of this wave of pleasure. What courses through the water,courses through you, too. And

Your limbs feel at one with the tide. All of you is streaming, like sea\'1eed \vith the sea flo\ving through it. The tide passes and re-passes. The down on your body streams with the current,

while you breathe in with the ebb and flow of the

the liquid streaming around your limbs quickens its pace, rubbing all your tiny pores, backward and forward, bad•ward and forward, until you think you will disintegrate with the delight.

water,feeling like the ocean itself. PAUSE

PAUSE A great waft of satisfaction clouds the sea around you and bathes your face. You breathe i n the

The rhythm continues. It's a pressure, a forceful squeeze. Itpresses you hard against the wall of

your world and yet it's also pleasurable. It s good to be squeezed -your skin ripples; there are prickling sensations across your chest and between your legs.

You lift your arms and the prickles of pleasure

co1ne again. A \\1ave of harrnony and sensuality

endorphins and open your mouth in wonder, high on this wonder drug, which is puffed throughout your world, seeping inside your very being.

PAUSE

Suddenly you are squee.,ed, hard. It hurts. It hu rtsagain. And yet the cloud of pleasure that is also you, feels the

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pain as another extreme. It's sensuality of a different sort - the other side of sensuality. The hurt that is pai n that is pleasurcJ becornesan integral part of the \\1holc of you. Ho,v, after all, could you kno,v pleasure \\•ithout son1e pain?

PAUSE

Inside your world, the walls are rippling in on themselves.

They threaten to tear you up, to knock you Aying. And yet, like a tiny cork on a great ocean, you remain bobbing along. You're a survivor.

PAUSE

And as you wonder if you should feel fear,a fur1her current of sheer ecstasy rushes across your skin and ,\•hat "'ith the tumult of the waters, and the pain from the outside and the pleasure from within, you fall quite limp with the chaos of it all.

PAUSE

You let yourself go. Buffeted from this side to that, stretched and wrapped, squeezed and slackened -your world resemblesa storm al sea. And yet you continue to bob. And bob.And bob.

PAUSE

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Until the storm abates. The waters settle. The pressures cease. And there you are. Cool in the calming

of the storm. You can ride ou t anything.And as you

dream along, there is a singing in your head -a singing that comes from the poetry of voices outside your being. A poetry that repeats,many limes, the words,

I love you, I love you, f love you.

PAUSE

Love inside you is good. Love is an adventure.

Love n1eans action and seduction and clouds of pleasure. Love is also pain, but such seductive pain. And love is survival - there you are and there's the sea and there, throughout everythi ng, is the steady

rhyth m of a heartbeat. And you think to yourself, this

can go on forever. And it docs go on. It continues

\\•ithi n you. and it also persists inside your child's drearns. and in the 111inds of your brothers and sisters, and it restsdeep inside the consciousness of friends. The sea. the journey across, the stonn. and the survival are the earlies, portions of hun,an sensual experience. shaping us for the world to come.

ENDS

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SEN SU A L l BO I TATION S T H Ii 1EA 00\V

THE MEADOW

To carry out the following meditation you need to lie flat on your back on a comfortable

surface with your eyes closed. Although at certain points during this experience you are given an instruction to close your eyes,this is only done within the meditation. In actuality, your eyes need to remain closed until the very end.

Sensuality has many different facets. Beauty and eroticism are strong ingredients, but so too are the emotions that are often valued less. These might

be familiarity, security,the comfort of continuity, the sense that there is someone waiting for you in the background. In this very beautiful and sensual meditation, nostalgia is related to strong visual and olfactory signals.

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Underneath your body is a springy surface of sedge and grasses. In your ears there's the sound of insects buzzing. A'"ann current of air stirs the little hairson your skin and far off you hear the chirrup and call

of smaU birds.As you move your hands, palms upon the ground, you discover they are resting on small, soft tufts of grass.

PAUSE

Stroke the grasses. Run your fingers through them. Feel the thin blades slip in velvet ribbons across your hands.

PAUSE

In your imagination (but not in reality) open your eyes. Around you there are tall waving fronds of meadow plants, blowing in the breeze that wafts across your face.

PAUSE

In the corner of your eye you see a scarlet flower,then another,then several dotted in the grasses surrounding you. Just beyond your right foot is a small blue cornflower; to your left, yellow and white daisies.

