Great Sex Games ~ SIMULIZI ZA CHUMBANI

GAMES

ANNE HOOPER

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G R E A T S E X C A ,\1£S IN TR O DUCTI O N

G R EAT SEX GA MES

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The sexiest relationships Ihave enjoyed ,vere those ,vhere trust and exciten1e11t ,vere so profound that 1ny partner and I (eh ,ve could do absolutely anything in bed. "Anything" included spontaneous loven1aking, routine lovemaking (nothing ,vrong

,vith that}, and playing at sex gan1es.

J didn't arrive at games playing unril I had gained confidence, but l'n1 ver>'glad lgot there. I 've had fun - I ,vou ldn't have n1issed it for a11yrhing. Yet, to begin ,vith} it ,vasn't eaS>' 10

play. I found it diff icult to understand that i f games are going to ren1ain erotic you have to stay firmly in the character that the game decrees. Everything depends on not being allowed to change )'Our mind halfway rhrough. For example, if you suddenly stop being strong and

instead beco1ne ,vi1npish, the illusion is instantly sharrered . And good sex

gan1cs are all about creating illusion and stirring up the imagination.

So, to aid and abet every potential Gan1es Master or Nlistress,

I have outlined in this linle book a few potent tips to get the blood running and

the juices flo,ving (figuratively speaking, of course).

(; R E A T S £X G A \t E S INTR.O DUCT ION

gan1es involve using sex toys, punishment and re,vard sysre,ns, mild restraint, and fetishistic specialit ies. I n order ro practice punish,nent and re,vard, you need ro be familiar,vith some pretty p0,vcrful incentives. I outline these in rny final chapter

and hope that they go a long ,vay ro,vard co1nplerely blo,ving

your mind - not co 111enrion other parts of your body.

HOW THE BOOK WORKS

Like 311)'ga111e, a sex ga1ne must have rules. It cannot function

,Yith out rhe,n. So the first section of the book looks specifically at ,Yhat it is that you hope to get our of gan1es playing. And it lines up SOJtte basic rules that arc absolutely necessary to

ensure ,vhat )'OU are going to do is both effective and safe.

TI1e first gan1es arc lo\\•-key and pron1orc the gro,vth of

acceptance ond rrust. These arc follo,ved at various points 1hrot1ghout the text b)' ..Scenarios.,. Scenarios are sexual stories that you might like tO act out ,vith your lover or quite si,nply read out loud in bed on a ,varm sun1n1er's afternoon. The later

J do,'t believe that it is onl)• unusual people \\•ho play sex ga rncs. Ithink the 1nost ordinary among us naturally play like children ,vhen ,ve are ,vith so,nconc ,vc adore. [ si1nply

offer a fe,v fu,1ideas for sex g::in1cs. If you ,vant ro rake rhe1n on board, l hope you have a great ri,ne. If you don't, I just hope you have an enjoyable read.

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THE RULES OF THE

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Without rules there can be no game.This doesn't mean that you are forced to state the rules formall)' between the two of

you. However, i t does mean that you must establish the limits of a game clearly to yourself, must be prepared to stick to

them whatever ha ppens, and must nor hesitate to talk them th rough with your pa rtner when it is clearly necessary.

TH E R U L ES O F TH E G A !l.-t E T H E A I M O F T H E CA M E I

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\Vl,at you rva11t 10 pro111otc

• Your partller's rrusr.

• Your partner's cxciten1en1.

The idea of a Games Masrcr/Ntisrrcss conlCS directly fro1n the darker caverns of crotka. Every do1ninarrix is a Gan1es .f istress. Every n1ale comrnanding sex "slaves" is a Gan1es Master.

lt need not be so cxtre1ne,bur the concept of the Gaines Master/Mistress is a good one.

First, it i1nplies that sorneone is in charge,

\Vhich can be reassuring to nervous beginners. Second, beco111ing Gan1es Ntascer or Mistress is the basis of sorne enterrai11i11g ga,11i11g in itself . l11ird1 in order to be a M.-isrcr or Nlistrcss you need co be rrust\\'onhy and dependable - not perhaps the qualities you n\3)'have first

thought of. Men and \vOrnen \vho play sex ga1nes arc often 1nore trusting than couples

\Vith ,nore traditional relationships.

So here are the ai,ns a11d rhe rules of the g:an,e.

• Your partner's eager anticipation.

• Your partner's X•rated irnagi11a1io11.

• Reassura11ce that your o,vn behavior is acceptable.

• The self•belicf that you c.111lead the ga1ne ,veil.

• Your 0\\'1l arousal.

• Truly i1nagi11ativc ,vays to experience sex.

\"Vbat you ,uaut to p,.eveut

• Scarlng your partner.

• Taking your partner too far, {00 fasr.

• Hurcing, or in any ,vay threatening, )'Our parrner beyond \Vhat you have established is n,uruall)' accepmble. In n1any countries sexual activities that involve physical ly hurting others, even if they arc consenting adults, is illegal.

• Losi11g conrrol of yourself \vhen you arc the Gan1cs Mastcr/1istres.s.

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TH E RU LES O F TH E C A M E

ESTA BLIS HING A CODE WOR D

If you arc playing a sex game in ,vhich your parrner is at your ,nercy, rou may be making a mistake if you stop the acrion rhe first tinlC your partner asks you ro do so. This is b«ausc alrhough your parrner 1nay be a little scared, they may also be delighted at the same rime.

The r,vo emotions often go hand in ha1td. "Stop, stop,., can acrually so,netimes mean '"This is an1aziitg, please don't stop.'' So ho,v cu1 you rell ,Yhen you really ought to stop?

The solution ro the proble1n is ro establish a code ,vord . This can be a ,vord thar you have agreed ro beforehand that indisputably n1ea,ts "'Stop right no,v." The n1inure rhe code ,vord is unered, )'OU n1usr ahvays stop in1n1cdiately.

lofo,vc,1cr, using a code \\rord is really onl)'

suitable bet,\•een lovers ,vho kno,v each other

,vell. In a first•time sex situation, actions of this kind could v,cll be interpreted as aggressive.

TH E A I M O F TH E G A M E I

YOUR ACTIONS

M oves you ,uay 11,ake

• You may:

rouch; fondle; caress; stroke; offer fanrasies; ask for fantasies;use sex toys.

• \Vith your partner's conse1n you n1ay: establish a safery code "'Ord; dominate; subn1it; use light bondage; ren1pt; tickle; tantalize; photograph; use sex toys;

tell rail stories.

M oves you ,nay not ,nake

• Take the action beyond the agreed limits.

• Disregard a partner's use or 1he safety code ,vord.

• Expose a partner publicly (and this includes sho",ing photographs of )'Our sexual acrivities to others).

• Bring in any third parry (unless rhis is by

firn1n1u tual consent).

• Physically or emotionally hurt or damage your lover.

TH E RU LES O F THE G A ME

GA INING EACH OTHE R 'S TR UST

As ,ve discuss the use of safety code ,vords in sex gan1es, it beco1nes clear that in order for an)' ..safety agreemenr" to ,vork, you and your partner must rrust each other i1nplicidy.

\X1ithour co1nplete trust, sex ganles sinlply do not "'ork. There's not a lot of point in scning up elaborate safety precautions i f deep do,,,n yot1 fear your ,vishcs ,viii be disregarded in any case. If you are tense and nervous, your

o,vn sexual experience ,viii be at bcs-t poor and

at ,vorsr threatening. In such circumstances, the first rule of the game is:DON'T DO IT.

YOUR FIR ST MOVES

Your orvn personal rnles

Establish your o,vn trusf\vorthi11ess in the earliest days of the relationship by stopping any activity the 1ninutc your partner indicates rhac this is

,,•hat they ,vant. {By this I ant not advocaring restraint games -Ianl srressing the importance of setti11g up truSt at the very outset.)

Tl-l E A l . i\ 1 O F T fal .E G A 1 \t E

Introduce your partner to aspects of your

,vorld other than sex. Let then1sec you in the context of your friends, a11d of your friends' good opinion of )'OU. The tnore you open up to lhe,n, the n1ore secure they ,uUI feel.Think "honest to youtself. In order for so1neo11e to find you reliable, you actually musr bt reliable.

What yo"r par111er sho,,/d be able to expect

• That you see them as a separate, vulnerable hu1nan being.

• That you ,viii ask then1about their feelings.

• That you ,viii truthfully state details about yourself. If you are oervous, S:l)' so.But be positive as ,vcll, S:.'tying so1nething like: "The truth is chat Ihaven'r done nn1ch or this kind of rhing before. Bur I get a srrong sense from kno,,,ing you that this is going to feel grc:.'lt...

• That you ,viii give your partner time if that is ,vhac they ,vane. The n1ore laid back you are

:.1bout getting into sex ga,nes, the ntore )'Out partner ,viii trust you.

LOSIN G Y OUR

If you want to be a sex games player, you need to possess a fa ir degree of self. confidence. In order to feel completely free with your lover, you need to bel ieve

that the actions you ma ke are accepta ble. The moves on the following pages are designed to help you lose inhibitions and establish a sense that anything you do with your lover is grea t by them !

LOS ING YO UR J NH l 8 1 T IONS -

Gan1es players are often bolder and ,nore dra1natic than ron1u. 1tic lovers. And since drama doesn't con1e spontaneously

to ever)'One, this next section outlines so,ne possible prcli1ninary interests.

SETTI NG TIIE SCENE

Ir's not just )'Our O\Vll acrions that n1ake a sexual encounter special -it can

be the an1bicncc of the roozn that )'OU

are using. A gothic bedroont \Vith an iron four posrer bed ond blood-red drapes is naturally going to 1nake

a stronger i1npact than a shabby roon1, \Vith a broke11•do\vn \vardrobe in one corner and a chair \vith one leg

missing in the other.

T A K E T H INGS GENT LY

R E H EA RSA L IS GOOD

If you feel nervous, remember that rehearsal helps. There is no la"'to say that you can't rake ti111e to explore your fantasies. You might start by si1nply talking then, through. That \V3) , you

\viii feel safe. And ,vhen you see that nothing :,,a\vful happens, then perhaps )'Ou \\•ill be a lirtle bolder next time.

Jusr because you rehearse something sexually does.it't ,nean that it n1ust be artificial. In fact, if it feels that \vay, then you may need to rake things very slo,vly i11deed .The ,vholc point about anything sexual, be it quick or s1o,v, is that it should feel \\tonderful.

Going into ne\V sex ideas slo\vly, so that they are graduated, is a,vay of reassuring both yourself and a nervous lover. After all, mosr people do look for "hand-holding" as ,hey discover nc\v sexual layers to their perso11ality.

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LOS I NC Y O U R I N H I B I TI O N S

One of the best sex skills that you can le.arn is the art of truly letting go.This means feeling completely at ho1ne in you r bod)'and focusing exclusively on the erotic sensations that you are

giving and receiving.

SEXUA L SELF-CR ITICISM

\'(le often ,vorry about ,vhat ,ve look like during sex. Rather than givi11g ourselves up to the

mon1ent, an inner voice says things like, ..J must look ridiculous!" \Ve can fall into

the trap of feeling anxious about ho,v ,ve smell, taste or even sound. All of these concerns can diminish our

sexual repertoire so that:

E R OT IC BO DY C O N F I D E N C E

• ,ve srop making love,vith the light on

• ,ve stop n1aking love in certain positions

• ,ve may refuse sexual acts that ,ve e11joy bec.ause,ve feel seU•conscious.

LOVE YOUR BODY

The ans,vcr to this proble,n is r,vofold.

F;rst, n1ake an effort to keep your

body in the best possible shape.

Ntake an objective assessme1tt of

you r body and then decide if you ,va11t ro

change anything. Bur rcmcn1bcr: never try to conform to idealized n1edia in1ages of anracriveness. Simply ain1 for sn1all improvements that ,viii 1nake you feel sexually confident.

Seco1td, i( you can't change anything, then learn tO love your body exactly the ,vay it is. If you do this, your parrner ,viii feel the same. People ahvays respond to those ,vho are positive.

Being open and uninhibited arc r,vo of the sexiest qualities a person can possess. Also, ask yourself if you ever really scrutinize your partner's body during sex? If )'OU don't, then isn't it highly unlikely th;;1t they ,viii do it to you?

L OS I N C Y O U ft I N H l 8 J T l 0 N S -

\Vhen dressiog for sex, rhe rules are si1nple.

\'(/ear right clothes that ernphasize the curves and contours of your body and dra,v the eye to rhe genitals, chesr, or burrocks. Clothes

should be extremely difficult to take off (rhe idea being th.it you tease )'our

partner into subn1ission ,vhile re1naining inaccessible), or

extre1nely easy co remove.

LOOK THE PART

If you are goi,,g 10

play sex ga,11e.s. )'Ou

,vant IO look and f e/

sexy at the outset.

S E X Y D ft ESS I N C

Subvert your normal dress codes: if )'OU dress dov,n in your everyday life, dress up for sex. If you normally dress very conservarivel)•,dress provocative!)'•Shocking your partner by "'earlng something unexpected al,vays has eroric po,ver. Add

rcalis,n to fantasies by dressing the part -devote a special part

of your ,vardrobc to sex ga,ncs.If (as a female) you usua lly ,vear pale, quiet cosn1etics, cry experi1nenting ,vith deep crintSOn lip stick. Huge dark lips are seen as universally sensual. And guys, don't forget, some ,vo1nen love men ,vho ,\,ear eye shado,v.

THROW A FA NCY DR ESS PA RTY

The condirion of entr)' is that guests musr dress as their favorite sexual fetish or fantasy.

• Tighr, shore leather -anything made of leather - has S.'.ldO masochistic overtones.

• Fake fur - this suggests decadence, especially i f you are naked beneath a fake fur coat.

• U11ifornis -sy1nbols of authority are ahvays sexy.Dress up

as a police,na11, fire1nan. doctor, nurse, or teacher.Servant and schoolgirl uniforn1s suggest servility a11d innocence.

• Cross-dressing-try to create at least .i mo,nent's uncertainty as co your rrue gender.

LO S ING YO UR 1NH 181T IO NS

FUN WITH SEXY

Undcl"\vcar has an i1nporrant syinbolic value in that it is the last ite1n or clothing you ren1ove berore sex. \Vhen unden\lear ls silky

and SC>1- ',it can have a ,vonderrul aphrodisiac effect, 1naking you reel great and ensuring that

your partner is longi11g to get their hands on you.

SEXUAL SHORTHAND

As \\1ith. any cosn1n1e, unden\1ear can help you play a sexual role ,virh co11vicrion. If you are

a voman and you ,vant to play innocent and virginal, choose pure ,vhite under\\'e.tr

in silky fabrics. Co11fidence and experience is conveyed by block suspenders, stockings, panties, and bra. lf you ,vant to ntakc a

bra1.en sraten1ent of lust, ,vear a red bustier. Use u11denvear as a sexual shonhand ro r-ell your partner ,vhat kind of sex you ,vant.

F UN W lTH S EX Y UNO ER \VEA R

Men have fc"•cr types of undcr,,,car to choose frorn but, nevertheless, should not get con1place11t about u11derclothes. Instead, buy soinething your part11cr ,viii find arrractive. Slack, silk boxer shorrs are a good start. J( you don't kno,v ,vhar she likes, try the follo,,,ing exercise.

EROTIC UNDERCLOTHES

Dra,v up a list,vith your partner of the types of under,vcar )'OU find sexy and those that you cannot stand. So1nerhing like: Sexy:

• Tight shorts {1nen & ,vo1nen) • Sec-through bras

• Black straps • L)'Cra • Bright ,vhitc undcr,vear

U11sexy:

$11us & Stripes boxer shorts • Anything yellow • Socks

• Tights • Strap n1.1rks

LO S I N G Y O U R I N H I B I TI O N S -

If you're nor used ro stripping, the follo,ving excrcist> can help. Stand in front of a full•lcngth ,nirror, pretend that you're alone and very slo,vly rake off all of your clothes. Take tirne 10 rea lly

..lo"•ing do,vn the pace even n1ore.

f inally, turn

\'Our back on

hhn, tti\d slip

your panties off.

S E X Y U N O R ESS I NC

look ::it your body i11 rhc mirror and rouch yourself in ,vhrucver

,vay you "'an1 to.

DELIBER ATE 1>ROVOCATION

\Vo111eu I f you ate co,nplerel>• coo1forrable undressing for your partner.ain1 for deliberate teasing. Look him in the C)'c and slo,vly re,nove each gannenr, caressing your skin as )'Ou go.

\'{then you arc ,vca ring only your undcr,vca r, rcasc hiin by

;7,o,, cul<led erotic1;1'm

J f it 1n.ikcs you feel better,or less shy, let your man hide in che next roon, and ,vacch you arou11d rhe side of ,he door.

,\'fen There is a right

,var and a,vrong'"ay of gcning

readr for sex. Take it slo,vly. l)on•r end up St.1rk naked except for your socks.

The best \\'.l}' is to ut1dress e.tch Other,even

if you end up rippi11g the clorhcs off.

TI PS FOR STR I PPING

• Avoid ganncnts ,hat )'Ou have ro pull over

your head. \

• Don't ,vear rights or socks.

• Drop e;ach garinent on the floor as you cake it off.

• \\i'car sexy under\vear that your panner has never seeo before.

LO S ING YO UR IN' H l 81TI ONS

,\1A K J NG Tl-I E BODY EROTIC

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MA K ING THE BO D Y

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J \'Vea r a piece o( erotic je\velry under your

• l clothes and ask your )o\'er to undress you. Or

111ner arins, lhighs. and bunocks ca n be sexy discoveries for lovers to 1nakc. Even rhe ge1titals can be tattooed.

Less pennanenr oprions :ire henna tattoos or those that lasr for 1ust a (e\\' dars and can be rc1noved \Vith oil. You ca,1 even have re111porary tauoos custo1n•1nadc. Give your lover a surprise:

\ i give erotic je,velry as a sexy presenr. Choose a

.1pply a ten1porary t:Jttoo a nd then tell rhe,n rhat you have a

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./ roe ring, ankle bracelet. navel deconuio1l, or

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..l-;11. \vaist chain. You cao even buy genital je,vclry.

EROT IC PIERCING

There is a ge1tenuion of people \vho associ:ue body piercing

\Vith sexual feelings. A ring through the nipple, they S3}'•feels sensual to then1 and fascinates their pa rtner. Piercing is ccrcainly an excellent ,vay to dra,v attention to a particular part of the bod)'. such as navel, lip, tongue, or cycbro\v.

TO TATTOO OR NOT TO TATTOO

A tarcoo is a major co1nmit1neru -once the skin has been injected \Vith indelible dye. you gai1t a body adornn1ent that lasts for a lifetime. Nevertheless, many people eojoy the psychological rhrill of having a tarcoo. Hidden tattoos, on the

,1•.crct on your body that only they ca11 find.

IHE TATTOO AS ART

f.utoos a re rcgardcd by 1n..1ny people as ,vorks o( 1llus1ra1ion. \Xlhen you see

,orne of the an1.1z.ing f.1pancsc.•..body suits,.. rou

i!t't an inkling as ro \vhy they 1night bel ieve this. One heavily rattoocd 111an even

,,•ent so far as ro sripulare rhat "•hen he died his skin should J.,..,•, rernovcd so that it n1ight

o on pcnnanent display!

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LOS ING YO UR INf-l lBIT IO NS

GETTI NG SEX Y WITH

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Good sex often conc.1ins an ele1nent of hu,nor.and using bod• paints is 3 ,vonderful ,va)' to ha,•e fun.C:<plore )'Our panller"s body.share inti,nacr and eroticis1n, and revert to childhood a ll at rhe sa1ne cin1e. Not to mention feeling great afrer,vard!

USE YOU R HA N DS A ND FI NG ERS

Use paints that are designed for use 011 rhe face or body, and if you don•, have any, i,nprovisc ,vith lipstick. Ooo•r vorry about using a p<iintbrush - che sensual pleasu re of dipping your fingers in the paint is parr of the experience. Or you can cover

your h:l nds in paint and ltave hand prints all O\'er each other.Aftcr,vard, bathe rogerher and soap each other's painted body all over.

N IPPLE PAI NTING

Nipf 1/es are 011t• of tbt n,osl st,uitive place5 to body•pai111.

C ETT l C S EX Y \l' !T t-1 B O D Y PA INTS

GA M ES

• Use glo"' i n-thc-da rk paint and turn the lights off.

• Give you r partner a sex change: paint breasts on him a nd a penis on her.

• Pain, a fruit platter 011}'Our partner's body. using the curves Jnd co!ltours of 1he body to suggest 1he fruit:,.

• Paint her nipples and then takt> prints on a blank sheec of paper.

• Dnnv patterns on her buttocks and then get her 10 sit on you.

• Blind fold your panner and 1hen color-code different parts of their bod}'•Ask rhe,n ro choose :l.

,olor and then sri,nulare that area .

• \Xlrire a sexual favor on your partner's back, hut don't deliv('r ir until 1hey guess ,vhat it is.

• Lick off edible paincs.

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LO S ING YO UR INH IB IT IO NS S E N S U A L \1A SS A GE

lclcan!), son1e s,nooth pebbles, son1e plastic food ,vrap, a ribbo,1, a siring of beads, a pin, a fork, a piece of lrarher,and son1e PVC. No\,, )'ou're all se1 to test your parrner's sensory skills.

The skin is the body's n1osr u11der cxploitcd sex organ..\il:;issaging )'Our part11er is a unique \\f3)' to feel close. give and receive blissful sensa1ions and kindle passion.

Massage can be a sensual exercise in irs O"'"

right or a prelude co sex. You don't 11ced all)' special skills in order to perforn1sensual n1ass.1ge -just your hands and a vivid in1aginacion.

ASSEM BL E YOU R M ASSAG E PRO PS

'lake a props box for ,nassage ga1ne-s. This is rather like a children's ,oy box except th::i,. instead of roys, you (ill it ,vith a diverse assorrmenr of fabrics. h0\1sehold iterns, a nd other tactile objects.Pick objects thar feel soft and co1nforting, such as silk scarves.feathers.soft make•up brushes, and furry fabrics but also include things that provoke novel sensations. For exa1nple, a rubber glove, a hairbrush, a rolling pin.

a pumice stone.a tennis ball, a furry pain, roller

A SENSO RY VOYAG E

Ask your partner to lie do,vn and put on a blindfold so that he concentrates exclusive)>• on the sensations he is about to

receive. Tell hin1 ,ha t he is going to l>e treated to

a tactile fe;,1st. Start b)'stroking hi1n ,vith a 111ake-up brush on his ten1ples, then his burtocks.then the soles of his feet. The

•n1assage'' tha, follo,vs should be as diverse

.u1d creative as possible. For exa,nple, drog rhc fork lightly across his chest:

LO S I N G Y O U R I N H I B IT I O N S

rest his sensitivity to tiny pin pricks all over his bod)';caress his genirols ,virh the rubber glove; use the hairbrush to hr\1Sh his pubic hair; press the- pebbles into the paints o( his hands, 1nassagc the backs of his thighs ,vith the rolling pin. Try touching his

genitals "'ith all these different obj«:rs.

rvtakc rour fnassage as inreracrivc as possible. Ask question.$ such as:

"'Ca" )'Ott fc / tl1isf "

"Catt you feel it here?-

'"Do )'OH /ike tlJatf -

"\Vbicl, do yc>u like best?..

Part o( the fun or the 1nass. ge

is asking the rc-cipient to guess

,vhat rhe n1assage to)' is (and

seeing his race

,\'hen he finds out later on).

S E N S U A L l\•t A S SA G E

Ifs also a11 opponu 11it)' to discover \\1hkh pans or your lo,•er's bod)' are 1nost and lc-ast re<:eptive to different 'JX'S of couch - valuable infonnation that you can store up and use latt•r ,vhen you n1ake love.

l ASSAG E - THE BAS I CS

The only guidelines for giving a 1nassage are: keep )'Our hands in contact "•irh rhe skin as rnuch as possible.ask For feedbackt and don't do anything rh:1t huns.You -can n1akc your rn:issage strokes good a nd sn1ooth by using 1nassage oil on your hands. Ask your pa rtner to lie.> naked on a "'arm tO\\•el.

You don't need an expert"s repertoire of strokes to give a good n1assage:jusr re1nen1ber to use deep kneading pressure on 111uscular areas such as rhe shoulders, back, buttocks, a,,d thighs, and gentle Feathering srrokes on delicate areas such as the face, joints\ and belly. IF in doubt, use a gentle gliding stroke "'ith flat hands all over the body.

I..OS INC YO UR INl--t l B IT IONS

LEARNING TO ENJOY

Jif-!YOU£

l.EA RN INC TO ENJ OY S E LF •TO UC H

TEASE YOURSELF

Slo,vly undress youtsel f. Put son,e 1nass.agc oil on your hands and explore the co1nours

or you

r bod)'•If )'OU find arc-as or muscle

Believe it or not, self•rouch is a good ,vay of learning to feel confident - or at leasr.confident in )'Ourself. Titernpisrs'"orking

\\ ith ,vont en experiencing difficulty re.aching orgasm found that rhe more they got to kno"' their bodies and sexual responses, the n1orc certain rhe ,von1en felt about other aspecrs of thei r li"es.

Here's ho,v u;, proceed. Prepare in advance. Nloke sure you have a '"arrQ, con1fonable roo,n,and above all, complete privac)'•Think about 311)' erotic props that )'Ou ,vould like to use: a book of sexual f:.tnrasics, 1nassage oil, a sex toy, or siinply a glass of '"i nc. Then rnake sure these are close to you.

TAKE IT SIOWLY

Don't be in .1 rush to undress - start b)' touching yoursel f rhrough your clorhe-s and concentrate on the various sens:uions in a ,va)' that you 1na)' 1\0t have tin1c to ,vith a parrner. R.1rhcr than touching you r genir;;i ls straight a,vay, caress your lips,

oeck, nipples.ond belly \\lith your fingertips.

tension. knead thcn1 a,vay ,vith your hands. Stroke and rub your

pubic area and buttocks, bur don•r actually couch )'our genitols . Keep yourself aroused by touching erogenous arc-as of your body then starr ro neetingly rouch your genitals.F'ocus on the sensations all O\'Cr your bod)' and listen carefully to you r

brc:.tthing. itake a noise if you

feel like it and let your n,ind

,vander ioro erotic fantasy.

No,v concentrate more on your genitals, but

resist rhe

LO S ING YO UR INI-I IBJ"r1o s

urge ro 1nast\lrb3te to orgasn1. If you a rc getting too excited, slo\v do\vn. Pretend that you are teasing a lo\'er. f n rhis ,v.iy. keep yoursel f on rhe brink of orgasm for 20-30 minutes.

AFTERPLAY

\'<'hen )'Ou h3ve reached orgasn1.don•, jun11> up and get dressed. l11stead, lie b 1ck and enjoy the post 4orgasn1ic feelings of relaxation. Close your eyes and concentrate on hrearhing deeply. i\lo"e rour palms in big ci rcles around your bell•and. if }'Ou feel like it, d rift off into a light sleep.

CHA:-.IGE YOUR ROUTINE

Be experin1e11tal ,vhen rou n1asturbatc. Oo

\ I thing!, that you \vouldn't nonnally do. Touch

l yot)rself ,vith different

l.f.A ll N I N G TO E N J OY S E L F•TO U C H

, fc ho11 ItjJJ'

Think of the session as an act of sclf4lo\'('.Believe rhat you dcscr\'C every erotic scnsatio11 that )'Ou ca,, give yourself. Don't just otxxliently stroke your skin..Vlake this an occasion for giving yourself a sensua l tirne in n1anr ,v:1ys -hence the suggestion of a drink. You n1ight like to put on gorgeous 1nusic, or curl up 011 a sheepskin rug. Don't hesitarc to add 1nassagc oil or a vibrator, if that is ,vhat you \\'Ould like.

textures - a silk scarf or a Strini of bca<b. •lasturb:ue in front of the n1irror, looking at yourself fro111 different angles. Cover you rself in oil. Put rour fingers in rour n1outh and explore rour tongue and the insides of )'Our cheeks. Dcscrihe ,vhat )'Ou are do1og out loud. 1,t1sturbuc ,virh the other hand. 0<). it in

an unusual place. Be inventive ,vith household props. And ren1e1nher

that no-one's ,,•:1tching you.

LO S I N G Y O U R I N H I B I T I O N S

SHA R ING

!?7aatas£&

Sharing a fa ntasy is the best son of spontaneous sex game. There are lotsof ,vays of acting out the blue ,novics of )'Our in1agination: you can ,vear costun,es, you can decorate your bedroon1. or you can rely purcl)' on in1agination and role-play.

Get together'"ith your partner, and discuss the fantasies that you enjoy, those thar )'Ou are ambi"alent about. and the ones

rhar you dislike. This helps establish rhe ground rules for g:'llnC•playing. Be

con1plctel•honest. but also be 11011•

judg,nenral. You can expl:lin to your parrr1er thnt )'OU don't'"ant tO try a particular fantasy, bur

don't criticize their sexuality.

focus on so,neo,1e

,vho is

S H A R I N G FA !':TAS I E S

not your lo\'er, tread ,vith caution. Although you 1nay kno,v that rou have no intention of sleeping ,vith your ne,v co1league at "'Ork. you cnn easily n1ake )'Our partner fed insecure.

EN ACTI NG FA NTASI ES

Cl,oost a fa,•orite sex scene from a film, such as the food scene in 9,,1 \Weeks, a11d re•ellact it in the same place ,vith the sa,ne props. \'<'atch your sex scene in a ,nirror for a cincn1atic effect.

\'(!rift do1v11 different fantasy roles or char::1cters on pieces of

paper. For cx,unple, slave, reacher, virgin, or

prisoner - or maybe so,neone fa,nous - and then interact in character.

Pick a f-:uuasy then1e and decorate your bedroom in that style -nla)•be an orie,nal boudoir, a Kau,a Surra• style palace bedroorn. a bedouin tent or a den full of sex roys.

EX PLO R ING TA BOOS p

Son1e people ,vorr)' that their fantasies

are a sign of a deviant sexuality. For insronct\ fa,nasies about the sa1nc sex,

LO S I N G Y O U R l H I S ITI O N S S H A R I N G F' A N T A$ 1 €S

or sex involving force, can n,ake people feel ,vorried ,bout their unconscious 111oti\'C'S. Actually.the 111ost comn1on explanation for fanrasies is that ,ve are naturally dra,vn to things rhat ,ve perceive as forbidden. naughty, or taboo. l'io"•cvcr, although

these taboos arc erotic in our i1naginations.

,vc don't usually ,vant thcnt to happen in real life. because they \\'Ould probably

affect rhe ..s. fc."' e"eryday i1nag<-. s that

,vc projoct. If you ha\'e a fantasy that

)'Ou are nervous abou11 here is a gan1e to help you.

EJ:r11ttafy .i•wrtj;}t/ {9

Revealing fantasies takes courage. \Vie n1ay fear shocking our partner or being the object of hu,nor, ridicule, or even disgust. The ,vay to overcome this is to n1ake a pact 10 take n1n1s to s,vap fantasies. Start gently, and progressively spice up your fantasies.l11e only other rule is that your rcspeetivc fanrnsies n1ust be of equal '"value". For instance, if )'Our partner describes an exotic fantasy.then yours must be equally,vild .

corlNG WITH FEARS

Choose one "'strand" or aspect of yo\lr fantasy and explaio it

to your panner. TI1e strand rou choose should be synlbolic and should capture the 1nO:,t erotic aspect of your fantasy. For cxan\ple, if •ou fantasize about being forced tO have sex by a stra nger.tell your partnet that you ,vant hi1n tO make love to you '"hen you arc least expecting it and that he lllUSt continue his seduc1io11 even if >'OU protest. Don't forger: it is "ital to

build rules into g:unes like this. Al\\'ays ha, c a prc-arr.ingcJ code ,vord thar either of you can use at any point

if you ,vant the game ro Stop. (See The Rules of the Gan,e. on page 14.)

LO S J NC YO UR INH l& IT IO NS

CREATING

Jceaeo/

lost of us ,hink of bcdroo,ns as just places to sleep. Big rnistake. For plac<.'S to sleep a re not at all the sa1ne as places in "1hich to have sex. The atn1osphcre is seriously differeoc.

GOTHIC RITES

Focus rour in1agination on a black ,\lrought iron four poster bed fcsrootled ,\lith drcp blue drapes that tun1ble over the

struts and ,vind around the posts. The lighting is stricrly candle

po,ver, ,vax dripping

AM B IENCE

CO<>tl sex - and

C R E A TI N G S C E NES

fro1n a silver candelabra while • red shade is pulled do,vn across the "'indO\\'. Whot do you feel as )'OU peer in. hal f.hidden by ,he gloo1u? Anticipation?

Curiosit>•? Fear? Already your pulse is rnci11g and your n1ind roars rhrough a

series of darker possibilitit>s .

You are a l ittle aroused

before another ntO\le is n1ade. For a sex game in an arn1osphere like this, you n1ight pretend to be a 111onk and a novice 11un.

100RJSH I M AGES

\Yle gain ideas of sensuality frorn ,vhar ,vc sec around us. If you

good sex gan,es -

require a $e: y

find )'Ourself in a Turkish roo111 for exa1nple

dr:iped ,virh the

at,,,osp/Jer.

purpl<.'s and reds of rhe desert, a lo,v platforrn bed and layers of

brightly c.:olored rugs, \\1h:it do you think of? \Vhat cornes to 1ny 1nind is cra,vling across thar ,vidc bed, pla>•ing, n1ovcn1e11r, and exploration - ma)•be prcrending 10 be a slave and the Stilran. or rhc frightenrd virgin seduced hy the pirate of the d<'.SCrt.

LO S I N G V O U R. I N H I B IT I O S -

11' THE BATHROOM

1r you ,v:111t to rransfonn a roon, quick!)'•the barh1•oon1 is ideal: turn the light off and just add candle-s, perfunted oil, bouquers

or flo,vers.:lnd clouds of stea1n. A beautiful bur casual b<.ach

hotel in Los Angeles decorares its bathing facilities in rhe lollo,ving \Vay: each bathroo,n possesses a huge ,vindo,v thar opens into the bedroon1 so rhar you can sit in )'Our s,virling jacuzzi and look rhrough borh roon,s to the picture \\•indo,v on rhe far side of the bedroon1displ:lyi 1tg rhe beach a11d the sea. The sceoe in front ol }'OU is an1.1zins:it's g.rcen and blue and bleached 0111. It feels like the best kind of holiday.

C R. E A TI NG SC E N E !)

TRANSFO RMING YOUR

OWN BATH DECOR •

Nor everyone has the Pacific Ocea n as a backd rop.but \\1ho is ro say \VC cannot create our 0"'" si,nulated vie,v? Think seriously about faking a ,vindo,v in the

hathroo1n door b}' positioning on the door

a painting or photograph of:

• the sea (stinu1lates ideas of lat)' surnmer sexuality)

• rhe sky ( Easten, notions of spirhu::i l sex)

• the tropical rain forest (a11nost too hot to n,ove, dripping

\\'et as in fevered sex).

ACCESSORI ES

Good accessories really make a seosual b:uhroo1n. Tr}' lirrlc

booklets of love pOCtry dotted around the roon1, a basket of s,veet•smelling night1iglus.exotic

bathsalrs, ro1na1nic music, or a handful of fresh crlmson rose petals scattered

.icross the s,\tirling green ,vaters o( the bathtub.

,•

PLAYING WITH

When you move from the sensua l world of massage to that of sex games, the first thing that )'Ou can incorporate into you r love life are certa i n sensua l props and accessories. If you 've never experienced the teasi ng of velvet or the slither of sil k across you r quivering skin, you now

have a variety of new joys and delights to anticipate, over the following pages.

.... .

PLA Y I N G U'I TH PROPS

SEXY AC CESSO R IES FOR

Nlost of the best sex ga,nes use props - ire1ns char excend and enhance the action . If straighl sex is your f:1,•orite, chen a vibrator still 1nanagcs to add to the excicen1enr. If someth111g darker gets )'Our pulse racing. blind folds.restraints. sex toys. carcfull>'chosen prenrs, or leners that leave you stean1in all extend your experience of sensuality. On the follo,ving pages Idescribe in derail son1c choice items rhat you ,night consider

using ,vith rour panner to deepen your o,vn shared sexua l experience. Begin '"ith the basic but sensual blindfold.

S i; X Y A C CE S SO R I ES F O R P L A Y E RS

A blindfold offers o sense of helplessness. Ir lers rou feel vulnerable. You don't kno"' ,vhere •ou are ,vhen rou ,vear it.You have no idea ,vhat obsr:1cles you 111ay Ix facing. Your ,nind srarts racing as

,-ou in1aginc ,he ha1.ards thar lie outside your ocular range

.1nd •our anxiety levels go up ;1nd up.

It is these S\\'irli11g en1otions that the astute Gaines

.\ l,1!1ter/1•1istrcss picks u p on and sagel>' uses. For cxa1nple. rnost garnes of res1ra1nt include sornc

,ersion of a sofr scarf

tted around rhe I

t•,•e( or a black

,1•.l\'et eye 111ask.

h\,not just chat

:h,, player feels

.:.n.ncr prickles

,.r sensuality as

t•lies rhere

uund and blind. It is 11,o that he offers an

lJ'pt>tling sight 10 you,

..,t Gaines listress.

SEX UA L

P L A Y I N G W I T H r R O P S S E X U A L I N I T I A TI O N R I T t-.$

n11gh1 include: rhe (,(Cflt of n1aS(;:JC oil.

gaittatio-JZI 9Ptte£!

All d rt>ssed up in leather or rubber a nd looking fot sonH•\\•here ro go? \Xlhat about a trip ro the Gan1es Acaderny:> Perhaps rou

\\'Ould like to qualify as a G:.ln1es ).,lasrel'livtistress officia lly? l ut if you ,vould, )'Ou ,viii have to pass rhe initiation ritt s.

TAK E THE TEST

You a nd you r partner can

rake turns tryini the

follo ving - thl' reci pient

should be bl ind folded

thr<>ughout !

• ldcntif)' the odors of sex. You"rt" offered a \'arie•of unusual

Steins and ::iskcd to say

"•hich you associate

,vith ,\•hat aspect of the sex acr. llh se

IX'r)pirntion fron1 rhc annpir. the odor of

ruhber.se1ninal fluid. a11d v::ig111:.1I juices.

• Identify tactile tf rnprarions. You are offered

.1 ,-.1riery of unusual n1aterials and tex1ures ro

,;nnunent on. TI1esc 1nighr include: silk. s:1.rin. fur, rc..nhers. ic.:e, toorhpasre, or lubricating jelly.

• Identify the acces.!:<>ries of r<.straint. You are subject• l•c.l to the scns::ition of being lightly spanked (,vith a

111. nd), caned {\vith a very lighnveighr ba,nboo), paddled ,virh a

..oft suede car•o'•nin(' t 1ils, or s1i,nulated \\1ith a fur n1ir. The

pnzc for guessing right is an extr:,1 p::i nking.

• Identify the 1nix1urc <>f plcasur<" and pain. You are subjected to :trin,ul:uion ,virh ice cub<•.s: then rubbed ,vith deep heat;

S E X U A L I N l il A'r J ON R I T E S

having )'Our cars softlr breathed into.then nibbled co feclint, your neck kissed. licked. ;,1 nd then softly bitten: to ha,•ing your nipples first sucke<l.then lighrlr binen.

• The Stallion.You r undcrga nnents are paned and your gcnit.1ls exposed. The final pan of the test is to sec if yot1 can last long enough du ri ng intercourse for )'Our exan1incr to have an orgasn1 ,,•ithou r doing so yoursel f.

• If •ou pass chis test, you \Yill be a,va rded rhe J>rize for

Achicvc111en1. This consists of telling your partner exactly ho"' you ,,•ould like to have a cli1nax .

TAK E THE ADVA:,..iCED TEST

On another occasion. yot1 n13y like to play a similar ganlC ,vith

)'Our partner.This rinle, 111ake the situation feel that little bit nlOrc

vulnerahle and daring -e1lsu that there is no blindfold. You 1nighr:

• ,ie up the initia,e ,,•ith light restraints.using silk

Q cords to secure their hands to the head of the bed

To ,nake the test harder. forbid then1 at constant intervals 10 experience clin11x.Threaten rhen1that i f the}' do cli ,nax, they

,,•111 have failed. \Xlhich can only n1ean one thing. They ,.,,ill h,t\'e to re-rake the test on another occasion, u1nil rhcr have perforn1ed to your con1plc1c sruisfaccion!

\ CCESSOR IES

,\.; exa1nincr for the Gaines Acadenl)' you ,viii need:

• '-quares of s..itill.silk, vcl\'Ct

• ,1fur 111iu, feathers.ice.lubricating jelly,

,1r ,on1e orher sex lubricant

,1 paddle, a cane. a cat•o'•n i11e-1ails

nipple restr:.lints

<ilken cords, s"fc" handcuffs

\",1gina l and anal vibra tors 1nd plugs.

(

' ")

• or handcuff }'Our partner by one haod onlr to

) 1hc foot of ,he bed

(J .,,.. 1 • include vagina l pcnerra tioll ,virh a variety of

51 diffcrc1u sex roys

.. 0

• or an;,11 penetration ,virh s,nall vibrators or plugs.