PAUSE

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The breeze wafts again. It grows stronger.And stronger. Feel it against your skin. The n1oist air streams through the meadow and all the fl0\\1ers and grasses s,\1eep lO\'lard you in a concerted ,vave, a giant ripple that 1noves from one side of the meadow to the other.

PAUSE

As it travels, it enfolds you along with the rest of the flo,\•ers. Your hair strean1s a\vay from you, your lin1bs becoine ,veightless and off you go. Your body whips through the grasses,with the fronds and flowers softly beating your skin as you traverse the field.

PAUSE

As you fly,the multi-colored flowers stripe your skin with pollen and soon you are decorated with blue and red and yello,v, ,..,hite and green in a striped

and patchwork pattern. You blend with the meadow, you are the meadow and yet still you travel, darting at insect level through the long stalks and leaves.

PAUSE

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Look to the left. There's a rabbit, lifted by the same zephyr, its button nose quivering, its short fur parted by t he rush of the journey.For a time the two of you keep pace. Reach out your hand and stroke itsback. It turns toward you in mute delight before being whipped

' away to become a black speck. You carry on with your

airborne journey, streaming through the rneado,,'. ,vhich

no,v gro\,'S so \\•ide it see1ns like a prairie.

PAUSE

The breeze is dwindling. Slowly,softly it deposits

you on the bank of a sn1all strea1n. Lean over

the side and look into the water.

PAUSE

Can you se<' the fish? Can you catch the n1ove1nent of their fins as they hover in the shade, keeping abreast of the current?

PAUSE

On the far bank, black and white cows graze. Listen. Can you hear the chomping of thei r jaws as they munch mouthful after mouthful of rich pasture?

PAUSE

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The sun blazespleasantly on your back. Sit on the As you laze in the sun, lulled by the sound of the river bank and dangle your feet in the water. ever-running \\l'ater, ahnost dozing. \\'ith your feel in

Relax and savor the mornent. the water,you hear someone calling you far off.

PAUSE "Coo-ee. \¥here are you? Are you there?,:, You recognize the voice. h is so1neone you love -

Close your eyes again and listen very carefully. someone who makes you feel safe. And happy.

Can you hear the water? There are trickling sounds Who is it? Can you picture this person? close by,but the stream itself swirls and eddies. And

far off, almost beyond your hearing range, is that the PAUSE

muffled roar of a ,veir? There is a disturbance in the air You are being called home for tea. Unhurriedly,you and when you open your eyes you catch sight of a small ,valk back across the meado,v. follo,\•ing the inviting

blue bird darting into a hole on the opposite side voice.Your feet pace through the long grasses and of the stream. Hold your breath and wait. wild flowers until you come upon a cloud of small

PAUSE blue butterflies flickering above a clump of purple blossom. Stop and look closely at the delicacy of

The•bird re-emerges from the hole and darts into the their n)ove,nents. Can you see the batting of their strean) right in front of the bank. '"here you are sitting. '"ingsi the intrica.te dance as the butterflies ,,;eave

Looking do,vn, you can see the little thingi it is no,.., iJl and out of each other's flight?

s,\,tmming undenvater. It catches a minno,\1 in its beak,

flitsout again and back to its nest in the river bank. PAUSE

Can you see the colors in its plumage? Can you see Halt one of the butterflies in your mind's eye. the greens and blues? The iridescent sheen? Freeze it in mid-flutter so that you can look at the

PAUSE brilliance of its color.What ki nd of blue is this

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creature? Does the hue ren1ain constant? Or does the blue change? Does it transmute from dark to light? Are the wings lustrous and gleaming? Or the pale, flat blue of storybooks? This is your butterfly. You can make it any shade of azure you desire.

edge of the horizon if you look hard you can see some spiralli ng puffs of white smoke where a village lies.

PAUSE

PAUSE As you leap down the hill in skips and jumps the house becomes dearer as you get closer.

Then release it. Let it flap back to its fellow

fritillaries.As you follow the butterflies'dance again,

you hear the cry in the distance, ''Coo-ee. Where are you?" You set off once more.

PAUSE

The meadow slopes and you find yourself hurrying downhill. Here, the grass is brilliant emerald

green, cropped by rabbits, ridged and terraced by

their tiny pathways.In the distance, at the foot of the hill, in a small valley is a house. At the doorway stands a tiny figure, ,vaving.

PAUSE

What does the house look like? It's the sole dwelling in the valley. For miles around there are

Whose house is it? You kno,v you are ,velcome there. You know you are expected. Seeing you approach, the figure at the doorway goes inside. Cooking sn1ell.s 1ningle ,,•ith the country scents.