P I.A Y I N C \t1 1TII l'R O P S f A N TAS I ES \'l? J TH U L I N D FO L D S

Perhaps as a re.suit of their i1npaired visual abilit)'. blind people often develop a greatl)' enhanced sense of hearing. Ccn;;1in noiS<."S get easily translated into internal 1ne.1ning. n1aking their rninds c..1pahle of racing a,vay to the most dran1atic scenarios.\'(lhkh is

,vhy using a blindfold ,,•hen lo\'en1aking can concentrate the 1nind'"onderfully. For a blindfold gan1e ,hH is hased on a long• standing a11d ,videly popula r sexual fantasy.emulate the great silent screen smr Rudolph Valentino. in Tl,e Sl,eik:

FOR THE WOMAN

Blind fold your ,vornan and tell ht•r you arc tak ing her i nto rht• ha rent of a Turkish

sultan. Sillce he is cxtrc:,nely ugly. she is 1101

all0\\1Cd to ser cy<'.S on hin,. Should

she even be caught peeping, she,viii

be under senre11ce of caning.

' Jn the ha rent she ,viii be

attended by eunuchs.

rhcse eunuchs ,nust prepare her for the sultan. TI1isprcp., rarion

,:onsists of oi ling and anointing her body and then sti ntulating hc. r gc.nittls so that she is "'ready"' for rhe great king. Your job 1,10 play the roles of rhe eunuchs and the sultan.

IOR THE MAN

Blind fold your ,nan and tdl hint rou are taking hint into a

1,1rent of exotic fe,nales.These ,vo,nen are allo\\•ed ro use him

•1.1ny ,vay that th<")' desire. As you ride hin1rou can forbid hint

•, .. li111ax. Ma11ipulare his body ,virh your hands tO place hirn in

.d,Ue\'er posi 1io11 is appropriate. The n1orc you use hint ,vhile

••rh1dding him to di1nax, rhe n1ore likely he is co disobey you .

62 63

P l,,\ Y INC \V l1'H P RO rs

FU N W ITH

[Yeat;Ae;

One of the most exotic couch temptations to con1e out of San Fr;,1ncisco in the heady da)'S ot che 1970s \vas the pc.icock feather 111.issagc. 1>eacock fea1hers look gorgeous.ski111 across the skin, and tick le che innoccnr recipien1 into ,vriggling sub1nission. The best scenario of all "'as ,vhen c,,•o gorgeous, near-naked roung 1nen anned the,nsel"es \\'ith phuncs and p\lt rhcir cager fe,nale

,lients rhrough 311 hour of couch ecstasy. And 1here \vas not even any sex invol "ed!For these gtunes you ,viii need 1,vo peacock

frathers or alternatively osct1ch plun1es and calcum po,vdt'r.

/Teatl,e{'!f ltps

• Check first rhar )'Oul' parrner is not allergic to feathers!

• Don't tie kno1s too tightly.

• Only pla)'tying-up g,1n1cs if you h,a\'C'

rour partner's consenc and use a code

,vord.

FUN \'t1 1T H f' EA TH ERS

SO HERE'S WHAT YOU CA N DO

• $\\•etp rhe plu,ne UP\\'ard on che inside thigh frOnl knees co genitals ..accidencallr••k11ocking the genitals as you reach thc1n.

• Sprink le your partner \Vith 1alcu1n p(>\vdcr and use the fe.1thc:rs co s,veep i1 lCl'OSS her body.

• \Vritc ..I love you- \\fith rhe quill O\'Cr and over agai11 on

your partner's naked bl'easts.

• TickIr rvery inch of your panncr's skin.

• Use rhis peacock couch as a sensual n1.1ssage prelin1inar}'•

SOFT STROK ES

\troke your part'1t!r

:,•,ti, a feather to

\, ,n/d erotitis,n and

••rfrease arousal.

P LAYIN G WITH PRO PS

SENSUA L

!!Ta61Y£&

FEASTI NG TH F. BODY WITH FA IIR ICS

Eqt1ip yourself \vith squares of silk, velvet ..and fur. Using a loni strand of velvet. blindfr,Jd your partner ;,1 nd lead then1into an excessively heated roo1n. ;\•lake sure that the roo1n is alread>'

sce1lted ,,•ith perfu,ne or ,vith a burning S\vCet• sn1clling incense. As they stand

there blindly.tell then1that

SENSUA L FA B R ICS

they 110,v have tO subn1it to anything you choose to do to thcn1.This is the cue to peel their clothes off slo,vly, and lay the1n

on a couch or a bed covered by a largc

piece of \'eh•e1. Tell rhe,n it is irnperative

that they lie ,vith their legs :.1part.

HEIG HTE N TH EI R A NTICI PATION

No,v is the cue ro stroke every inch of 1heir skin ,vith each of 1he sensu:11 fabrics that you have on hand. You can ,vhisk the f.1hrics across the 1nain pan of their bod)', tickle, a nd tease rhen1 \Vith each rnaterh,I, and finall}' use the nHnerials for

.H.:tual massaging. All the tin1e they ,viii be \\'Ondering ,vhatis going to hapJ)e1l bet"•een their legs. You keep then1,vaiting. inally.repeat rhc proct ss ,vith 1heir genitals.

P L A Y I N G \t'I TH P R O P S A S E X Y FU R FA N T AS Y

A SEX Y

!:Ttu(, !:Taatacs.Y

the troika is brutalJ, halted. Brigands seize you and haul you fron1 rhe sled . ..Strip.- 1hey say, and.in the bitter cold, you peel off all your gannc111s. You kno,v you ,\!ill freeze to death.

Then. as the

bri

ands leave. they toss the fur rug to,va rd you,

Give your partner a soulful and sexy experience ,vith this Russian-style sex ad\'cnrure. Tell your story :,1nd ;,,ct it otu a«ordingly. You ,viii need a fur rog or co;,,t for this g;,,.mc.

laughing at your nakedness. \'(frapping it around you, you st,1ggcr tO\\'ard a ,vooden hut on the ri1n of the forest. ACrer

,•ou ha"e built a fire there, you eventual!•fall asleep.

You arc Russian nnhles traveling at high speed across rhe SllO\\'Y landscape 111 your troika. \'\fr;,,.ppcd in a fur rug, you arc protected fro,n rhe biner Russian ,,1inter. Suddenly.

I n the n1<)rning you ,vake up to find your partner rubbing the fur

.1cross your body and ber"'<"Cn •our legs. Suddenly you are seized

.1round the ,vaist and turned o,uo }'Our hands and knees. You arc

r. 1ken fron1the rear.Your panner's hands reacl1 for,vard :.1nd 1i1nukue rou fro,n the fro1u. As you sink do"•n in the throes

of climax, you hear the ,vhinc of the ,vind across the sno,vdrifts outside. You kno,,, >'Ou ,vo11•r be

rescued for days.

P LAYIN G \'(I I TI I PRO PS

PLAYI N G WITH

Vd-1/(ato-ro

In the first of these g.anles.the ntan is Gan,es i\lastcr. In the second ga1ne. lite ,,,01nan is G:11nes Mistress. As \Vith all i1naginati\'e sex an,cs. the fi rst rule is rhar you nlUSt ,nakc

.ibsolurelr cerr:un your actions ,viii be \,•elco,ne.

HA l>PY U:S:•SIRTH DAY

"Today," says the Gaines 1astcr, "is your un hirrhday." He produ ces a beaurifullr \\'rapped p.ick.igc. h i your choice

,vherher or nor rou un,vrap it, but if you do.rhe act of un,vrappi1,g means that you agrre to fall in ,vith anything he rhen con1n1ands. Since only a serious n1asochisr ,vould NOT

P LAYIN C WITH VI B R ATORS

un,,1rap thr parcel. >'Ou naturally do so. Inside is a ri11y.pencil•

,li111.ladie,c;" \'ihraror."Take off your panrics,•• orders the

Ga,n<-'S i\lastcr. He sits on the sofa and orders you ro lie across h,, knee. He then begins to tick le and stroke your genitals.

'\;(•-.:t. the Games •laster produces the ladies vibrator,and

rk•asures your clitoris and labia ,virh the slim vibrating pe11cil.

••Keep your eyes closed at all runes OO\\',.. he co,n,nands. As you

,hediently shut your lids you are pleasu rabl•a,vare that he has h1tlc:d the riny ,•ibracor front your clitoris to your vagina . Or

•l.h he? This vibrator seen1s to have expanded so that it fills you

:i'•:\nd ir l\vists a11d ,vhirls illside }'Qur vagina i11the n1ost

exrraordinar•,nanner.Hovi• c:111 such a

tiny vibrator produce such sensation?

P LA Y ING ITH rRO P5

The Gan1es Ntaster's secret? At rhc ::ttJt1,c;•. ,vhen:you cl<> your e)'es he s,,•irc.hes che sli,n pencil \'ibrator (or a tuger.du,11. vibrator \\1hich heightens both your vagi11 1I and clitoral pkaure.

TRYING OUT OR THE TEA I

The C-an1cs listress tells you th:.1t if you ,vant to ph1y on th'-•

rc-an1•ou n1t1sc try out for it. Cl:.id only in :.1 T-shirt, you arc

,01n1n.1nded to c:,n,h rhe hall she pir,he-s to you. If you don•r catch it, you \\•111 he puo1shed. Het thro,vs are in1posihle to fie-Id. Punishn11.1H i:i. loo1nin$t, "Kneel do"•n." she i;o1n1nands. Fton1 behind you feel her ,ntach ,1 hard hand around the b,tse of youl' penis and :.t pl:.tsric leash \\1inding fro1n this hand benveen you r legs and round 1he h,1ck of your buuocks.

..Ans,ver this quesrion." she co1111nands.The question. ,vhcn it co1ncs.is in1poss1hlc. Ever•ri,ne you fail, she "'itches on :.1

P t A Y INC \'('I T H V IB R A TO R S

,fe.1-• f<tY• / ol',y ,i•!.1•

There is a huge ,•,1rie1y of \'ihrators ,n•ailable on the nl:-1rkct today. Son1e of these are specially dcsignrd for additional cliroral sriinul.t1ion .or feature irnaginati,•e extras.

D,ldo Bas1< Vibrator u•,111 ,10,•elt)• 1•il1rarors l'ibr,1tor c/11oral stunuldt<Jr

.'01•t'lty nipple

r \ Bos,r

conrrol and the band ,lt the basr of your penis

,1,id l'agi,u,/

llibrdl()r

f,,terch.1,igeable be.ids

cock r,,,g ,•ibrares. E,•enrually, she le-aves rht vibtaring

h,1nd on full tin1e ,vhile sin1uhaneousl •

111:1ss. g111g you by h.t11d. r\'.I. you cli1nax.

8en•tv:1

1•agnu1f b.1115

for 11ibrators to 1•,,ry

sense1tions

Cock

rtllk 1c11/J

.z,1.d $/11,i11/.1tor

you "'onder if maybe you acn1ally passed cl,e 1est af1et all!

P LA Y ING \11T tl P R O PS

GETTI NG INTO

You don'1 ha,,c tO be 3 fetishist to admire your lover's appc.1r:;u1ce \\'hen he or she dresscs up in shiny black rubber. And did •ou e\'er stop to think ,,•hat it feels like to ,vear rubber?

It clings to e\'ery pore of your skin, grasps and squeezes your flesh, slips. and slides as you exude yotir s,veer-s1nelling bod• odor inside ics tight confines. l11e heat that your bodr generates, trapped inside this sensual

coating, raises tcn1pcra1ures in ,nore

,vays than one. Rubber lovers rtport fetling so feverish, they fall upon each other ,vith passion.

DOi\tJNAT ION

Rubber clothes are a great prop f or p/t1yi11g $CUS11a/ don1inatk,n ga,nt•$,

GETTI NG INTO R UB B ER

DR ESSI NG GA M E

• Dress for a date in close-firring black larex. Tall black boots arc a

).,IUST. \Xlithout gi\'ing your parrner

any ,varning in :tdvancc, arrive at your 1neeting place, clad

accordingly. You ,viii look grec1t .

• Back i11 your apar11ncnt. hand your partner a bonle of specia l oil and ask hint/her co rub it in - to you r outfit!

• \'v'hen it co,ncs co ra king the outfi1

off, rnake sure that your under,vear

{also rubber) is the specialise sort that allO\\'S for lo\'cn1aking ,vichout ren1oval.

• I-land your pa rtner ,he bonle of oil and ask hirn/her to rub it into

the naked parts that arc no,v exposed.

• Then rub him/her ,vit h

oil and slip and slide back

and fortl1 all over each other.

P L A Y I N G \'(' IT H PR O PS G ETTJ :,,:G A L L \'('R,\ P P E O UP

D R ESSI N G U P IN

Cf ed /

\\i'ct-look leather offers all rhe appeal that plastic food ,vrap docs

,1nd n1orc. Leather is also a recognized fashion n1.1tcri.1l• .'Ind sho,vs for lt'athcr lovers are a rcgul.1r p'.lrt of rhc fashion season.

GA MES

• Hold you r o,vn fashion sho,v. \'Vhcn your partner buys, force then1to par in kind.

• Dress up in leather for sex. Put on fc-1ish undenvear.aod insist rhar rour panner docs likc,visc before you agree to sex .

' .ttH. food ,vrap 1nay not ha ,•c ben •our fi rst choice of

,, toy. bur it c:t11 be uhtly pro\'ocarive and su rprisingly

"'11tu: "'hen used in i,naginati\'e "'a •s. You could rry:

"1ndinjt your partner's torso in such a ,vay as t<> rnake her

•,:.,-.rs ju t our fro,n the ,vrapr> ing. ,vith th<.•nipples rightly s..l \.ed in rhe plastic

"1nd1ng het\\'CC1l your pann,.-r's legs so thar her labia arc '.f'!'l..'d open under a layer of plastil' food ,vr.tp ,hat does nor

obstruct rhe entr.u1ce tO chc vagina.

Or around his scrotunl to forrn :l. kind

u of

testes rin , or :lround the shaft of

lus penis with onlr ,he head left free.

Se, rhe appendix.

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P LA \'INC \t'I T H PRO PS C R EA T ING A 8 01'' 0

CR EATIN G A

IAl 'G,.. .... OMO'

.",' men and ,von1en, helplessness is a precursor of

4 sexual arousal. It is also a sex enhancer, since the state of mind the bonds evoke mea11s that you

experience the sex act ,vith increased sexual sensitivity.

THE PR ISON ER GAME

Forbid the prisoner ro 01ake a11y ,nove herself. Undress her, linger over her breasts and genirals, and "interfere" ,vith her. Tell het that as a cri1ninal she must be punished.

EQUI PMENT

You ,viii need so1ne lengths of light chain or silk tics. Ideally, the prisoner ,viii have pierced nipples and nipple rings. If she

possesses nipple rings, slip the chain or ties through these, rake 1t ro het thigh and secure it so that it ,viii be difficult for her to n10,t ,ery far ,vithout the chain or silk

:e r.11l1n::. on her breast.

TORTUR E THE PRISO NE R

Your conu re might consist of:

• ,vrapp ing the chains arouod her breasts and t,vcaking her nipples.or brit:fly slippi ng on a pair of nipple clamps and

,1hrating these. (You can no,v buy vibrating nipple cla mps)

• ,,•r.ipping the chains bcr,vccn her burcocks and slipping them l",et\vccn the folds of her vagina then masturbating her like this

• treating her body like a table and eating off her

• relli1,g her to kneel on all fours and, as you 1nasturbarc her, order her co keep compleutly still. If she ,noves. rou

"ill fitop r<>u r action

• n1oving the chains to each side of her inner

:highs and riding her yourself.

< O I FORT

•,•nu l,i,,d l1er, e,isure

•,•.u she is co,nfortablt .

A T t-l l S EX l' t K C. E

There is a S\vathe o( people \\'ho feel extrcrndy po\vCrful in

their everyday lift and \\'ho are hatht.-d in ,elf.confidence. Yer it is these people ,vho need co he taken to cxtrc1nt"S in order to feel so sn1all th:.1, they c:i:11 rek1x. purring rhe,nsclvcs torally in

the versatile hands o( thi.' Gain(' ;\ l ac.tcr/).listress.

THE SELF-A BASE M E NT G A.\ I E

This is a gan,e based on teasing and ,vorks \,•ell \Vith pO\\'Crful nlen \vho respond erotically to hu,nili:ltion.

• Persuade your ,nan to he tied up. If he con1pl:,11ns.tell hi1n you ,viii pron1ise hin1 :i:nything he likes after,va rdc..

• \'(lhen he is str.,pped up in ac. pro\'OCativc a ,n ,nner as possible (you 1night ,vind the ties around his

genitals), tell hint: ..So you 1hought you ,verc going to get all kinds o( sexual favors for agreeing to this. You poor fool. You really fell for it. didn•, you?

\'(lhat a stupid 1nan you are!"

• No,, Jc,crihe hi, nccdc: to hin1 and tell hin1 ho\\' pathetic thcr tre. Explai11 to h1111 rh:.lt you kno,,• he ,,•,n1ld liki•to do X. Y, and Z. Then

,net>r at thc ideas.

• St.tnd IllfrorH of hin1 and 1nac.turb:.11c.just loS(" enough o rh:u he can :,1l1nost touch you

- hur 1101 quite...!..I'd hct you'd like to do

1hi ," you rnight say. as rou continue ,,•ith

\ OUT sel( stin1ula1ioll. ..Oh.rhat feclc. good."

• If e,•co ,nore seH-ahasc1n<•.11t is ,,•hat he

-.ra\'e.lead h11n ::a round like a dog.ride hin1 like a

hor,c:• •ind Joke ,1hout his bizarre needs as you do so.

• f inally. give hint a pay•oU by stirnularing his genitals,

,dhng hun as rou do so that he hac: absoluu•. lr no

... ho1ce hut tO take ,vh:.1tcvcr illrcrfcrence you choose ro

.,J.. 1f Ollt CO hi1n.

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P L A Y ING \ 'IT H P R O P TH E S IC ST IC K

C-an,ng and spanking 111;:iy sound

like painful experiences co some, but to ,nanr people a light slip of the

h;:ind or ;:i playful blo"•\\'ith a carpet beater brings the blood pleas..intl•co the

surface. tingling, a nd ,vanning the skin - all precursors of erotic arousal. This degree of spanki11g or caning sttngs.hut it does not hurt.

If your p.1rtncr's ad1ninistrations begin 10 ca use

pain, call a halt. Pretend pain is one thing, real rorrure is 101allr u,,acceprable.

TORTURE PROPS

Do111ittatio11 clothing and props ,viii enhance can111g.

SAFE I NSTR UMENTS

Carpet beaters. paddles, spatulas, ,vhisks, and sofr flails do

>lOT hun. Crops.rulers.and canes DO hu n so only use 1hern pa ringly.

GA ME - WHE R E WOU L D YOU LI K E I T?

• In this ga111e you offer your pttrtner light spank ing or

aning - ,vhichever ,viii be n1ost acceptable.

• You ask '"\Vhere ,,,ou ld you like it? Here or there?''

\'\'hen your pa rtner says "Here," then spank or cane

,on1e,\lhere else.

• \'(lhen your part11er protests, then do it so,ne,vhcrc dse again. The idea is to cease a nd tantalize.

Of cou rse, son1eci1nes you ,viii spank in the desired place. But the aim is ro frustrate your partner as much as to satisf)' them. But ,vhy frustrate your p.1rtncr? Because it rouses people.

.\nd any arous.al increases sexual turn•on.

P L A Y l G \'i:1I T H P R O P A K I N O I NC A C R E E \I E N T

A BIN D I NG thresholds. You delibt.•ratcl)'arrange the play so that son1ehO\\' your pa rtner never

eat

Spanking ga.111cs arc nor just a.bolu providing the rc,ipient ,vith pleasurable pain. Pia.red carefully. they arc also hu1norous episodes, since they depend on the conundru 1n of the••bind•• and the "double bi,,d •These double b111ds can be produced hr arranging rhe garne in such a ,vay that the player cannot'"in.

,vhate\'er ther do. For c-xunplc.you establish rules at the

et:. it quite right.

f HE "THANK YOU " GA IE

Ever•ti1ne rou p:,ddlc yo ir lover.he n1us1 S<l)'

"1h:1nk you ...

• I( he forgets because he's carried .i,,vay by the eroricisn1 of the stroke. he ,nust be penalized ,vith another stroke.

Use a leather $('t paddl"a,,d l()ear an eye 11rask for this enjoyable s/1attking ganu .

begiitniog - but then, as you pl:.lr the ga1ne. you suddenly change those rules \\'ithour '"an1111g. You in1pose 11e,v

••

• I f he doesn't sound enthusiastic enough. paddle ha rder.

• I f he sounds too en1husi;asric, accuse hi,n of over-doing i1.

• ,1ake hi1n count the 1,1rokcs.but then insist rhar he's got it

\\ ro11g - even (or e-specially) ,vhcn he has,l't.

,.HETY PR ECA UTIO KS

\\'ork out ,vh:1r your pan ncr "'ants to take in the ,vay of

:u1\1slunent. Do nor impose your O\\'n ideas. I f you are spanking,

•1110,•c all rings fron1 rour fingers first. I( you arc ten1pred to

...,nc lightly, try the i11stru1nent out on >'Olir o,vn hand first!

\nd "•hen you kno,v just ho,v n1uch of ;a sti11g it provides.

•link carefully before adn1in isteri,1g blO\\'S ro you r partner.

P LAYIN G WITH PROPS

The roo1n is d:.1rk. A single c:.1ndlc burns in a corner.You lead you r slave into the roon1 and order her to take off all her dothfS, There is a block sheet drn ped across rhe bed. The bed n1usr eirher be made of 1neral c)r be a four•

poster bed. so that there is somc,vhcre you ca n tie your slave up to.

PUNISH I NG THE BAO SLAV E

Your partner has been a bad slave. and you cxpbi11to he1•that bad slaves n1ust ahvays he punished for their ,,•ro11gdoing.

Order her to kneel against the bed. \X'hen she does so, tie her h,1nds ,vith soft tics

(,nen's 11eck1ies serve ,veil for this

purpose }.securing one to each side of the bed. Pull her anns fonvard as you tie her \\'rists, so that hc.-r naked rt-a r

B O N DA G E S L A V E G A 1\1 E

h exposed and her genitals are fully in vic,v. This ,viii n1akc her feel 1nore helpless and at the n1ercy of your desires.

Then you leave the roon1.Just ,,•hen she thinks you have forgotten :.1hou, her, you re•enter. And disco"er rhat she has 1novcd slightly. TI1is is total!)' forbidden.you tell her, and so

,he n1ust be punishc.-d. She protests, but unsuccess(ull)'•You n1iht punish her b)' nibbing her honom firsr so ,har it gets

\\•,1rn, and chcn spanking ir lightly to give her a shock. Each cnne you conte back inro the roo1n

,nu dis.cover she has ntoved.alld the punishnlCnt continues. You

•111ght lightly ca ne her.

1r n1:.1ybe prereod

•,, r.tpc her. ...

P L A Y I N G W I TH r R O P S

LOVING W ITH

/ YV-r&

Mirrors, placed at st rategic points i1, youl' roo1n of love. can be used for special ga,nes of exhibitionis1n and \'Oyeuris1n .and ahvars add a ccrfain frisson to sexual proceedings.

MIRROR CAME$

• You n1ight prctt"nd that the rnirror is a \\'indo"•i,uo the rooin next door. In that roorn are t,vo lover \vho arc pcrforn1i11g specially for you.

• You n1ight :;u1gle you r IO\'e1n1king so thaf you can ;;1ctually

L OV I N'(; \V I T I-I ,\11 R R O R S

,(;c the penis 111oving in and out of the vngina so that the

1nirror becornes a kind of porno rnovie. You n1ight position rou rst"li right in front of the ,nil'ror so rhat ,vatchi ng )'Ourself hccornes pan of a ga1ne of

,ub1nii.)iOn a nd don1in,uion.

• One of you rnight order tht.• other t<> do son1ething Sf)C('ificallr

xual that rher 1na•ne\'er have

\•1e,ved hefore. TI1is rnight be the

,1i.:t of fellatio or cunnilingus. or h.,,•in,g. sex on a chair in front of th<.•111irror.

• Your lover ,night tdl you that n b •<n1r job to turn then, on. You could do this by sri1nulati11g

, ourself ,vhile your partner is

"l•tlectcd ,vatching you.

• Your lo"er n1ighr assist

,>L1 h•1nas1urhating

1ncl f ai. he bcco1nes

•• reasingly aroused b•

,ul' reflt"Cted activities.

P LAYIN G W1 TH PRO PS

DOCTORS A N D

J \

I f the Grunes Master dectees that }'OU pl:t )' '"DoctOl'S and N\arses" (no

.tCtunl un ifonns requited ), and keep in

chan1crer it c.tn becon,c surptising1y sexy.

THE GA !E

De-cidc ,vhich of you is to be the doctOI' and ,vhich the nurse.

rf you ,vant co don a ,\lhitc coat (as the doctor).then feel free. But don't horhrr if this isn't reallr )'OUI'

scene. \'\fhcn )'Ou a rc properly in character.ask

D O CTO RS A N O N U RS E S

\,k your "patient" to corn,nent on the different degrees of

,t>nsation she is experie,,cing ,vhen you practice these different 1novcs on her. Next. ask hrr to ger on her hands and knees so ih.u you can do an inspection fro111 the rear.Using separate urgical gloves cxan1ine her anal opening and.aga in, ask her

70 r.1te the different sites fot sensation.

!•the patient is 1nale1 put oo surgical gloves.hold

1, peois and inspect it doscl>'•I f he has a foreskin, d

,1•1,,lc it do",n and n1casure the penis size. Slide ..,..,.,;a..,.:,,,

, ,ur finger around the head and across the top

•}us penis. Hold and nteasu re rhe ,vcight of his c11•lcs and stroke do\\•t\ 1hcconnection

.r"een rc.sticles a,,d base of penis.

)'Our patient to hop up on ro a cable (suitabl)' padded), havi1,g first rc,novcd rheit undet,vear.

If the patient is fc1nale. ask her to sptead her legs '"idc open and the1\ insert a surgically gloved

finger into her vagina and press on differe,n areas

aroond the entrance. Be gelltle as you do chis. but n1.unc.1in th(' professional air of the doetor.

+ •KF.;$ TO KILL

r , ,,,,, o,i "'ith

• outfits and

1< props.

r L A Y I N C "'I T H P R O PS

P LAY i 1G

Jt/ !liJ-b(,

Everyone kno,,•s the- old-fashioned \\'3' of playing rhis card ga,ne. For every loss during the g;un e.}'OU rc,no\'e an itern of clothing. If

• •ou a re playing ,vith a hunch of friends.

I this can be a d.1ring experi1nen 1. But ,vhat

about a private ga,ne bct\VC<.'n t,vo lo"ers?

Cou1dn•, \\'e dreun up son1e1hing a lirrle 1norc intin1ate? 1-lcrc's a sexier \'ersion of the gan1e for only t\\'O ph1ycr:..

TH E GA ME

The G:t1nes Master deaJs five c trds each. On the Stteogth of this fitst deal. you both place a her.

Value of the cards - highes t through to lo1uest:

• Royal flush - Ace. King, Queen, Jack and Ten

• \tr,1ight Flush - fi"e ca rds of the sa,nc suit in a running suit.

J--nr t.> ,.1n1rle. 9.8. 7.6.s

• • 1.; n - r,,l ,.trds.of any :.uit, but in order

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J'LA Y I N G ST R I P PO K E R

• Full House -three of one 11un1lx-r and nvo of another. for exan1plc, three 8s and t\\'O 6s

• A Triple -th ree of a kind and h,•o unconnected catds

• P:urs -t,vo pairs, for exan1plc, t\\'O 2s and t\\'O 3s and one unconnected card

• One pair -plus three unconnected cards

• Highest of a bad hand.No runs.no pairs -just the highest

card of a ll.

At the next dtal you can th ro\v in any poor catds a11d have nC\\' ones substituted. You bet again. The bening continues until one of you calls a halt. The last to bet sho,vs their hand. The

,vinncr scoops the por. The loser has to obey the ,,,inncr's instruction,.

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PLAYIN G WITH PROPS P I.A Y I NC S'r R I I' P O K E R

• subjeC'ring the loser to intercourse hur for a fc\v minutes only.

The srop•stan sti1nulation thar the loser ,viii experience

\\'ith chis 1nechod is ntaddening

,tnd provocative. h heightens hoth

.trousa l and i1npatience.

TA K IKG POSSESS I ON OF Tlit WI N N I K GS

The "'inner subjects chc loser 10 scx\1al forfeits. To make the game rnore intcrestiog. you rnighc scan ,,,ith lighter sorts of couch,carried out on the less sexual!)'significant pares of the body. From there 011the ,vinncr cashes in their stakes by subjecting rhe loser co i11creasingly blatant sexual forfeits!

Tlu:se forfeits might co11sist of:

• raking a rop and (if female) a bra off

• ntassaging, rubbing. and stroking chc breasts

• ,nassaging.rubbing. and sucking the nipples (yes. 111cn roo)

• removing clothing on the lo"•er hal(

subjc'ting the loser's geJtitals to any nu1nber of graduated

,tunul.Htons front stroking. through ro oral sex.or using a vibrator

R F..\ II K DE R

Oon't forger chat people often feel rnorc

,ulnerable ,vhen Olll)' a fe\\• of their clothes have been rernovcd

:h.111 if all have been cast to the ,vinds.Jf your partner is sh)',

1•.. 1(,ure the,n that 1hc slo,v process of re1uoving their cloches is 111 part of a heightening of sexu:tl tension rh:.1r ca n lead to 11.:rediblc loven1aking.

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P L A Y I N G \,;11 T H P K. O P

I F MUSIC BE TH E ))> )

:7o-od[!/%(}-()-{!/

The in1pa ct of sex 1s heightened br lll}'thing chat plants

suggc-stion lnside the heads of che plarers. O,,e of the tasks of che Ga,nt•, :'\ l .1)ttr, che,•efon:..n1ust he to arrange not just the decor of thC' l.ove Roo,ns but also the s1nall det 1ils -the little things that heighten the acn1os1>here. :'\-lusic b a vital pan of the a1nbicncc of any sexual situation. he it co aid straightfor,v3rd love,naking or co suggest son1ething n,ore progr:-t1n1ned.

I F ,\I U S I C 61:. T H E FO O D O f 1.. 0 \' E

\losr people k110"•about the i1npac1of the golden oldie "•hen he are played at full blast io the bcdroon1. The best sounds of 1 r.1nk Sinatra, Dea1\ 1\lartin. and Ella Ficzger.1ld have been

,n\\•1ng n1('n and ,von1en for half a century.And they a rc grear

- no doubr abour rh:'lr - if ron1iu1ce is ,vhat you arc looki ng

•,r. But suppose your r.1sre i( Gothic? O, d.1rker still? Suppose

,h,u you've ;tl\\•ays longed for is to be s,vepr 3\\'3)' by ani1nal

.\-.,ion? Or you \\'i)h ,o flo3c up co hea\'en on a cloud o(

,,,r,uic sexual puriry? The right n1usic is the key.

i lc•,•t• aYe 11,y suggestions:

R. tch,nani nov's Second

l Third Piano Conc<'nos -

•,\•11\•nt for passion

.>,do 's La,,1e11t fron\ l)ido

.\,•ueus by 1>urcell. sung

k,,yc Norinan - for ecsratic

,n111. rd Cohen'sJaz.: Police

•,,, Your AJau - fron1 the CD

•;d ,.,,, Your AJ,u, - ror definitely

,,\

I :.> ,• • • •

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P L A Y I N G \1/ I Tf l r• R O P S

The sophisricated Gaines.vlaster or

.\•lisrress kno,,,s that a camera can capture certain erotic 1no1ne1us. If you'"ant to recollect

rour naked ,nan standi1\g half in shado,v, looking at you ,vith unashamed desire, rhe next best thing to

reality is to keep his celluloid alter ego in your'"allet.

One ,voman sent her man a series of gorgeous snapshots (shot

,vith a remote camera mechanis1n) ,vher she posed as:

• an old-fashioned Ed,vardian pin•up in full period cosuune

• a do,ninarrix complete '"ith thigh-high shiny boots and a'"hip

• a dish at a banquet

• a sultry houri.

THE $:-J APSHOTS

\X ork out rhe idea that you \\1ant to rrans1nit. If the i,naginacion courns for 1

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S E X Y S N A P S H OTS A N O P H OTO G R A P H S

lot '"ith you, you ,von'c be pleased ,vith a full frontal \'ie"•,

,vhere one o( you is stimulating yourself directly to the camera. An image like chis leaves nothing to the irnaginarion .

The right ,va)' is to ser rhe can1era on automatic, then poset

.,uh your pa rtner. in an extre1nely compromising position,

•t>hind the clouded glass sho,ver door.You \\'on•r be able to

•f e\'erything in the resulring picture. Bur you'll offer some

•r,- ten1pri11g glimpses.

'n rhe other hand, a lot of gu)'S adore the full-frontal look so,

• •,t rule of rhe ga1ne, assess your parrncr's persona l rasres!

The adva1nage of digital can,cras is rhar the pictures \viii not "!.1,e ro be processed at the photo lab. The disadvantage is

•,Jt you might find co1npro1nising shors of yourself bean,ed

•ound the planer by e,nail via the internet.

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P LA Y INC \'\ ' !TH P ROP \ \t' R IT ING 1,0\lt. NO TES

WR ITING

$(}-€/ J \fo.t&S

r /.h The ,vholc ponll of a love note is to rc1nind rhe

£/ other pcn,on of rour existence and to <:ho"•

the1l1 that vou ca re. The hcst "•a,•to do thi, is to

4 • • '

Follo,,•this up hr dressing the part aod

,,•an1ng. at a b:i.r pc,s:,essing ,:;o,ne kind of a

,exual reputation. h is i1nporrant ahvays to

fulfill any xual or other pro,nise that

,ou 1night 1nake in a lo,,e, note.

• Or if •ou are a n1an: ••Young

tr.1nsvcstitc urgent! •SC'cks n1oral

,•catch their attention ,vith so,nething that excites. intl'iguC's. 01'

refonner. feet ,ne at tad:11ne Fifi'<:.''

sti1n\1lates thent. You ,night n1an-1ge this h>• 1naking then, laugh, ,vonder, or by directly turning d1c1n on.

GA M ES

• Lve a note tucked under the ,vindshield \\'1pcr oo your partner's cal' that says ..NicC' car. Ho,v about a rally? ..

• Seod an invitarion that nys "[sn,cralda Dian1ond invites

,•ou 10 a banquet. i\ taio course - Es,ncralda Dhunond .••

, Send half a phmograph - the top half -accompanied by a nore thar says."'if )'OU "'ould like infonn,uion on ho"' to

,H;qu1rc the other h:ilf, n1cct n1e at such and !tUCh."

• \X'rue a norc in the shape of n Classif ied Ad saying '"Young hooker ,u-edc; rescuing. lf you think yot1 1nighr be able to prc,•e1ll

l)rl'sS up in full drag. ;1nd rernc1nber. don't forger the eye shadO\\', Act the r,trf .tlld, \\'hO k1lO\\'S. )'OU ,night

.:.n c you r panncr a real thrill.

0'/ectro11/c looe !erte1w

Did you kno,v rhar there are ,,•hole sires on rhe lnrentet

µeared to,vards cornrnunicadng a little croticisn1 into your lo\'er's life? For exantple, 1u1uu,-kinkycords.con1 ,viii send

,our partt1er,co1n1>le1cly free of charge, :t ron1a1uic note, a11

,,Id Ed,vardia 11pi,1-up picture-, or a 110-holds•barred kink y

,Jrd. And there are ccrrain an sires 1hat offer very bcat1tiful

,,orks of erotic an, copies of ,vhidt can be do,vnloaded.

n1r 1ro1n ,,.1lkinj: rhe srreets.please 1nee1 n1c at Jin11nrs' gar ba r •

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P L A Y I N G \V I TH P R O P S O R A 1 1N C V P S E X Y C I FT S

DR EAM ING UP

J J[/b

As ,vith all suggestions in th is book, you need to assess your panner's individual likes and dislikes. That ,va>', you \\'On't

pitch presents and love notes ina ppropriate ly.

-f5>.., Sending a pair of soiled underpa nts 10 a guy a day after you'vr first mrt hi1n \\•ill cerrainl)'

• ,nake ao inlpact, but it nlay oot be entire-Ir the one

you a re looking for.Giving 3 sensitive girl a transparenr purple vibrator gifr ,vra1>ped irl shi1ly paper -,vhen rhe most she \\'3S hoping for ,vas Valentine chocolates - ,viii probably inspire her to run a 1nile in four 1ninute-s.

\tlhe" the friettdsbip is boitiug, g;ve:

• cha1npagnc

• chocolate body paior

Iyou lick it off)

• genit.11 lubricant \\1ith a note s.1ying ..1',n longing to rub this bet\veen your legs"

• crotchless pa nties

• nipple cl.11nps.

\Vbeu tl1e f,-iettdship ;s off the wall:

• • giant double dildo

• one of rhe ne,v sex lubricants (You pOp a c.tpsulc into rour mouth and break it

'"ith you r teeth during oral sex so that rou r lover is bathed in S\\'eet•s1nelling gel. It's also edible.)

At the very begi1111i11g of

Jove,give:

• senri,ne,ual cards

• interesting books

• flO\\'Crs

• cho<:olate-s .

\Vim, the frie 11d5hip is

heating "P,give:

• silk boxers

• sexy books

• suggcsti\'c cards

• erotic pictures.

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r LA Y J NG \V IT H l) R Q P.:;. .\1A K INC A S t.X rA P I::.

MA K I N G A

Jem 9aJ ,e,

Those of us ,vho an.•nc,\'•t<-. chnology frc 1ks lo,•e 1he idea of cheir O\\'n sound recording studio.

A, a \'t.'ry b,1sic level. just collecting. and do,,•nloading your fa\'orite tunes (an be a

startini poinr for tho oh•so- .'\:Y nightc. 111.

And if you'"t' read the previous pagt.•s on the erotic po"•er o( sound, rou'II kno,v ,vhat 1'n1talking about.

The dedicated G;11nes 1astcr/J\.listress goes one step furrher, ho"•c"cr. The scdt1c1ion of n1usic: is 011e 1hi11g. hut tht r,o,,•er of )'Our o,vn \'Oice is quite another. You can rap<.•r<.x:ord ,111

kinds of sexy blandish,ne,us. TI1ese ,night ru11 fron1gi"ing rour girlfriend a frisson as she plugs in her radio on tht '"ay tO

,vork. all the- ,v,1y through to 1hrillin,g her. "'hen she's loncl•

\\'1thou1 you one night. ,vith a Sf'<Y reading of an unusu,11ly

<..roric short Storr th:u she c:..tn listen to in the pri,•ac o( her o\\ n g.othic fou r JXJStCr hed. If you arc in need of a !ttOry. r.1kc

.1 lnt,k .u 1he end of this book for inspir,uion.

TArE TALES

You ,night record:

• erotic short stories

• S and.\I con1n1,l11ds

• an endless list of sexual praise

• con11nands or convcrs..i.:tion he1,,•c-.cn tu1n voic<."S, so thar your partner gets th<: idea rh:n there a rc t,vo of )'Ot1 in the roo1n.

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A CHAN G E OF

Jce/W

Change is importa nt i n all aspects of life, and sex is no exception. We all need

va riety and a change of pace . However much you adore your gorgeous pa rtner, hu man natu re dictates that you will

enjoy sexu a lity more if you try different things. If you occasionally change only one i tem in your sexual pattern, you r sexual batteries will be recha rged .

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A C HA NC E O f SC E NE

\1'H Y D O \'t1 E N EED C f-t A NGE ?

By taki,,g the seep of buying this book, you ha,•c set ch:;1nge

in nlOt ion. Even contemplating :Hl alteration in your experience of sex 1ne;.HlS that you have instig:ued a ne\V nlO\'Cnlcnt in your hrain. Sex ga1nes are br their very nature, novel. The>' are also forrns o( play. And that's ,vhat is so great about being :;1n aduh hurnan being. Sex allov.'s you co go back to the days of play.

\Vhich you probably lase enjoyed as a child.

Novelty comes in ntall)' shapes and fonns. If, uccasiooall)', you

inject son1erhing different into your sexual experience. the

,vholc of your sex life becon1cs cnhanced .

SEX EVOLUTIO N

\'(/e need cha11ge in order co ren1ain flexible; \Ve need change in order ro develop as hun1an beings.and ,,•e 11eed change so that

,\e an kecp pace ,virh a11ever n1oving \VOrld. Our sex lives are no <.''-Ceprio,, to this basic rule of living.

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,t"\\' p,uterns of life probably 111ran ne"' patterns of lovc,naking.

•\•rh,ps in another hundted yc:i.ts ,vhcn ,vc have colonized the tetoid heh, "'e "•ill experience sex as n>•ing.since "'e n1ay be

,u11t it in cond itions ,vhere thete is no gravity. Telephooe sex

• .1 recent exantplc of sexu:i.l chJngc in the present day.