Suddenly hungry,you anticipate the meal

you are racing to,vard.

PAUSE

As you enter the house the sun is going down beh ind you. It's the end of the day and candles

light the room. The smell of hot baking suffuses the evening air. Al the range, in the dark, at the back of the room, a smiling figure turns toward you, carrying a hot plate heaped high and offers it to

you. You've come hon1e.

011ly trees and fields and farm buildings. But on the ENDS

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THE TREE

OF LIFE

This final meditation is based on a drawing called The Tree of Life. In the diagram, which is also a puzzle, there are many little figures.

These are perched on the tree or underneath the tree on the grou nd. At certain poin ts in the med itation you will be asked to make choices

about climbing the tree. The purpose of the puzzle is to decide where on the tree you might feel happiest, and then to deliberate on the reasons for you r choice. After you have com pleted this meditation and "climbed your tree ' spend some time thinki ng about how it made you feel and ask yourself where in

the tree you felt best.

There is a picture in front of you. A pen outline of a huge spreading tree. At the foot of the tree, halfway up the trunk, and out on the Jin1bs are people. Little 1nen and ,-.iomen who dance and si ng, struggle and sob, climb and fall. The tree is full of them. They are everywhere. There isn't a part

of the great growing edifice that hasn't been colonized . Even the topmost branches, swaying in the breeze, flimsy and liable to break any minute, contain someone gazing

upward, wondering how much farther they may safely go.

PAUSE

As you look longer, the people on the tree begin to stir. Some are climbing, two, silting side by side on a branch, kiss, \\•hile another, in the center fork, is ,-.raving at you.

PAUSE

Now you can hear the creak of the branches and the rustle of the leaves and the chatter of the 111en and ,"von1en perched like starlings. The person who is waving calls.

PAUSE

"Come on up:'the person yells. A li ttle surpised, you look around. And find you are standing in the picture. In front of the great spreadi ng trunk. II is you being

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summoned. You take a closer look at the caller who seems friendly enough.

PAUSE

"It's easy to climb,"they call. uDon't be afraid.,.

PAUSE

You take a closer look at the foot of the trunk.There is actually someone there already,making a rather poor job of getting up the first section. They are struggling ineffectually,with one foot still on the ground. You

feel sure you can do belier if on.ly you can mount that first part The trunk is rough and although there are no branches al the beginning of the climb you feel that if only you can get a toehold, you could at least

make it to the first big branch .

PAUSE

"Don't do it;'says a voice from behind and looking around you see a figure getting up from a fall, grasping their shoulder in pain."It's impossible.

I 've hurt myself:'

PAUSE

You hesitate. You don't want to hurt yourself. The top of the tree does look inviting. And besides, the person calling looks atlractive. If they can get up there, surely you can too. Two others are lying on the grass al the fool of the tree. "It's really comfortable here;' they point out. "Wonderfully cool in the shade."As you look around

you realize that it's a blazingly hot day and the tree is providing shelter from the sun's rays. It's quite tempting to Oop down besides these others and laze alongside them i nstead of gelling yourself hot and bothered

with the strain of climbing.

PAUSE

Bui, as you hesitate, the voice calls again. "It's great here. Come on up."And you can see that the caller is standing on the middle fork, riding the tree, like a sailor in the rigging of a great ship. High in the spread of branches there's a breeze. You can see it up there ruffling the leaves.

PAUSE

So you decide 10 give it a go.Before you begin, though, you look hard at the person calling. Arc they male or female? Are they black, white, or Asian? Tall or short? Big boned or

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or small limbed? What color is their hair? Is it straight or curly? What style of clothing do they wear? What is it

about this person that makes hirn or her attractive?

\t\'hat is the expression on their face?

PAUSE

No,v that you have visualized this nevv friend,

you begin the upward route.The person sprawled across the first branch helps heave you that first most difficult stretch. There's a nasty 1ninute ,vhen you think you are about to fall but you manage to

regain your balance and soon you are standing

and looking up at the branches beyond.

PAUSE

Already there's a view from here. As you look away,what can you see? What kind of countryside stretches out in front? It feels good to be up with the others. So good in fact that you are very tempted to halt, right where you are. But would it matter if you didn't go higher. You certainly don't have to climb any farther. You can choose to stay here at the first branch if you want.