{hought for the future - in only a ,•cry short rin,e.rou \viii

--1 he able to have sex via the internet through visual cont.:t<.:t.

•1k, to personal ized "•eb-TV.The future of sex is here.

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A C HA NC E O F S CENE

TELEP H ONE

Jem

1\nyo11e can dial into a sex char line and be tlked through self stimularion. There•s 1101hing very special about this. But ,vhe-.1you arc talking erotica do,vn the line ,vith son1co11e you kno,v and like and '"ho really n1n1s you on. rha1 is a ,vhole different ball g.11ne!

TH E R U LES

• Give yourselflots of ti111c ,vhen you "'On"t be interrupted .

• lake your O\\'ll circuntstances as pleasant as pOSSible. \'(farn1th, andldight, or perfurne i,1the air.are all delicious i11gredients.

L IS

TE L E r H O N E S E X

• Si1 or lie sosn(',vhere co1nforrahle and private.

• ;\'1akc sure chat anything you might ,van 1 during sex is ,virhi n ann's rcat h.

THE ACT I OK

• Be truthful. Tell ir like rou are real!)' feeling it.

• Don't fake a n}'thing.

• I f you are 1nissing your partner, let them kno,v this. If there

.,re things that )'Ou ,,•ish rhey ,,•ere doing ro )'Ou, voice rhen1 as clearly <'Ind as graphica ll}' as possible.

• I f there a re things you kno,,•rhey "'Ould like to have done co them. let them kno,v ho,v you "•ould carr)'out these attions if you happened to be 011the spot.

• Talk about self•stin1ulari()n, Ta lk your partner through ,vha t

,ou are doing and "'ha t they are doing. If )'OU use a vibrator•

.Jo so lening your ,nan kno,v chat in your i1naginarion he is holdi11g this sex toy and rubbing it around your clitoris a nd

\ Jina. If y()u are applying lubricant tO yourself as you speak,

t't your "'Ontan kno,v chat in your head this feels as if she

\\ ('re applying it to you. Her hand is on your penis.Your

• 1.tssage oils are her very o,vn, s,veetsn1elli11g love juices .

l h1 is ho,v eloquent )'Ou ,va,n to be.

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A C li i\ N G I:. O F C E N t

SEX ON TH E

J\0

The internet offers the ,,ext big lea p in ot1r lo\'e li\'eS. HO\\'evcr. although it is very possible to achieve .1n extraordi1l:.lr}' dcy.rec

of inti1nacy ,vith friendships 1nade through chat roo1ns and instant ,ncssagc services, 110 one ,vould den•that JS long as you have your hands on a keyhoard, it's hard to actu.1lly h:i ve sex, ,vith yourself or \\•irh anyone else. But that is due to

$ E X O N T HE NET

TH E R U I.ES

• lake the physic::.11 t'irc:u111sranc:es around you as visually erotic .1s pos.sib lr.

• Uc natu ral ,vith your interactive panner. If )'OU a re shy or 11trvou;,. don't be :tfrjid ro say so. In spite o( the c:.uneras, )'Ou need ro ren1e1nber th:n this b not a perfonnance, it is the

,nak,og of a :.exual relationship, and these only \\'Ork effective•

ly if you c: 111 1ruly ..let go.. of you rself.

• Folio"' th<." ac:,ion lines for rclephone sex (sec pages 118-19).

chtu1gc

and quite soon. The next developrncnr \\1ill be the

,,•idespre,1d avail:.1bilit} of personalized \\•ch

ca1neras - tiny linle c.amcms perched on top o( rour con,putcr. This

n1c:.111s 1h:u i,ner:tc:tive filn1 sex ,viii he po5sihle.,virh instant ,•isual conununicarion .eve1,

if you are thous.ands

Photography shou ld ;.1 hv:.1ys be fu n and photog.ra phic contcnr on the Net is no exception. J ( you eojoy yoursel f.it \\1ill sh0\\1 in the pi<.'tUrt> •ou 1rans111it and you \\1ill appear all the sexier for it. So relax, the1, take ti,nc ,vhile ple:\Suring yourself to the erotic: acc:on1panin1t.•11t of you r lo\'t•r's interactive appreciation.

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o( 111iles .1part.

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A C HA N G E O F S CE N E

ADVENTURES IN

(;kb Woocl&

Some people like ro play gam es in the i m agination only. Others get a huge kick out of experiencing the rea l th ing. Years ago, I m er a man who called himself "The Fixer." This m an claimed

ro be able ro make other people's fantasies come true.

One of his woman friends, he said, had longed to be tied to a tree in a public place and forced ro submit to the sexual attentions of any passing ma l e. The Fixer had, he said, set up th is dream, only he chose a part of a public forest that was

little frequented, and the two m en who did "stroll by and take advantage" were sent there by him and were not strangers.

This cook place in the 1970s. Today, nobody in their righr mind wou ld indulge in any casua l u n protected sex, and even if multiple sex partners have been a rranged by a friend, there is

,rill a health risk invol ved . But you can set up som erhing

,1111ila r, using blindfolds, disguises, and varied sexual actions

t<> .1rpea r to be a whole variety of different indiv iduals.

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Sex in the open air can be a very happ)' experience, not to mention an earthy one. Bur it's also important to remember that there are laws abour comm itting a

pu bl ic nu isance, so it is important only to

make love where you Jef initely cannot be

observed . Otherwise you

might find yourself in deep

A C HA NGE O f «iC EN E

ROOM

./d! ate&

The ,vord "roo,n '" has nvo n1eaoings.One i "chan1her" or '"apa rtment," rhe other is ..space:•This is an in,ponant

distinction in a sexual context, since loven1aking in the san,e roo1n ,nay be comforrahle, but after a ,vhile it can also hccon1e very dull. lt"s as i( the sexual psychr occasionally nttds extra space in order to stretch and expand.

Earlier on, I discussed the concept of a ..love

roo1n" insread of just a "hedroon1.... But here the idea is to n1ove out and broaden )'Our ide.is

abour good places i,,,vh ich to feel croric.

SEX AT MOME

If you arc fortunate enough tO enior guar,tntccd privacy.rhen sex in rhe living roon1 on a sheepskin ruJ;.

,n front of a roaring log fire need not be just a

( hnunas f,11uaS)':it can :1. ctually take place and

'1, \• rl:tr ,1nyti1nc. 1aybc it feel o good

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R.0 0;.1 ;.1A TES

because it rakes us back ro rhar rl.11n old novelt)' factor -because it 1,

diffcre-nt . ir feels different .

GA I E

Sertlc do"'" to a co111forrablc evening i n the living roon1 in front of the relevision.

1naking sure that rhe roo,n

is "•ell hea rcd - in facr. overhcarrd .Puc on a video.

Bur surprist' your parroer "1i1h a re.tlly sex)'one such as 91,:\tteek s. As rhe ac,ion in the filn1heats up, begin caressing your Jover, casually, but as i(

)'OU can't help )'Ourself. Thanks to the heat. rou have the perfect excuse ro shed a fe\\• garmen ts as rhings progress.and if you don•r fall on each other during the filrn action. there's cvcr)' l ikelihood you ,viii do so

during rhc credits.

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A C H A N G E O F S CE N E

SEX II TH E

0( course ,vc shouldn't do it. The risk of 3 colleague finding out is very great, even if you have dosed and locked rhe door of rhe office. And if rhis docs happen, you're in trouble. Yet n1a1l}' o( us brave the possiblc con1plications (or incredible erotic experiences.

TIIE RISK FACTOR

There's a real risk. in rhat you n1ay get discovered. l\ut there is also an in1agined risk, in that ,vhilc )"OU are 3c1ually having sex )O\I arc 3,,•are that discover)' is a possibility.The i1nagined risk is ,vh:u heightens the experience actually raising adrenaline lc\'clS and giving ar'I added nntural chen1ical boost to the proceedings!

GA ME

•:vlakc sure the office door is locked and the

tl.'lephone off the hook, but rry to do this '"irhour h•.tun your partner kno,v.

) E X I N T H E O F F I C E

• Tell rour partner }'OU .1rc expecting :1n i,ntninent visit fron'I a senior colleague.

• Tell your partner that )'Ou are incn-dibly turned on h)' then1and

sirnpl•cao't \vait n rnon1cnt longer. You n1ust have sex ,vith rhe,n no,v.

As you tell then1this, hcgin

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A C M A NGE O F C EN f.

SU NTA N

CfU/(ea!iac.9

Invite: your friend o,•c:r ro take pan in sonic.•sports ga1nes. :\lect then, at rhe

front door ,vearing a 1nask. As they enter

)'Our hon1c, shO\\' rhc1n into a side 1•00111 and hanJ the,n a "costun1e." Ask then1 to change inro ir so char they are rcadr for rhe proceed ing.s. The costun1c sho11ld consist of a skin1J>}' bikini if rhey are fc1nalc, a pair of skirnpy hriefs if tht.y arc 1nalc..tnd a n1,,sk.

\X'hcn )'Our partner has changed. invite the1n into the "sports arena...•n,is is your living roo1n ,\'ith tht furoiture put to one side and thick ro,,•els laid do,vn Oil top of a plastic underlay. (Garbage bags or a huge shO\\'Cr currain ,viii

\\'Ork,vell.) Srand your p.,rrner in the

,niddlr of the roon1and coot the1n liberally ,vith sunran oil. Ask

then, to coat rou liberallt, roo. E'\pl.-lin that the object of the

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S U N TA N ,,? R t.. Si t,. I N G

.;..1111.. i.; to i,tt't the hcst of three frills.ht1r that if one o( you

i,.u.1lly th<.•111,111) has a height ()r \\'Cig.ht advantage, 1hey rnust be

11d1c,1ppe-d. The l)t"St \\'J.Y to do this is prob.ibly tO strap one

•n hehind 1hcir back. The ,vrcstling consists of a good deal of

•!1l•rin abour. As an added honus you should definitely do

.:I' hc,r to ren1ovc their costun1e during rhe ac1ivities.

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A C HA NCE O F SC E NE

IN YOU R

BACK SEAT DRIVING

Drive out tO rhc nearest secluded spot and tell you r IO\'Cr that you are going ro ser a challenge. \'(lirh one of you in

rhc back sear and rhe other in the front. the back seat lover has got 10 briog rhe front seat Jover to orgasm. You think it's

impossible? \XleJI, give it a try... It's not!

just be sure that you sel«t a parking place that is genuine!)' secluded and private.

MA KING OUT

lt's back ro the 1940s for this sex game. You, )'Our lover, and another couple drive off, preferably ro a drivc in movie.

Half,va)' through rhe film )'Ou "n1akc out." Son1e people might interpret this to mean "going all the \\'3)'," others 1night just

sec this as a1t opportunity for "heavy petting .., Ir's up ro you. The idea is to preserve the classic armospherc of the 1940s. Right do,vn to the popcorn.

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O N YO U R BI K E

ON YOU R

r;JJ&

LADY GODIVA

lotorcycles and black leather are one sexy combination . 111the Lady Godiva ga,ne, the lady biker, clad in a skirt and no panties, sits astride your shiny machine as you race around co,vn .

A C I-I A N C E O F c;c EN E S t:.X CA IE S FO R T l-I F. S U t IE K

SEX GAM ES FOR TH E

Jfrt&

Celcbtat<.' the bcginlling of rhc nC\\' season ,vith a ch:1nge. Takt yoor beloved partn er a,v;ay for a \\'t-.ekcnd rreac Srar <11 a ni e counrry•stylc hotel or, i f you ca,ft afford this. horrO\\' a friend\ aparunent son1c,vhere. Afrer an rarly supper, retire to 1hc bedroorn :ind inform )'Our pattner that 'OU :.'Ire going to celebrate the Spring Solstke.

• Give each other a ,var111 barh.

• Lay you r pa rtner do,vn on the hed.

• Oe<::orare the1n \\•irh spri11g (lo"•crs.

• Give each other gifts.

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SEX GAM ES FO R TH E

ununcr on ,he patio. roasting hcncarh the su1l's

t.t ys ,,•hile resting on t sun louncr. Did you kno,,,

th.u i( the sun hca1ns het,,•ce,, your k-gs for long

(,•nough it ca n turn •ou on? \'(lht•n you decide it's rirne co sta rt

n oiding sunburn, propose that you horh retreat indoors for a

..ool drink. \X1ait on •our partner "'ith an exotic cocktail ()'OU

...111 huy the1n pre n1ixed in the supenn;itket). "'ea ring a ,vhire

•.1pkin o,•<.r your ar,n as you di..'liver.and, ,vhcn they have 'runk it, explain that 110,v they n1ust p:1y the bill - in ki11d.

•rht. re art.' con11>klinrs. insist rh:n 1his is a fair excha,1gc, and

,11t't r:1ke no for an ans,ver.

A C HA NGE O F S C E NI:.

SEX G A MES FOR TH E

!Ydi

' Fall is harvc-st tirne. Tell you r lo\"er that you are going to hold ::i 1 ruit Fest. l11vite rhen1 over

to vie,v your gorgeously decorated l'OOlll, ,,•irh exotic fruit heaped a round it. Tempt the,n ,vith

some iced grapes. ,vhile offering them chan1pagnc in a nuted glass. As they get n1ort• into the n1ood. decorate thern ,virh grapes a nd peaches and n1ushy fruits such as stra,\lber tie-s.

Or, if you feel l'eally co11fidcnr that they ,viii undcrsu1nd

rhe ,vorkings of )'Ou r mind. decorate yourself as if you \\ltre the exhibit at a Harvest Festival. Then don't hesitate to celebrate by e:tring the fruit and e..ch other.

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S EX G A l\l E S FO R TH E \tlJ NTEI{

SEX G A 1vt ES FOR THE

Cf/)

\'<'ant to relieve the glooin of those d3rk cold days? Think

<;andlepo,,•cr. Ser up dozens of ca ndles in the bedl'oont. Use no other lighting. lnfonn your co-ga,nes-playcr that the time h3s

..:01nc to d rive our the spirirs of ,vintcr and call on the sun to l'eappeal' and bring its he-at. Dress yourself and

\ our partner in a long, full l'Obe (prcfcrabl)' "h ire).turn the lighrs off all over the house 1nd.,vith each of )'Ou carrying a

.\ hite candle, step slo,\II)' to the "'t"<ll'o<>nt,cha nting as you go

•'nng. Decree ,hat )'Our pal't11er

1ust he the \"CSSel rhr<,ugh ,vhich

•u ,viii try t<> reach thr sun. NO\\'

,!-.1<."<:t them to a number of sexual

•,,,...s.so tha, bor h they and rhe

.,..iroont hecorne red hot and r<>u r

...1nrarion therefore appears

1,n c ,vorkrd !

GETTI N G

Weu

Water is a gorgeous, inspi rational, sensual aphrod isiac. Sex in the ba th can be achingly funny, and lovema king in the shower is slippery, and slidy, steamy,

and very hot indeed ! Natural settings, such as wa terfalls and lapping waves,

are every woman's idea l and inspi re the

floa ting male to some very eellike writhi ng indeed.

c': £1'i 1 N G \1'ET

A Q U A T I C LOV E 1:u N

A QU ATIC

f?Ta/1/

around frtcl}\ ,vhich ,ne;ins you can s,vim into sex positions char ordinarily \\'Ould 111(.'an son1e unlikely conrorcio1\. The best time n1any of us ,viii find for free Oo:ui11g sensuality is hue at night, in che dark. in rhe ,vann se.1.,vhen no•onc can sec you.

FOR EPL AY A N D A FTER PI.AY I THF. TU B

Foreplay in the barh is fun and, e\'en if you r bath

ro your appreciad"<. partner.

h Bathing before sex n1 -tkes )'OU

feel clean and confident; bathi1tg

after sex enha nces relaxation and incin1acy.

SEX I K W. TER

\'(farer is a supportive

,ncdiu,n: your bod)• beco1nes ,veightle(,,

and you can r110,t'

H Y DROTIIER A PY

Hydrocherap)' us.es ,varer to sti,nuhne and heal the body. fhc therapeutic jets conic in the form of barhs, sho,vers,

"•hirlpools. srean1 roon1s.saunas.;.1nd sea ,va rer treacntenrs. J,1cuizis alone ha,,c brought a "'hole: nc,v di,nension ro love. Heing pounded by srrca n1s of ,va ccr on one side and )'Our flushed and excited paft 11er on rhe ocher i:. the Stuff that

holidays arc n1 1dc of.

,ltu_• lrp,1•

I f rou are feeliitg rired and sluggish .and you ,vant to energize yourself before sex, spend 15 n1inuccs soaking in

,1 hoc hath and rhen stand up and take a quick cold sho,ver. You r p0rcs ,viii dose rapidl)• and ,,•ill leave you feeling nvigoralcd. I f )'Ou are totally stressed our, a ,varn, bath

"'efo xcs you enough co bring on lazy feelings of sensualirr.

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G FTT I N C \,;'h i'

SHOW ER

The shO\\'C'r is a naturnl sex toy: 1t co1nhines h('al. pressure.

,noisrure.and friction all in one <levier. According. ro TIJt• Hiie Report,,va ter 1nassage using 1hcsho,,•er , son1e ,von1cns' favotit"e ,vay o( reaching orgas,n.

GAM ES

• Co\'et each oth<•-r in liquid sop:u,d give each other an erotic 1nass:1ge in rhe sho"•er.

• Use rhe sho,vcr on an altcrna1e ple:isure/punish 111en1 basis. Pleasure nl< .ins ,vann \\'.lter dircct('d at the g.cnirals. Puni)hn\e1u is

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a blast of cold ,varer on rhe hack.

• Have n con1binC'd bath and sho"cr.Lie back 11\ a hor. srean1y. bath and use the flo,v o( "•acer fro,n the sho,,er hose to n1ass.. gc diff('re111 part, of the body. such as thC' pcrineu,n.th(' genir:11.th<-•toes.1he lips. the

>t)I of the (eer,and the l>1. tks of the knees.

• S<-'t" i( rou c.111 ,nastu rhat<" e.1ch orher to or,1sn1 usin only the jeh of ,,•at('r fro1n

the sho"•erhcad.

• Surpris<.." •our partner ,vith son1e nnpru111ptu oral sex 111 th<.." sho,ver.

, f llower ,\'e,.t•,1Jo,1•1iio11,r The bcsl position for sho,,•er sex is one 111 ,vhich rhe \\'On1an bends over and chc n1a11 penetra tes her fro,n behind. rhis is because,,vhile you 1re sta nding

,>n a slippery surface.each panner has

:h(' least likelihood of kidding hal f"•ay

.t.. ross the sho,ver rray!

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GET T ING \'\'.'ET

BU BBLES AN D

Gtdd!e&

Baths arc the perfect place for sensual indulgen(.'C, Unplug the phone, light sonic candles.and turn the hot tap on. No,v

add bubbles arld essential oils and slip i,no thr ,varn1 and

,..,elco1ning ,vater ,vith yot1r parrner.

THE JUG CA IE

Sit facing each other. No,v fill a jug ,vith bath

,va rer and tell your paru,cr to close his eyes. Pour the ,vatcr onto hin1lro1n tl heigln.

Sta rt by pouring it ;,round his shoulders and bcllr and then li ft the j ug higher and direct the strt:.11n or110 his penis.

No,v give him the jug - it's his turn!

SEX IN THE BATH

lt n1ay be ha rd co manage intercourse i n the

average-sized bath.but tha1 doesn't n1ean you can't both

-• have an orgasm. 1>our plenty of liquid soap. bath oil,or

B U B B L ES A N O C U O O L ES

sho"•er gel Onto his pe11is and n1ass.1gc him 10 orgasrn. Stimulate her clitoris ,virh bath oil. rour toes,and rhe,1 your fingers, until you bring her tO a nice slippery cl imax.

.\FTE RPLAY 11' THE BATH

Lying back in a Steaming buhblc bath is an intimate ,vay to

rrlax nfter sex. If rou hnvc roo1n, l ie back in each other's arnls.

f l:-J ISHI NG TOUCH

\dd fiz7 ro your bath\\•atcr ,vith an effervescent bath "unb. l1iese a.re fragrant balls of sodiun1bicarbonate ntl essential oils that liternll•explode i11the ,Yater.

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G ETT l C \t ' E T

F. R OT I C t OA.\1 BA TH

ER OTI C

!?Toa/Tl/ 0atlf

the applic:;uor. Start ,virh 1hc rops of rhe feer. then the roes.

•111d then the soles. Use a firm

•-..;

couch if she is ticklish

she is exrren1elr

The co,nbination of sp:irklini foa1n \\'ith the lili,g.htl scratchy rasp of a soap :ipplic,nor ho1nb.1rds th(' skin ,vith an u1\usual. s< nstia l experienc<. . Lay

your hands. on a beach ch:iise lonp.ue and position it in ;.1 shelrcred pan of your }:'ltd on a ver}' hot day.You ,viii also need J 1:irc ho\\•I of

hot ,v:Her, son1c fragr:int sho,,•t•r gt.'I ,u,d ooe o( the ne,\'Cr nylon, nn1lti•h1yered. liquid•soap applicators.Be,g111 by blindfolding your partner to n1akc the 1\sarions snore :,1cure.

\/ WASH H E R FEET

( Knt"<'I on the chaise longue and resr her

feet on rour thighs. Squeeze \\'atcr 01uo her feet ,1nd drizzlr sho,\'Cr gel bct,,•ecn

her roes. No,,•start tO ,,•ash

,nd n1.1ss:.1ge her feet

, ,nd ankles ,virh

ticklish, use your hands and st.1n hy enfolding her foo[ firn1lr ben.veen your paln1s).

DR I P WATE R A LONG HER BODY

' o"•11n1nersc the applic:uor in ho[,vater :.'ITtd make a trail of Jroplcts :1long the.- length of her body: up her calves and thighs

.rnd over her hdli•and chest. Ask her for feedback.

,ext. drizzle a line of sho,,•cr gel along her hod)' and start ro

, ,frly ,nassage her ,vith the applica1or. Create as 1nuch foam as

,u can so that her body is covered in s.oft meringue-like peaks.

,\ hilc the loan1prickles and pops, pour a tiny s1rearn of n1assage nver and do\\•n the genitals. Then massage the genitals \\lith

ur hands using some of the strokes described on pages 188-9.

.- o\'crall sensation is of every indi"idual pore of rhe body

,,l...hn as ii it is being nve.1kcd and stroked. And hey, ,vc

'"t'"'an a\\•lul lot of pores!

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THE SHA M POOING

T HE S HA M PO O J NC C A IE

;-.:ext. take a (01nb :Htd sensually co1nb his hair, running the teeth over hi:. calp. a rousing the mill ions of tiny nerve-endings

,vhich lie beneath the skin. \'(then he steps out of the bath,

" r ,vrap him in ,varin Ouffr t<'>,vels.a nd seat him in front of a

Prepare the b,nhroon1in advance ,,1ith candles, ... ..

a bath full of fragrant hot water.and some ..-7 "

big fluffy to,vels. No,v lead rou r partner

into the srean1y bathroom and take off

his clothe,. '

SENSUA L SH A M POO

Ask him to step into the bath, lie back, and relax. Explain that you are going ,o Start by

,vashing his ha ir. Make C\'ery accion as

relaxing and sensu:.11 as possible. Ask hin, to rip his head back as you pour ,vater and shampoo onto it and then gi\'C hin1a

luxurious head massage.a pplying deep circular pressure ,virh

your (ingertips.first at his ren1ples, then along his hair• line and all over his scalp.

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large 1nirror.Standing behind hinl, take out a pair of scissors.

f f he has a beard or a moustache, no,v is the 1in1e for rri,nn,ing.•rhe act of clipping and cutting sends sensual tickles up to the scalp and do,vn

""" the rest of the torso. If he doesn't possess facial ha ir, ,nake it appear as if rou arc going to cut rhc hair on his he-ad . There's so1ncthing about a

"'01nan ,vielding cold sreel nexr ro rhc skin rhat turns men on.

TH £ PELV I C SHAMPOO

\'Wash his genital area, includi ng his scronnn and peri11eum . S,virl your finger

rips lightl, in and out of his n1ost inti1na1e crevices. cxplaini11g all the

rime that he is a very di rt)' boy d0\\'11 there and ,nust subrnir to

being properly clea ned.

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C ETT INC \\'tT

STEA M ROOM S AND

Jatt12a&

Stean1roon1s and s1. unas ha\•e lollg. enjoyed a sexy reputation and are oitcn the scene o( great sexual arousal. The ,re.uny

rropical ren1pcrarures and lcHv lighting

give rhe1n a n1oody u,nosphcre 1hat\ ahva)'S been conduci\'c to sexy \ thoughts and fanc;,sies.

ENJOY A TRO l'ICAL TREAT

Trear yourself and your parn1e1•to a d:.1 out at a health cluh or ,portslCllt<.r. drifting bet\Vten 1hc s.,un:1, qea1n roon1 and jacuzzi. This is.u1 e\'.(ellcnt ,nood• lifter that helps you to \Hn\•111d. ha\'t' iun,

and spend intin1,ue t1n1e \\'1th your partner. It's t-speclally luxuriou) dur111g the cold

\Vinccr mo1uhs. and a good \\'.ty to ctill

the n1ood for sex.

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STEA,\l RO O :\I A NO S A UN A S

//ac11:;:;;/ lhel' (t/ly

Jacuzzis <H'e specially desigru-d cubs ,virh ,nassaging jeri. o( ,v;tter that pun1111cl your body. Being inunerscd in '"ann bubbling \\'arer has a seosual

,1nd rhcrapeutic eU«r on the body. \\i'uer incrc:.ses your circulacion. relaxes tight 1nusdcs, lo\\•ers blood pn..ssure. and n1akes rour skin feel ali\'e

.1nd glo\ving. If you posilioo your partner Ml th:u

1hcgenitals ,1re in line \\•i1h the bubbl('I., you c:1.11

brin hin1 or her to cli1nax this,v:l}.

,\ LJ:sJ A .\ 1'D STEA ! ROO.\I TIPS

rrv thsc ld<tas for a S(>llSual rirne in the sauna, but don't be

:,:1npted to risk 1c1ual '-C'X unless you :ire ,•ery discreet:

• ,u(k on.1rnint. h ,vo,,•t c:ool }'Ou dc)\vll, but you n1ay fed

, 1hough you C:\ll breathe 1nore easily 111,,ss,tge c<><..onut oil into each orher"s hair

inhale cool ::ind frcl1 sn1c..lling essential oils such as

...,lyprus. gr,1pcfrui1. or pepperininc

ruh n.uu ral products into your panner"s ski11. Try papay 1

..h on the fru.:e and honer on 1he hody.

G ETTI N G \V J:.T

SEX IN TH E

Jea

Sea ,va tcr offers a rnazing buo•a ncy and supports body \veight easily.This means 1ha1 you can lifr each other up :.1nd ,vi nd yourself into fant.'lStic contortions ,vi1h rhe greatest of ease. Some of 1hc n1ost i n1possible sex posi1ions fro,n the Ka,na Surra are easily achieved out there in the ocean. The only problem thar you 111ar encounter is shifri11g sand. I f x in the

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S E X I N T H £ S E A

sea is sintply too public, just ,vait a ,vhile until everyo11e has gone hon1e.then make love on the s.and du11es. Sand not only prescn'cs hear; it n1olds itself ro 1he exact shape of your bod)'.

SAN D GA.VI ES

Instead of building sandcastles, do rhe adult equivalent:

• play hide a11d seek - find a secluded ,,cnuc for sex and ,va it

10 be found

• dra,v sexy pictu res in the sand

• mold her breasts or his penis in the sand

• pla>•kiss t.'lg.

,w1:,,1v. t t NG POOL SEX

lost public pools fro,,•n on a11y 1ype of horseplay, so

-.ynchronOus sex ga1nes 1nus1be confined tO your o,vn private

rool. (f you have one, )'Ou ,night enjoy .'1Cting our the Frog. In

•he Frog.your lover stands ,vith his back against the pool ,va ll

,\'hile )'OU \\'rap your legs arou11d his "'aist, feet against the

.,.,II. pushing off, and floating back. The Ootarion that you

1. hievc means thar your lover c:an support your "'eight

\ hilc you pcrforn1pliCs again.st hin1. The Chi11ese liken this

•10,•cmcnr to the mating of t,,•o frogs.

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inINING WITH A

f , I

Our lips are a pri ma ry source of erotic pleasure and since the begin n ing of rime, humans have found food seX)'• Food can be a sexual hors d'oeuvre, a sex aid, an

aphrod isiac, or an erotic fcasr for the eyes. You ma y revel in wh ipped cream spread our over your lover's body, or enjoy sampling your favorite morsels against their skin.

O IS l.." C \t11T H A D IFFER ENC E

<it x.11\d e:1ring seen, to have ahvays gone hand in ha nd.

Offtrin • :our R3rt11cr food is an acr of caring, and it plars a

hipa rt in courtship. Buying or cooking a meal for a partner ren1aills a traditional oHering of love. intin1,1c)'.and ro1nance. a1ld one that ofren pr<"Cedcs sexual inti111acy. Playing ,vith food, finding Jiule !{,unuS for Jo\'ers. fuels erotic feelings. I n this little

1nanual ,•t t,1}.:c food and sex rhose fe,,•steps furrhert sho,ving

you unlon:.l Uablr sexy gourn1et experiences and giving you idc.1, nt t h nis to do ,vith food that ,viii blo,v your n1ind !

rono A :SD SEX

stn nal act1\'it1cs that gra1if), so1ne of our n,osr compelling

too..l1s essentially a nunurin activity. food-St•x t 11n 1aduh• hood can take on any 1one you ,va nt: childish, tll•. int ate. outrageous. prO\'Ocati\'C, ron1antic. lustful, or sexy. Bl' 1n,•<-'n ve and imaginati\'<.' - start looking a1 food in rern1s of ir.. ero111.: potcn 1ial. Go co the supern1arket and buy exotic fore1 11 iood, that ,viii give you fresh ideas for erotic: eating.

9J/ r/J/ orr /.,/l oro.9 I

l) 1d .•ou ever think of con1bi ni11g sex and eating? Sorh are

dt•sires. Feeding each other ,,1ith your fingers can turn into part o( foreplay. You ,night cover )'Our lover ,vith food as part of a r:'nique sexua l banque1, or 1niraculously 1ransfonn certain food items into innovati\'e sex toys. Although gi"ing and sharing

According to folklore, ,vomen in Turkish harems ,,ere forbidden cucu 1nbers

unless they ,,•ere fully sliced first.

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1) 1)): INC \\.I T l-i A O IF FE R E l'\ C E 1- 1:. t-. J'> I N C E A C H OT H E R

FEED!. G EACH

.J &her-

Feeding is a nurruring acti\'ity thar c::in ,1\\•;,1kcn n1cn1oric-s of lleu\ looked after as a child. Cook a delicious nlcal for your p.1nn<•.r and acruallr put rhe titbits i,no each other's 1notu h . Fci::J1ng son1eone \vith your fin crs is st•xicr thrtn ,vit h ;,1 fork . so only use cutlery if you h;.1 \'C to. Le-, the- juices o( the food run

over your hands and n1outh and indulge- roursclf in rhe sensurtlity o( eating.You can clc::i n up later.

Take tin1c to rcall•savor ,vha r rou are caring and describe rhe fla \'Ors and textures

to each other.

THE sn RTER

Choose foods that you cu1 pick up in our fingC.,uch as b.th 1nush roo1ns.aspar;igus.or.1rrichokc prcpar<-.d in butter:a1 th1ng rhn tastes good Jnd lc-a,•t) 1s(.nsu ;,11 F.loss on rour lips.

TH E IA I COU R SE

Again. dispe,,s.e \\'i1h curlery :.1nd use foods that ar"t"-rou c:in

pick up. )t1ch as,hickcn legs.sausages.little potaroes.a 1ou •

green lx•ans. Ahcrnach•el•.nood les and chopsticks arc great (un .

TIIE DESSE RT

Sensual fruits - particularly sn1.ill. red. ju i<:y berri1>,. •1re..the ideal <lessen foods to feed to your pa rtner. Try Stra\\'hr rrit. raspberries.;111d red gr:1pes. Fn1irs \\1ith fr,1gr.i nt .ind 'lot11:k 1uices such as plu,n>. nectarine>.ripe pe.i rs. and pcache> ,lr • perf«t pre k1ss1ng fruit rhJt \viii n1akc you rasre delic:iou!-.

FEEDI NG LOVE

Feeding e,1,h orl,er

,s a ood 1c1. y of shou•i11g that you re1/Jy c,ire.

. e ,5p qy/,etti,ya111 e

Spaghetti is fun food ro feed \Vith. ue re.illy lon,g spaghetti.

l> J '\ INC \'(IJ TH A O IF F CR E !\" CF

EXPER f}..I ENTING WITH

dime&

An aphrodisiac is an•substance 1h,n increase

sexual desire, arousal or pcrforn1anct.A ,-..1st range

of substanc<.'s ha,•<.' earned a r<.'purario,1for hei11g

aphrodisiacs. Sonu.such ns Spanish fly and

yohimbine, c.iuse dnngerous side effects. Others. such as rhino horn,:'Ire si,nply ineffective. But the 1n,1jc')rity of food nphrodisia an:h,,nnless and. accord inJ::, to expcrrs. the•often

\\'Ork h«,Hhc..•\\C believe in their sensual po,,•ers.

GINSE:-!G

q, Tl R A:-:D CH A MPAGN E

Tn.\tt ,vorSC'lf ,1nd •our lover ro a 1nidnight feast of

o,,it:r and t.:h.11npagne. Oysters are re1niniscent of the Inn.tie gen1t.1J,. They are also rich in zinc.,,•hich n1ay (ont'ributc to 1hc h, ahh of the reproductive organs.

Cha1np;:igne. \\1ith its bubbles and heady perfurnc. is the drink of celebration.

al ' ]

It;

." I •

Share a cup of te:1 using fresh ginseng root. So1nc people..•hdi ve it boost) your libido. The \Vord "ginseng"' 1nea11s "111an roor:•

,1nd it is tmdition:tlly used as an energizin rook in Eatern i.:ultu res. Oon't takt: ginseng 1f you htlve high blood pressure.

CHOCOLATE A:-:D TU R K ISH DELIG HT

Give your lo\'er a gift of chocolate and Turkish delight. 6orh of 1hese products cootain a substa nce called phcnycthyla rnine

Caviar or n1usscls ,1rc just ;1. s good as oysters.

or try asparagu tips dipped in buner.

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1>EA , ,vhich people produce n:nurally \\•hen rhcr arc

infatuated ,vith another person.

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U 1 1NC \"\!f lT H A D IFF ER ENC E'. t-l A N K Y P A N K Y P I C N I

HAJ\: K Y PA N K Y your picnic by spreading out a huge sheet. Then unpack ,he food. Ideally. ic should contain so,ne of the icen1s h ,cd !111.he ideal shopping list on chc opposite page.

lakf surf ch:.H thf scning for your pkoic is ecluded. The la,t rhing you "•ant is., group of hikrrs sn1n1bling across •ou ,\S you ser,c an inci1nacc dc..ss('rt to •our partner!

THF. HANK) P.ANK Y PIC1' 1C BASK ET

Pack 1.1 p• u,.: b,1:tkct full of picnic foods -rhc 1nore luxunou:t rhe fl•r. The 1i1n is ro be as td,•enrurous as possible. Start

BE PROVOCATIVE

Eac the.•food as prO\'OCati\'el v a:. ,•ou ca n . Don't ,vorry al)jl:11 choosing s,veec foods before.savry - 1usc cat ,vhatev 1u like. .\ l ake hitt•,1zed sand,vichc.-s and feed

the,n to e.:tch other. Put a frozen t:trape bet,veen your teeth and o((cr ir co your partner {or drop it do"•n her

cop -b•accident ..). Share the s:.1111c

piece of ,varcnnclon. and rhrn kiss rhc ju ice oU each orher.

Tin:shopping list:

lfcnch hrt,1d

• ... f>1d nlt"<HS or.1 sclecfion

ot dips

• J cucurnber

• so,ne C:l rrors

• ca\'iar a11d crackers

• a ,varennelo11

• son1e frozen gr,1pe in

.1 then1u>:.

• figs

• oranµ.cs

• papaya

• cha1npagne

• lollipops

• co11dorns .

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01 ,[N G WITH A D I F F ER E N CE

ThC'.-scxual ba nquet b uniqul' in th.n th<. rc .,re no tablc5, ...:h.,irs.

•• 1f\•es, or (orks.Your partner's naked body is the place upon

"•h1..;h t 1e food is served. ,1nd you .1re rhc )Ole d11u r. Other t',>.:ienti,11 ingredients arc a ...:an of ,vhi pp<.•d creatn,., pot of honey or syrup. and a selection of sofr. juic' fruits.

f"e.1• 6r11u711el ltj>,1•

• Ask your partnl'r to "hide" a dab of hon<•, on his body.

Your 1oh iii to find it ,vith }'Our tongue.

• U,l',1ne"•painthrush ro paun the hod}' ,vith runny foods

,uh ,,, n:,1111, ice cre un, syrup,}<,gurt, or cu,rard.

• lei your ,<,•t1,1I banquet dege11erare 1nco 111ayhc1n :ind ha\'e ,\ food fight. S,norher each other in ,,•hipped crea111. (rush fruit into h1 hair, HH.I pour custard all over her.

• Eat a ,,•hole 111eal fron1 your partner's body. Arrange the starter 011 the che,;1. 1he ,n;1in course on the bellr, t111d rhe d<.""sserr 011 the ahdon1e,1 and genitals.

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S EX UA L BA N Q UET

STl IUI.ATE THE BODY WITII FOOD

Use food ro stintulare your partner's body. Ai1n tvr\uhtlc qi1nulat i011 :.n first - SI0\\1ly drip hone)' fron1 a spoon inrrbe

n.t \'CI, squcczc frc-sh orange juice 011to the skin, run an Jl•-cube o,-cr chc nipples, lick chocolate sauce fro1n the n<'.Ck or, us111

,\ hipped cre:1111. ,nakc a p.t ncrn on the body and then lick i t'R: •

As your parr11cr begin ro get ::1roused. start to stinn:late the gcnirals in an ii1direct ,,•ay. For cx:.unplc. dribble champagne

htt\\'Ccn her legs or place a hagd around his penis and nibble it.

X -RATED

§ll/lleo/

This part of the book is cau tiously raced for the supermatu re only. It is a kind

of masterclass in the art of giving oral pleasure which extends to teachi ng superlative genital massage. Such ha nd and mou th masterstrokes might be used during spontaneous sex, or you may consider them prizes to be awa rded for good behavior during any sex game.

X •R A TE O G A I ES

EXTR EM E GA M ES FOR

Je<.,,{.,,fc/"C

Re,\!ards, in the fonn of the x-ratcd strokes dernonstrated throughout chis chapter.ca n be ,,nzes for good hehavior. But they can also be used as an instrun1ent of torture. for cxan1ple. just ,vh en your man is groani ng ,vith delight as

you offer hin1oral sex, you rniihr slo\\'I>• ,virhd ra,,•.

Pcrhap<: i11 so,ne syn1pathy, you return to your pleasure • giving task. But ,hen he ,viii r,virch a hand or .1ccc1npt ,o stroke your hair.You halt thr procc,rdings in11nediately.He

,viii be enr1gcd a nd half-afraid. He doesn't kno,v no,v if you intend to fi nish ,vhat you've staned. This version of Punish,ncnt :t11d Re,vard c::111 run 011 and on.

Alternatively.you 1night apply your rnru:t cunning ,nanual arts to his straining hody. Only no,v the g.1n1e orders hin1 to resist cli,nax at all costs. othcr\\•isc he pars a n1.1ssivc forfeit. Usually, the end result is a grc.1t orgasn1.

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OR A L SEX

A \\'On1an's ,nourh is s1n:.lll and her n1ans' penis is usu:.llly rather larger. The secret to g<)Od oral sex is discovering how•to 1n:'!.ke each con1plrnu•nt th(' other so rhu he feels truly engulfed :1nd she resists feeling suHocated.

THE STA RTING POI NT

Don't ,vait until your ,nan has a,, ertion before a pplying your 1nouth to hi1n. Take hi n1into your 1nouth ,vhilc he\ still soft and partially suck on hin1 and pa rtially S\\'allo,v. The s,\•allo,ving n1ovc1nent n1:1kcs a distinct pull on his penis and creates a pressure .If you d<'> it rhythn1ically,

his erection'"ill take shape.

TONGU E SHA PI NG

Holding hb pcn1:> at the base ,vith one

hand, run you r pointed 101,gue up

one side of h is penis. across the top and, ,vhen rou

O RA L ) 1-.X t' O K 111 1

go do,vn the fal' side let the underneath of your tongue take the str;.1in. Do this r,vo or three tirnes before going on 10 use your conguf like .t sculpting root, liter.1lly licking his ptnis into shapt".

R U::-J::-J l:S:G A R OU:S: D 1:-1 CI R CL ES

'.'JO\\' push you!' ,nouth do,v,, on his penis so rhat it begins

co penecr:ne fu rther into you r 111olnh and then rerrfat aga in. A you do this.setting up a rhythn1,

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X•K A T l: D CA,\l t , O R A L S EX FO K HJ \1

circle >'Our tongue around and around chc head of his penis, so thar his 1na1,I)' n1e,nhcr is bei ng

subjected to t,vo eparate strokes a nd countcr rhyth1ns at che sa1ne ci1ne. This is cre1nendously scin1t1tning for hun.