IF YOU CHOOSE TO STAY HERE. RIE:A O TIIE NEXT PARACRAPII TIIEN END. BUT IF \'OU OECIOl: TO CONTINUE Cl IMBING. SKIP Tiii; Nf.XT PARAGR.APII AND RF.AD TO Tl-IE END Of THE MF.OlTi\T10N.

You feel safe here. You have done the hardest bit and that is

\\!'hat feels itnportant. You strike up a conversation ,vith the person at the foot of the tree and when you evemually descend, they are waiting to help you down. It's a pity perhaps that you didn't get to meet the caller.But you know you have done something courageous. And you gamble on the chance that the caller ,viii be there next time.

But you don't fed as if you've gone quite far enough. When you look up you can see the others swaying h igh above. Down here the tree is still so solid that there's no movement. And anyway,you want to go up to the person.

PAUSE

So you limber on. It's much easier novv. Of course you have to be careful, but provided you hang on tightly, you are safe. You overtake others '"ho have ended their o,vn cli1nb and are sitting or standing on the branches gazing across the horizon.

PAUSE PAUSE

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You are not far now from the fork in the trunk where your new friend is waiting. As you approach, they wrap their right arm around the trur1k and help haul you the last stretch. They give you a welcoming hug. It feels good.

PAUSE

For a while you enjoy the view and the sense of companionship. But after a while you become aware that there is yet a higher section. You can't resist finishing the climb. You know the day will feel unfinished if you don't go as far as you possibly can and you feel pretty certain you are able to manage several more levels. Picking the branches very carefully and testing the limbs as they

get smaller, you climb on.

PAUSE

The feeling at the top is exhilarating. The wind races through your hair and streams past your face.

It's silent up there, the chatter of the others remains

at the other levels. The view stretches out across mile after m ile of unbroken countryside until in the far distance you can see the roofs of a great city.

Sighing with contentment you turn to come down again. And lose your footing. You start to fall. To begin with you are falling in slow motion, but as you tumble toward the ground the fall speeds up. Any second you must crash?

What can you do? Can you be saved?

PAUSE

Well yes,you can. At the last minute you spread out your arms and fly.You zoom up from the ground like a small rocket and the next thing you kno,.,, you are circling

the tree. You arc perfectly safe. You can go anywhere on the tree and know you will be secure. So the tinal choice of ,.,hat to do and ,.,here to go is yours.

PAUSE

Will you fly back to the new friend? Go up to the top again? Try out some of the other branches? Meet with some of the other people? Your final choice will tell you something about your own character. But the choice is yours alone. Spend as long as you like thinking about it. You can always fly back to the tree on another occasion.

PAUSE ENDS

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INDEX

Affection

showing 163

AIDS 202

An.al region

stroking the 197

Atn,ospherc creating 43

B<lly 18-9

llody (cont) rocking62-3 si11,-.s, sensual 45

Breasts

cupping 76-7

Deer exercise 127

1nassagc 72-S

Breathing 18-19 correctly,how to 21 i1npor1ance of 19

v.tluc of 21

C D

Care and considerat ion 164

Encrgiiing 12-13

back. the 58-9

E1tergy

balancing 120-1 for a day 140-5

fretingsexual 34-47

hands-on J.6

Kirlian 21

Skim. the 204-5

tapping into invisible 117

vi.srn.dizing 46-7

E.roticisn192-3

Foreplay 120-1

IN0 £ X

K L

Kissing 118-19

Kirlian energy 21

Loven1aking positions 146-205 back to front l S?

Buncrllit'S in Right ISI "'Doggie,..supported 176 Dragon turns, the l ?8 exotic 186-93

Fil"$t posture, the 187 f:rog f.uhion I 89 Galloping horse, the 183

Goat and the tree, the 18:S

maS$aging the 78-85

Bioenergttic e.xer(ises 22-33

Bonoins up 30-1

ecstatic release 32-3

Grounding 23 1>cJ\,ic circling 27 1>ct,•ic lift 24

J>efvic rock 26

Cathar$iS 33

Coital stin,ulation 196 Decor 42-3

Deer exerc:i$CS 126-33

for her 126-9 for hi1nIJ0-3

E F

G H

Genioals 23,24, 27, 30, 45, 88,98,

clitoris 95,199

p<nis 96, 91, 101,103, 113

\ .\gina 107, 109, 128

Hip lin 64-5

HIV infectjon 202

Horse of hector,the IS 1

lap sitting 17?