TWA KGI NG TH E GUITA R

As you hold his penis in your llH>uth, tlick your pointed tongue b,H.k,vard and fonv:1rd across the top of his pc11is \\'here 1he frenuhun

(the long ridge chat runs the length of hb penis) is siru:;ned. It's a bit like C\Vanging a guitar string. And ,vhen you feel he's enjoyed

enuugh flicking, try hunnning.. The hutnn1ing vihr 1tc his c-ncirc- penis.and ever)' ti1nc rou change the cone or the

pitch of the htun he c.•xpericn('("S it differently.

THE E XTE KDE D MOUTH

No"'c:on1es the Stt'rct ,nancuver for

,vo1ne1l ,\•irh s,nall n,ou1hs. Once the head of his peois is in your rnouth.

place you r "'et h,1nd arouod his penis hut up against your lips so char ir (eels to hirn as if your lips have extended and con1plecrlr encloSt'd his pe11is. f\o"'• as your n1ourh goes up and d0\\'11 on his penis.n1akc sure rhat your hand

.1ccon1panies the n1oven1en1.

VA R Y I K G TH E PR ESSUR E

Your fi nger and thumb ,viii n:uurall)' ,nect a round his pcni and you ,night try va rying their pressure. Older men ofrcn n<-. cd a 1nuch greater pressure ,o get anr distinct

,<.nsadon. ,vhile •ounger n1e11sintply e1tjoy the contrast.

l)on't be afra id to squeeze quite hard.

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X - R A TED G,\ •1ES O K A L '\ f X FO R HE R

ORA L SEX

,%ctrle ljJ.Y

Never hite rhe clitoris. although a fc,v gcnrle nibbles on rhe labia

The tongue is proh:ihly rhe "'orld• greatest sex aid, since i1 gi,,es gorgeous variation of sens.nion direcdy onto (he clitoris ,vhile sin1ulr 111eously n1aking it so \\'et that it feels as if )'OU can just slide straight inside.

SWOR D PLAY

For really sensational cunnil ingus, •our head needs to he right bet,veen her thighs t1nd preferably slightly belo,,• the1n, so that you can stroke your tongue up,vard

against the shaft of her clitoris. Fron1 here you can

also occasionally i1lserr rour rongue into her \'agina.

can be sensarional. If you gcr a cran1p ir, your ja,,1, don't give!' up on the cunnilingus. Try keepillg

your rongue s1ill,but n1ovc your

head up and do,vn instead.

TONG U E STR OK ES

• \X'ith .1 featherlight pressure. t\virl your tongue around rhe \'Cry top of the.•clitoris.

• f lick the tip of your tongue fron, :,dc ro side underneath the clitoris.

• Covrr the clitoris \\1ith your n1outh. sucking gently (nor hatd, <>ther,vise rou ,viii bruise het). a,,d flick rou r tongue

a<."ross it at the sa,ne rirne.

• \Xlhilc <."Ontinuing ro r,virl or flick, put :.\ fingerinto her

• vagina and pull gently

do,vn,va rd.

X •R A T t.O G A I E "i

X-R ATED M ASSAGE

f:T0t/(, :Ttlnv

There are so1ne :.Hn:tzing genital nlass:igc-" for n,tn th,u offct such explosive, v:lrhuion of sensation rhat you begin to ,vondcr \Vh}' anyone: bother. \\1ith stra iglnfor\vJ.rd intercourse.

THE METR01'01E

This can be done \\'1th a parti:dly soft penis. lrl it. you prop the ptnis up ,vith ont.• h::ind and give it a little pu:,h ro,vard the ocher,,vhich catches it after it h;,1s rnoved onl•a couple of inches. This other h.u,d then pushes. it hack to the fitst

one agai11. Keep this up. :tnd the ptnis is eventu:illy doc-k ing back,vard and for,,-.1rd like the pointer on a rncrronu,nc. h's an cxcclle,n 1nethod for tunl1ng rour guy on.

HAN D OVER HA N D

Using your hand:, a,; rings, slide <>ne ring do"'" your 1n,1n's shaft, rapidly follu,ved by the other.As one hand rcac.::hc.,, the base of the pcni.hri,,g it up ;,1nd sran at the top again.

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THF 1.F. 10t\" SQUFF.ZER

Holding the penis upright ,,•ith one hand. gt.•ntly rub the pain, of the other h:1nd H:rO'iS the top of the hc 1d.

THE JUICF.R

Hold the penis upright ,vith 01\l" hand and, sh,1ping the fillgers of our Other hand so that they point do,vn,va rd 111 a k ind of spider sh 1pc, lightly gr:1sp the head of

the peni, '"ith this -spider" and t\\11•our fin,gcrs back"•ard and for,v 1rd 1rou11d the

htad as if you "'ere jui..:ing a lcnun1.

, (c/ /0/I ft/J

Never do any genital n1assage ,vithou1 using ton of scented lubrication.

The easier you let your hands "'andcr across your partner's genitals, the greater rhc sensation and general co111fort he ,viii

enjoy.

X •R. A T EO i\1 1\ S S A GE F O R t-i £R

X-R ATED M ASSAG E

lt/J ,s•

Oil scains, so ntakc quice sure your partner is l}'ing on a bed of to\vels. Please ensure that the oil is \vann and

The skin is rhc body ',; higg.eost oran.:tnd 1ust be11e-.uh ir, sur face lie millions of tiny nerve ending'.'>.,II SCn)Hive co touch. Fe\v parts of rhe hu,nall bodr trt ,nore scnsirive than the fen1alc genita l"-. so here no,v ,1rc sornc po"•crful rc,vards in the shape of \vondcrful touch ,;1rokcs for ,hr1n .

DUCK 'S BI LL

Shape the fingers of one hand 11110 a "duck 's bill,.. hold the1n above her clitoris, and pour ,varn1cd n1ass.af.C oil over them so that it slo,vly ,1;eeps through :tnd tuns onto

her genitals.but not into her v:1g1n:t . This ,s experieoc:ed :ts a flooding sensation, full of \\':lrnuh but slightlr disturbing

-,vhich is as ir should be.

that it doesn't flo\v inside her vagina.

ntouth. \X'hen >'ou've ..,vibbled"" one outer lip. repeat the process <>11the Other.and then 1110,•e on co rhe inner lips.

CLITO R A L 1AN E UV ERS

Ex,rcmcly delicately.,vith an almost featherlight touch 3lld using pleory of lubrication . run your finger

firsr around the head and

then up and do\vrt the sha ft of her clitoris.

"WIRBLI NG "

:,; Start ,vith the outer labia. Use both of }'Our hands at the sa1ne tin1c, gentlr pull on it. then let go. just 3S you 1nighr do i[ this \\'Cf'C Ont of the lips o( fOu r

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HAPPY

ho live in cm. .es tend to lose

Those of us w ression of the f I na tu ra l prog .

sight o t ie .•e tha t there ,s ' don't none

seasons. We . the natu ral world.

' va

. ut there 111 .

. a to

riety o

v of pay111g

ttennon

But one wa, l riations is by 'f ' na tu ra va

some of I , c s , . celebrate some

. I decid111g to

conscious Y . This is where f life's h igh po,nrs. •

o anniversari.es come 111.

H A P PY A X I V E R ',A R I E S,

.;,f GAMES F O R SPEC I A L

- ,_ tnle6'/

The 21st4ccnn1ry n1cthod of offerin!! vari.nion ro our li\'es is to (<><:us on celebrating anni"ersaries. he they pcrson31 or cultural.

\V/e m,1ke a bi; deal out of gi\'ing presents. thro,ving dinner partie:,.going out for d rink:,. or spending celebratory tin1c \\1ith friend,; a nd fa,nil)'. \'(/e rend not to use sex for these e\'ents. bccause n1ost of us feel that sex. to be good

and to feel ..real,.. ought to be spontaneous.

\Xlhar ,vc son1eti1nes lose sight of is chat "'c orten spend hou rs th111k1ng about sex, ru1111ing ir through our heads in fantasy. \'<'hat happens at the end of this process still falls under rhe

title of -spontan<.'ous." bt'CaUS<' in spite of this unconscious brainstorn1ing \\'C still don't

:iccually kno,v ,vhat ,viii h.1ppen. 1lo,v c,111

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G ,\,\l F S FO R P E C I A L T I I t:. S

\\'C'? \X1hat e,•entua lly cakes place depend,; on

:1r1orhcr pcr:,On. And other people .1rc unpredictable. A ren't th1..y?

OFF TO THE NIGHTCLUB

Of course. other people 1r(' unpn dictablc. Bur t•,•cn tht•n there art> a fe"' things th:tl you can fo1'C":>Ct". If you delight your \\'Otn:111 ,vith a ro,naotu.•Vale11tioe• upper for nvo. the odds

:ire she'll adore you for 11.If you celehrate

your 111anfriend':, hirrhd:1' h•""'ctping hin1 off to a trJnsscxual nightclub. he ,viii n1osr likely be th rilled. On the next fe"' pae:, I discus:, 01•nc of the 111orc significant .1nnivers.aries. the ones rhat ,vc cdcbr;.1tc ..en n1.1sse" ;,tnd son1c

,h,u arc n1orc p<"rsonal.

, f ct/011 ttjJ

Re sensitive to your partner's prcicrcnct-s. but don'r be afraid of having son1e special celebrations on f-ligh l)ays and Holid::iys.

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f l A P PY A X r,: I V E R '- A R I E S

The sex g, 1111<.' pickfd for ,1 birthd.1y celehr:ttion ought co he son1rching pa rucularly personal co your partn('r. i:or C'\'.an1plc.one 1na11kne,,• his ,,•on1an ,vas fas...:inat<.'d b• aodrogynous individu 1ls. So he in\'itcd h('r to

a cross-dressing pan) - for I\VO. Ile cook gre.u pains ,\•ich his :ippearance. sh;i,•ed his legs. arrancd hi hair {,vh1ch ,v:.,, con,•e111enil)' long), put on a dress ;ind ...:;ireful!,applied 111;1keup. She. fa<:.:inated (ell i11 \Vith the

cht•n1c ,vith enthu)i:1111.ind arn\'ed ,ve:1r111g 1

tailored pinstriped pant)uir, h:ur slicked hack. her face 1ninus rnakcup.

The ,neering ,vas 1no1nencous. She took one look ;u hint, skun1ned the front door shut. didn't stop to thiok 1bouc the supper ca reful!• laid our, hut just grabbed her 1nan and ...:ancd

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YO U R B IRT H DA Y

hint off ro che bedroont . l-ic only had tin1e ro his, ..keep it in char 1crer" before she fell on h11n in a frcn1y.

HINTS FOR HER

G{'t 111to 1hc idt..'a that iiis up ro you to ,n:ikc the.•n1oves. If hC' likes rhe idea. you l"a11 pcnerr:ue hint ,vi1h a fing("r or ,vi1h 1 s,nall

\'i bra1or. Or 1i you cnn-.ider yourself to he R

real houlld.tr)••hre;,1 kcr.you 1ni,ght invest in :l

,tr:11> 0n dildo and truly ct into ch 1ra1.;1er.

Hl:S:TS FOR Hl I

P. 1per your \\'0111311 u1uil she io; out of her rnind '"ith <,,.;_•nsual pk•asure. Prepare a .."•ec1sn1dlin h.uh for her.slo,"1•u1d luxurtously c.oak her. f«d her lusciou1, fruit, and give h<.'r ch:.tn1pag.ne front a rall. ice-cold. fluted glass. Then vri.lp her in hot. fluffy to,\•cls and Ci.lrry he-r to bed.

A nd \vhcn it's all over? \\!ell 11:1. tur 1lly you cut the hirthd:.iy cak(•,

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H A P PY A N N J V E R <- A R t f <;

R ELATI ONSH I P

Aaaioel a;

By dcfinirion. ,1n ,tnnt\'Cr'>a ry 1!- the celchranon

of a 1011 ri,nt spen, ,oc,hcr. A \'Cr• pc,,al

,nrthod of sp1c;in up your long•tern1 relationship therefor,•is ,o play at thc !=;une of Fi rst ;\ lccting.

TH f. GA I E

In First lc:ctin!Z you prete11d th.u you are making each othtr's acquai nranc<' for the iir:t ti111c.Arrive cpar-:'ltely :tt , restaurant for

di1Hll"f and i.it at cpar.1tc 1ahles.As you ordrr

•our ,ncal . ..notice.. the other pcrsoo at t 11ead)y tahk. Keep on noticin1,!. Eve11tually one of you ,night ,valk over to the 01her 111d

introduce yourself or you ,nip.h t send.1 not(' over via the ,va irer. s 1y111g ho\V •ou have been un;,, hle to tear your eyes a,v;,,•.Thr other n1ight chooi.c th1" n1on1ent to look coy.

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R i'. L A T I ON <. J I I P A :,I N l \'f.K 'iA R Y

Thank you ,•er • ,nu<.'.h . 1he•,night iodic:ue. directly or rhroup.h the ,vauer. hut I don'1 norn1a lly do thi.; k ind of thing.

Bur you still (.an't )("fillco srop your ('yts fron1 S\\'ivcli ng i n rhis person•s d1n ction, E"entutlly. rou ai.k the "•:1. itcr to rake :., drink O\'Cr to chc ochc.•r's table. O\\' It is up ro the Othc r ,vhethcr or not to say.••Tha11k you ,•ery nn1ch. contc on n\'cr and talk."

GA11E A :,.J A LYSIS

Perhaps chi" doesn'r round like nn,ch o( ,t

ga1nt ,vhcn you rc.1.d the.•idea in bhlck and

"•hire. hut rht cxpc•.ricncc o( acting ir our under

chc cye-i. of other pcopl<' - kno,vi11g that rhe "-.1iccr.for cx,unple. rrul} rhink, you :., re

pick ing each other up - can be curious. Ir i ai. if i( is rc.-a lly happening . You "'under "'h:.tt rhe

\\' l iter think;. ;ih<Hlt you. Or if :., nyone <.'lsc 111

1hc roon1 h:t, tvcn noticed and perhaps

<l1sapJ)ro,•e. Tr•,c and i..cc.

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HA P P\' A K K IV ER A R IE

VALENTIN E'S

0Cf!?

Plan on a privacc cclebr,uion. ln\'itc your partner over co your place for 1he evening and n1cct hin1at the door ,vii h a bocrle of cha1npagne. \Xfhile you arc looscnintt up to the acco1np 1ni1ne111 of chanlpaine bubbles and

1ne prirne sound. feed your lo\'er a light

\fale11tille"s supper. \Xfait on hin1 and agree to e"cry rcqu('St he n1akes. \X'hen he is fi11id1ed. tell hin1that you ,,•ill treat hi111 to che best thing on c:.1rth to help digest hi<: ,ne.11. Take

hi rn O\'Cr to an annchair, rake hb shoes off. a11d give hi1n a soothing foor massage as he relaxes.

THE PAIPEREO FOOT

U<ing liquid soap ( peppermint for added zest) kneel in front of hi1n and. cradling his feet in

,varn1 to,vels, 1nassage fir:t one. the11the other foot. T,:11 your pa rtner to close h, eyes

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throughout and 011 no account help in an•"'3' h•nloving his limbs. t\ II such n1ove111eru i your n )ponsibility. The experience for rhe person being p.1111pert."d i:, of helplessness. luxur}', 111d trust.

\X1htn he is so relaxed thar he is a conlpletc puSS\'\.'ac. e11d your rnassaging and ,\'alk hi,n

th rough to tht•ht'dr0<>111. l\o,v try out sorne of .

the gto,vn •up ,tutl on hi,n. See pages 186-i '

(or our X•r:ued :,trokt•:,. The idea is th.It this is his special Valentine ,rear. This is a 1in1e devored entirely to hi1n. Your needs can be looked after at anotht."t tinle.

FANTASTIC FOOT STROKES

\X'irh both hands holding one foot. press your 1hu111bs firn1ly inco the sole of 1he fr.>01 a nd rorate finnly on the surf-1cc.Repeat all over ,he hotton1 of the foot. Slip a ,vell lubric-att."d finger h.:t\\•ctn t,vo tocs and slo"•ly pull it back,\'a r<l

.1nd fonvard. Repeat bet\veen rhe other t(>('.:S.

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H A PPY A :,;:,;1V E R 'A R l l- \

MAY .

;\ lay Day b .:Hl original B:1cch.1n1. li:i11, pri.1p1c ftsti,\t) celebrat ing ,vin<.' and C.<.'X, (n .1: nc1e1H days a $ti:1111 ph:dlu-. ,v;lS r,:1raded do,,•o the streets follO\\'<.'d hy l..1uhin.drinkinlf, 111cn and "'on1en. Afrtr the p;.1radc..1n,1ny of the

rtvelrrs ,vould retreat into the.•hu shes for rhe1r o,vn forn1 of cclehra1ion. So extren1r "•ere sonie poopl(''S .:u1t1cs chat one Ront:llt e1n1>eror

:u:.tu:tll}' banned the ,elebruions in order to pr,-scr\'e the.• puhlic pt":tce. Re1nen1bet all th:H rnedieva l 1naypole dancing? l)1d }'Ou kilo\\' chat it i> a leftover of the tarlier. ,,•ilc.ler fesri,•al? Herc's "•ha t you can do to brin chi phall ic annH'Cr..1ry up to dace.

Till GA,\ lf.

Tell your pa rtner that )'ou have been asked hy

a sex toy•:n1anuf:tcturer to rest 1n.1tkec son1c

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,\I A Y D A Y

of chrir apparatt"S. Handle rhe g:.une clinically.

,.\sk your l'):,nner 10 lie back on the.•bed . ha\'ing re1110\'ed 1heir panti<:s/boxe r shorts. a nd ask your pannrr to ratr <.>ach piect" o( rqu1p1nen1 as eirher a) satisf:.'lctory.h) highly

s:uisfr1c1ory. or c) not >-'.ltisfactory at al l.•rhrn sysccn1atic:;:1lly test our the.> l:trgesr rangt of vibrators you can lay your hand:, on. You 1nigh1 expcr11nen1 "'nh :1 ring-shaped "ibrator that fies :tround the base of the penis, a n electric po,w!red gi::un that shakes the ,vhole body, let alone the penis, ot the.> special anal n1odcl that i) curved slightly in order to reach the super-sensitive prostate area..\ lake sure.> you kerp to the role to ensure char the

experience is 11101c pro"ocati\'e.

DISCR ETIO N ASSU R ED

If you hate the idea of "isiting a sex shop in person for rour vibrators.tr•"ircual shopping on the internet. Sec thi.' Appendix for our useful ,vcbsites.

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H A r r v 1\ N 1...: l \' E R SA R I F. S

The Thanksgi"ing 1neal co1n1nen1oraces rhe feast gi\'en in rhanks for a s..1fe harvest hy rh(' Pilgri111 colonises in 1621. and has hecon1c an i,nportant part of An1el'ican life. f.al"h year. fan1ilies all O\'tt An1eric:t sir do,vn coge1her t<>

:.l huge 1neal of roast turkey and ocher an,1ivcrsarr fare co gi"e 1ha11ks.Thlrc t1rc n1any other reasons. ho"•cvcr.ro gi"c rhanks. Perhaps •ou htl\'t a special event ro celebrate. You have passed a n i n1portant cxa1n. Or n1aybc landed a nc,,•job. There a rc n1any l'Xciting life 0<.:casions ,vhcn "'C ,vant to do so1neching special.

One couple decided co serve each other up as

,he Thanksgiving ftasr!,\Ia ra trus.scd Georgr up likt a rurker. tying his arins and leg.:; loosclr together. 011ce he ,vas lying on his

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T l l t\ N K S G I V I N C S E X CA l E S

hack '"ith his lin1bs strapped across hi,n. tar.i rubbed George do"•n '"ith oil.actually basting hi,n ,\'ith teaspoonfuls of chC' scuff. She

dt'.Cid•td against puuing hi n1i11 the oven, hut subsritutc:d a po"•er(ul hai r dryer so that she 111ight hear certttin n1eaty portions. This all (eh so silly th,u Gt.orgc spenr rnuch of the tin1e convulsed ,vith laughter. The denouc1nt•nt cantl' "'hen the -bird .. ,vas cons1clcrcd ready (or

t-ati ng. tara fell on hiin ,111d ,retende-d to chornp all over. The couple laughe-d so 1nuch that \\'hen A•la ra finally unstrapped hin1, they laughed all the ,va}' co cli111ax. l:1. ughter r.iiscs adreoaline le"els, :)) do other forceful e,notions.R:1ised adrenal ine lcv<.'ls ,nean the sexual response cycle has already begun! h n1akes a nice change ro corn on to hu nlor.