l,alcntl position, the 186 Lyons stag«oJch, the I 52 MJ11darir1ducks 180

n,an on top 158-65 Missionary,the 158

Squalling 30

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One \'1hostops at hon,e, the 188

Ph<><:nix playing in a red cave 185

\\tall exercise 26

ec.static release 32-3

111.hibitions 28

Pine

tree, the 182

Body

caress 83-9

cncrgy 20-I

236

ecstatic union 116

Ejaculalion

delayed 192

lnj.aculation 123

lntim3tetouch 90-113

Jen•f!.1o point technique, the 137

rear enlry 176-?, ll Ride a cock horse 156 X3gull.son the wing 182

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G R.E AT s ex G U I DE I N D E X

Lo\'en1aking p0si1ions (cont.) seate<l fucc to•fucc 175 seated facing away 17S seated sideways-on 174

side by,ide l66-7 l sining 172-S

Tao positions l 78-85 1\"0 fishc.s 179

upright fron\ behind 156

,'1()1nan on top 150-7

Lovingcontacl 152

1assagt" 34-89 Abdo1ninal slide 82-3 Abdo1ninal twis184-5 aids 40

back massage 58-66 belly 1\wsage 78-85 body contact 88-9

body rocking 62-3

brtast ,nassage 72-5

Circling 48

Clawing 56

Mo.ssoge (con,.)

finish ngoff 66-7

front ntassage 68-9

Glide, 1he 52-3 Golden rules of 37 hand twisting8J he3d ni.'LSSagc 70-1 Hip lift, the 64-5

intcnml 1nassage 123

Kn<0ding SO, 87

leg 1nass3ge 86-7 P.lhn circling 53 prostate 133

sensual mass.'lgc 33-9

sex n1ass:agc 98-9

for her 198-201

(or hin1 )96-7 shoulder lift 70-1 Slide, the 68

Spinal tap 60

Stubbs. Ray.technique 74-5

Sweeping 57

Swin1miug 54

Three-handed ntas.s:age

Massage (cont.) Pnfun1ed Gardm. T1iit 186

Thu111bing 55 Pleasure

\Vcighting 59 for her 94-5

l\1:1.5turba1ion 90-1 13, 194-201 for hin1 96-7

clitoral n1ancuvcr 95 pleasuring your partnC"r IS3

clitoral 1nassage 199 Prnsurc

for her 198-201 i1npac1of SO-I

for him 194-7 Prolonging the experience

hand over hand 96 114-45

Len101\ Squeeur,the 96 Prostate 133

mulual 98--9

self-touch 104-13

for men 110-13 Relaxation 12-33

for wo1nen 106-9 Safer sex 202-3

Squtttt technique.the 139 Self-1ouch 104-13

\Vibbling 95 ,nen 110-13

1editations 206-35 using 104--5

1ental relaxation 18-19 won1cn I06-9

Mood Semen produc1ion 130

creating 42 Sensual

body sites 44-5

foreplay 120-1

Org,sm 1neditations 206-3S

delaying 136-9 /011r,iey in tl1e Jr,terior 214-19

clitoral 199

for her 102-3

Nine Levels of, the 13-4-5

\i feadow, •11,t 220-1

Cross-currents 54

cupping 76-7

for hi1n 100-1 Thumb slide. the 6l

Pelvic exercises 24-7 J.1ysli(al /OIITlll'}',A 208-13

Pe1\ett.1tion, deep 165 T.«of Lift, Tlre22S-35

G R E AT SEX G U I OE

Sensual (cont.) "hotspots..4S strokes 48-57

Setsof Nine,the 122-S

Sex textures 40-1

Scxt1al energy 32-3

Jo11n1ey;,,tltt lt1terior

214-19

A1eadon The 220-7 A1yt1irot Jo11r,1ey, A 208-13 Trtt of Life, The 228-J;

Se-xual positions 146-205 Stimulat ion

for h<r 198-201

for hin1 t94-7

Taking the lead IS4 Tao sex 178-ll; Taoist tC"achi ngs 133

•1antricsex 114 Tt•:nsion 14-19

and relaxation 16-17

ten.sing fuce 13-19

VCl'$US relaxation principle 14-15

'J(Stide pull,the 31

Textures natural 40

rough and smooth 41

sexy 40

stintulat ing 40 Touch

consrnnt 84

finding the right 84

intiniate 90-113

power of 36-7

V.tgin.t 107, 109. 128

Variety 167

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