TACTFUL TIP

Only play chis ga,ne ,vith son1eone ,vl101n you kno,v possesses exac:t lr 1he stune sense of hun1or as yourself!

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t-l A P P Y A N N I V E R A R l t1i:

CH R ISTMAS/CH AN UK AH

Jea; !3zt1v

Ho, ho, ho! \\!.!hat is it th:.u conlcs to rnind a ,ve thi1lk abour Christnl ls? Santas.holly.briglnly

,vrapJX--d gifts. roaring fires.the Yule log? And although Chanukah do('S nor have the s1. n1c

<.'onnot;itions.son1e of the Chrisrn1as raizn1atazz has goncn n1ixed up ,vich the jc,vish festival 1,«ause they are situated so close togcrher.

Bright lights. the cold. 1nd ro.1ri11g fires are cerrainly con1n1on to both festivals. In order to get fully into the spirit of yule, 1 suggest a hands• on present in rhe shape oi :'I ..hot .. 01;1ssage.

You 1nighc prepare your lover for their prese,n by giving rhern an Cn\'elope. Inside is :., beaurifullr penned cenific.atc saying ''This ccrtificare e11tirles rou co one 'hot' n1assage." The houer the better you n1igln chink. as you struggle aga111sr the icy seasonal ,vcacher.

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HOT 1ASSACE

Hot mass:lge consisrs of ordinar}•body 1n:1ss.1ge. but done ,,,ith a sp«:ial ,nassage cre 11n. The

best son to uS<' is a 1nusdc rub crcan1. so,ne of

,vhich ca1l be bought through n1ail order or the in1eriie1 (see Appendix). If you are iino seriously intt'nsc sens,uion. you ,night think about a SHong n1uscle rub. but h<' a,varc. if you apply too n1uch o( this it c Hl ;.1ctuall}' burn. Gi\'C your parrner the honest n1assagc or their life. barring the genitals. \'((hen it cornes to p,,ying ,urention to rhosc orians, ,v:.,h your hands :.,nd !)\Vitch 10 X•raced strokes.

For her.you 1nigh1 ,ry l igh1ly circli11g 011her clitoris.or gently ruggi ng 1iny clurnps of her pubi<.' hair. For hi1n. you 111ight try the "countdo,,,n•• 1nassage on his peois - 1nassaging dou,u the shaft of the penis ten (i111cs.thc.n up the h:1(1 ten tirnes. Repeat 11i11e 1i111es. then eight, ,•co, and six 1i1nes through 10 on<.'e -

i( he can hold out for that long!

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H A l> P Y A :,./ J V E R SA R J £S

Perhaps it•s one of those dull gray da•s \Vhen you can't belie\'e anything nice is ever goi,1g ro happen ag.a in ,111d surnmer feels a long \\'a)'

off. Nor a re there any pleasant anni\'ersaries or treats to look for\va rd to. h's a day. in facr. for the Lucky Di p. This is an in\'ention designed to shake you and your panner out o( your \vinter blues - look in the l ucky dip bag and get into a n1ore (esti\•e srate o( n1i11d.

STAGE 01'E

Get out the Dip Bag. This can be any kind of bag. In d1c bag a rc a nu 1nbc•.r of sex con1n1ands

\vritten on separate pieces of paper. I f you don•t happen to have such a Dip Bag con\'en1ently lying around you r house.you

,night enjoy preparing one in ad\'ance just in case of exactly this 1ype of rainy day!\'i'har

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LUC K Y 011'

son of sex conllnands should you gi\'e? Herc a rc son1e suggestions:

• hot a nd cold or:il sex. alterna ting you r n1ourh heated by hot tea \Vith rour ,nouth cooled by ice cubes

• <"xchanging fantasies

• :1cri,1g like n horny lesbian

• pretending you are a hooker

• \'ice cop

• applying for a job.

STAGE TWO

Obey the co,nntands .

GA 1E A N A LYSIS

Lucky Dip sounds horribly anificial and ,nay inspire you to run a n1ile. The in1eresting thing. ho,,'e\•er, about doing sexua l things because

rou\ c been ..told to," is thar sornctir11cs they turn out co be very sex•indeed. TI1is is probably becttuse the "telling"' so1nehO\\' gi\'eS

,•ou pern1issio,1 to he a very different person.

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BEDTIME

Jto-rte&

Readi ng )'Our lover a story at bedtime is an act of pu re ind ulgence - it's a time•

honored method of offering a specia l trea t. Perhaps the steries are sexually arousi ng in themselves. Or perhaps they jus t lay the groundwork for relaxation and mutua l approval. Here are two steries rhat you

can recou nr to your pa rtner just before you lure them u nder the bedclothes.

B E DT I \I E STO R I ES T H E U N S P U N V E R S I O N - C I N O E lt E L L A

THE UNSP UN VE RSI ON

(Jtiukre!fa

Ella, her stepmother Jane, and her 1,vo stepsisters, Candy and Lulu. ,vere in a fluster.They had just received an invita tion to the Royal Ball. The problen1 ,vas that todJ}' ,vas Friday. and the ball

,va s on Saturda)'•"\Xlhat on ea rth tO ,vcar!", "'as the first question that sprang to n1ind.

Since Jane's husband (and Cinderella•s father) had died.rnoney had been ver)' right. It's not eaS)' for

four vomen tO survive on a s1nall retiren1ent ii1co1ne. Ho"•c,•er, some clever rustli11g arou11d i11 their n1utual

,vardrobcs1 plus a great deal of exchanging of garn1ents. ended up ,vith all foul' "•on1e11 1neeri11g rhe challenge and n,anaging to look stunning for the ball. The onlr ire,ns thH they had co buy specially for the event "'ere the ,nasks that ,vould disguise chc1n.

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On the night of the ball Jane persuaded F.llas god1no1her, '1ar>', to le11d then, her coach. and 1hc.• all•fernale fan1ily arrived at the palace in sryl .

Thanks to the ovcrright bodice style of the cirne. thi

,von1en had no difficult)' in securing dancing

partners. I ndeed, such ,vas the ,vhirl of the ballroon, that Ella several tin1cs lost sight complcu:ly of her stcpn1other and nvo sisters.

Ella had of course rnct the prince before. His family and hers ,vere old frieods but she hadn't seen hi1n for some years. During that time he had acqt1ired a reputation as a bit of a playbo)•, "Not really n1y type, ••Ella had explained 10 Jane. •Anyway he feels like a brother.••

Toward 1 1 o'clock Ella was approached by a tall, dark,and handson1c man (also 111asked) ,vhom she assu111ed to be one of the prince's college friends. This n1an ,vas a different kcnlc of fish altogether.

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There ,vas so1nething about hin1that ser her pulse

soaring and turned her knees to jelly. It took only :

one ,valrt (or Ella ro feel like urgently going

son1e,vhere a Huie quieter.Fortunarel)', the straoger '

appeared ro feel the san1c.

Ella found hcr:,elf lt:1ding the )'Oung 1nan ro,vard rhe royal surnrncr house. "•hich she re1nen1bered ,vell fron1 childhood. Once inside, ht pushed her agai11sr the rustic ,vall and kissc.>. d her so passionatCI>• that she aln1ost forgot to brearhe. \X:lirhin an embarrassingly short dmc she had Stink onto n COl'lvcnient ly placed old rn:inress on the floor ,vith her bodice pusht.--d do\\11'1 ro her ,vaisr, her panties tossed on the bench at the b:ick and the prince's friend thrusting into her as if ,11 hell depended on his strokes.

He ,vas graced ,vith :u1 exce1>tiooally la rge penis, and Ella aln1osr i111mcdiately felt sensual tension

,nounring. In fact, ;1 kind of runnoil engulfed her as

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he appe:1red 10 s1i1nulate her fron1 fou r different direcric'>ns at once. One hand "'ent do,"n her pubis ro her labi,, and rubbed lubriciously and

sensarionally across her clitoris.. ,vhile rhe other hand son1cho,v crept around the back and slid a large finger into her back pass..1ge. This finger

puzzliogly see1ned ro enlarge as he co1nioued to 1nove ir. \'(/hat,vith the po,verful thrusting at the front a11d the co1ura thrustiog at the back, llOt to n1ention rhe incredible stroking. Ella ,vas at rhe very point of screanting her head off ,vhen she suddenly he:1.rd a cl:1.1nor of voices outside.

..Ella, "'here ar(" you? \'\le'vc got co go. The coach is about ro leave. Ella you n1usr con1t• ar once," shouted her siters as thC)' hurried up rhe gravel

,valk ro,vards rhe sun11ncr house. As Ella heard their voices, she also rook in rhe uo,nisrakable sound of the palace clock chi,ning rnidnighr. D 11nn! Her godn1orher had 1nade it quite clear that the

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coach 1nan, ,vho "'3S an independent spirit ,,•ith a rnind of his o,vn, ,vould not ,vait a 1ninute a(rer rnid11ighr before seuiog off for hornc.

Scrca1ning out, "Oh. Lord," and "1'111 so sorrr," a11d fueled b}• her 1H)\\" ,nassive '-txual tension . Ell 1 sht>t out of rhe young ma n's em brace, hiked her bodice up O\'Cr her large breasts and rushed to unlock the door. Astou ndingly enough her 1nask

,,•as srill in place. Slan11ning the door closed behind her so th3t her sisters could11'r see her :.1p1>a llcd IO\'Cr, she joined thc111 i n racing to the entrance.

Ther accuall)' 111:.1dc ir ro rhe carrhtge h}' rhc l:1st

srroke of rhe clock.

"You look a bit flushed," said Jane accusingly to Ell 1. ••J n1ec rhis gorgeous )'Ottng 111:111," said Ella dr<-an1ily, '"one of the prince's friends I chink...

•Ah:•said her co1np 1nions ,vith underscanding. Each fell to her O\\'ll silent thoughcs.

The next d:iy in ch urch, the four ,von1en "•er ,\ lirrle surprised 10 hear ir announced chat ,he pri nce had 111et a bcauliful young ,vo111a11 the previou,

nighr ar d1c hall, ,vhon1 he had unetly (alien for .inti intended to ,narr>'•This parngon of beauty h:td left

i n a hurry. and it "•,1s unfonunatdy only by an iten1 of clothing rhar rhe prince "'ould be able to identify her. That afternoon, ever>' l111n1arried "'Onta n i n

co,vn 1nighr expt a ,1isit fro1n hiin.

It ,vasn'r until Ell:t unsusp<.-cri11g.ly opened the front door to the prince that she realized ,vhar she had done. Achniucd ly she hadn'r seen rhc rn;.1n for years, bur oh, ho,v he had changed. \Vith no diff icuhy at all she recogni:1,e-d hin1as the ardent lover of the previous night. Suddenly she didn't fct'I so

u11i11re resrcd after .111.

But it ,vas ,vith en1barl'assn1e1u rhar she ident ifiC"d che p:i,nies she had so carelessly tossed :-1siclc in rhc;-

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sun11l1er house. •\\:,ould any of you ch:lrn1ing l:1dies lar cklirn to these?'' a:,kcd 1hc prince ,vith a Hvinklc in hi e•<.•s. Ella "'as poised to s.ay hlushinglr ..Oh dear, they art' n1inc." ,,•hen sht' received a shock .

"Thcr a rc n1inc," s.aid h(•r st<.'p1noth('r,,vho daringly pulled u p he,•skin at rhe side to 1'C\'e;.1) rh:H she ,,1as i11deed ,vearing their r,vin. And, of cou rse.rhey did belong ro Jane. Ther ,vere one of rhe ,na11y garn1cnts that the four relatives had tossed around during ,heir excited and cxtcnsi"c prcpanuions (or the bal l.

After n1any cries of joy had been unercd and the prince had plit1,htcd his troth 10 Jane. and after the

royal panr had left, pro1nising 10 return again very soon. Ella received ::i norhcr shock.

"\Xlhat do you 1nean hr this?" she scre:.nned at her srepn1orher as soon as the front door ,va s closed.

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"You k no\11 I ,v.1s ,vcaring those- panties. You kno"

I\\';1. s ,vi1h hi1n last night.••

A..; her "itCp1no1 hcr looked :tt her oddly.Candy.,nd 1.ulu ioi111;.•d in th(.• scr<. unin,g too. ..\Xlhat do rou n1c;.1n Ella?.. thcr ,;,hrickC'd siinulraneously.",vc ,v<.•rc

,vi1h that 111,u, la,1 night.in th(." sunln1cr house. \Y/e

.,II "•ore tl,c :,.:uuc panties.Ho"' dare you lay cla in,

to hi,n? ..

Jane lookt>d at all three girls ,virh a cold fury. ..You can all stop shouting:•she declared icily, "I "'as

,vith tht' prince last night. Those are n1•panties and I h:.n•e no intention of sharing an)•thing \\1ith )'OU child ren any ,norc ever aga in, <.'"Specially not 111)' 11ex, hushand ...

Oh \\'ell, Ella thought to herself. ::is her shock

:,ubsided. ..You "'in some. you lose son1c - J nc,•er did like the pri nce very n1uch any\\•;;1y!"

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"It's ,,o use Ton,.r,n going to have co ,\'ithdr , ,,, front the cornpetition." Alison sounded fed up.

"But \Vh>•?.. To1n (elf hin1sel( surprising! •stung hy

dis.appoin11ncn1.

••B,'<'ause it's not possible for either of us to \vin. l'\'e thought about it front every ,vhich "'")' and e tch t i,ne I con,e up ,vith ... the i1npoibility of the c:1sk. If both of us kno,v rhar each is trying to 111:ike rhe orher f:111 in love. the equation cancels out. I honestly don•, believe it's possible.''

"But ,vhat ,bout the prize 111oney? \Xlhat ,bout the ,,•eb "ideo CQ\'t"rage? I f you ,vithdra,v ,ve lose the lot. Can't you try a lirrle harder?"

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•• No," Alison ,vas fin31. "l'1n going ro tell the organi1.ers ,ve are droppi11g out...

"U1n, •• Ton1,vas thoughtful. "\Xie could just not tell rhen1until rhe final broadcast. At least that ,vay \\'e•d gc, coverage and an ongoing ft-.c. Irea lly n<-. ed th<.• 111oney.A li."

Alison reconsidered. "'You n1can ,vc ,vou ld have to pretend?..

•• It ,vouldn 'c kill us," To1n poineed our. ••And it ,vould pa>' 1he bills for three n1ore 1nonrhs."

And so :1 \\'Orking agree111ent ,vas forged. In recu rn for 1on1s' agrc-rn1cn1 to ,vill1dra"', Alison ,vou ld refrain fro111 resigning their place. I n return for To111s'

pron1ise to keep quiet a bout her ,vichdra"1al , the couple \\'Ould ar least beoe(i, fro1n a s,nall inco,ne, "•hile fooling the judges.

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The Love Caine had been announced on \X' eb\ljd 1hree month.s ago and hundreds or couple-s had inu11c<liatcly

i:.i.p,,l\ed U\) for the con\\'>etition.'The \.!.<>:ti "'a to 1nake each 01her full in lo"e ,vithin a ti1nescale or six 111onrhs. TI1c

first person co succeed (in gening the other to turn starl')'• eyed) ,vould be 1he ,vinner.1l1e rrick (behi1ld the ,vebcam co1np1. n>'s risk of ::.helling out 1nillions) ,vas that the task conroincd a built in paradox. If you arc rold to fu.11 in love, it is vinuallr in1possible. So far there had bt-cn no ,vinners but a lot of funny :.ind despairing ,veb coverage.

Once ron1and AJison had come to their private deal. the u,nosphere bet\veen the couple lightened. K110,ving that the>• ,veren't going to ,vin and that 11one or rheir

n10,•es ,nattered any longer 1ne;1n1 the>' could relax. Ho,vrvcr, to kcrp up appearances they did all the rhings thar lovers rrnditionally do. The>' strolled in the \\'oodS. lunched by ,he side of the lake. held hands every,vhcrc but, unlike 1nost great lovers.their counship,vas accontpanied at ever)' stage by a \Vebcant.

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or Course. 1hcy \Vere COlitlcd tO tUrt) the (;.\lllt .f. l off. '.\'ob<>d)'expected 1he1n to go to the h,nhroo,n ,\ hll('

\'ie,ve<I by n1illions. And the need for privac 11ne1b 1t1c..• d as the rnonths ,,•cnt by.Increasingly, the (an1era got S\virched off. During chese blind periods To,n and :\linl

\VOuld slun1p side by side relaxing. The situation toff•

ca,nera) even became funny -a rrpe of running joke.

U1nil 011e day, in a blind period, ,vhen Torn \Vas fooling. around as usual and Alison ,vas convulsed ,vith laughter. an unexpected thing happened. She kis:,.ed hi1n. And he. 1ake11 by surprised, paused a n1inute and then S\\'cetlr

and slo,vlr ki.ssed her back. l11en it \vas as if a scaring fire had s,vcpt over thcnl. One 111i11ute they ,vere a

couple of kids, the next thC)' ,verc locked in :in c1nbro.ct.

"\Xfc'"c got 10 stop this,.. gasped Alison, her ,nourh rull ,vith To1ns' lips. "It's aga inst rhe rulci..''

•1 can't," gasped Tont in return. "I can't \Vait a

1ni11ute looger."

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"Neither can I, '" she choked, 3nd sank into hin1 as if he

,vcrc the ocean. f.vcrr n1ove they 111ade felt likt sea foa1n, floating l ike bubblc.-s lightly stroked by ,vavclc1s. After five n10111hs of touch abstinence. every incl1 of their skin and all the deep pockets of sensual dssu(' filled and s,vcll<.d .-. nd g,rc,v unril each caress ,v:ts tillged

\\'ith :'I pleasure so intense it ,v-as sharp. Th(• p:.1in

pierced thc,n and stilled rhc1n. Soon. ,,•ith no n10\'Cn1cnt

at all, their bodies ,\'ere transfixed by this so.1ring.,

:.1chi11g delight.

,,•ith no n1e':ll1ing. 111c ,vonderful, achi,,g:. <. Xtr 1ord 1n:.1ry sex pierced 1he1n through unril rhc plc:-asun.:,,.•,._ "hot through ,vith pain, the roof lifted off the li,•ing. rocun. and the couple 1nushroo1ned ot1t into space.

Aftcr,va rd: "Ir ,vas only sex,,vasn't it?" A lison's ,•o,c sounded unsure.

''\Xlell, yes. Of cou rse."

A pause. ..Sex is tlgainsr rhe rules though. isn.•1 it?"

..\Xlell yts,••:\nother pause.

They rook each ocher's clothes off as iiin slo\\' n1otion. They lay together s::i,•oring 1he r,crfttt rextute of each other's nudi\ tOoching, p.l iding. s1noo1hly ruhhi11g flesh 011 llesh. As their bodies slid and stroked and rheir cries nn1r111u red and n1inglcd. tht.y drove rhc other into grt>ater lay<'rs of scns:nio11.The build up of perfttt scnsua lit)' "•as like the slo,,•detonation of a nuclc.1r bo1nb. Layer grC\\' upo11 layer, reaching higher and higher into the k)'. \'(lords tu1nbled out of their n1ourhs

The couple kissed i.,assionately.

Another pause.

''\Vhat ar<.' ,ve going ro do?'" "6cn<•.r not tell anyone, I suppose:." ''No."

Ten ,ninutes later. "lint<.' to s,vitch rhc c,a,nera on again.

.;K iss n1e first."

"'I 'd lo"c to.''

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On the day of the finals.Alison and To1n concealed their sh,uncful cpisodC.

"To1n, ,vc0 \'C.- got 10 cell rhen1 this h,1 n't ,vorkcd ." "Shush," said Ton,. ••\'(fc'll (ail the Love Test any,,•ay. It

,heir foot!itcps for the first ri1ne i,,six ,nonths, To1n rounded on Alison. "You fooled ,ne, didn't you? •he

sound,.:<l S.'.l\'agc. "You got n1c to fall in love "•ith you by announcing th:.u there ,,•as no contest?"'

doesn't inaner."' Alison looked sc,1rcd. "'It's not true. To1n. lf it,vcr<:. I

,vould ha\'e been sponcd by the Lovco1ncrcr. It n1ust

F.ach couple stood i n front of the 1.oveorneter. The Lovcon1cter is a l ie dctci:ror that 1nc,1surcs the COlq>les si1nultaneously. On 1his occasion. ho1h Torn and Alison stated that ther ,vere not in love \\1ith each 01her.And as the)' spoke, the l.oveo1neu.r sounded the siren. According to t he pol)•graph, they

,vere both lying.

..L:,dics :llld gentlcrnen, the ,vinncrs.•• announced the host. •This couple is in lo"e - it"s of(icial...

r\s Tonl and Aliso,, ,,•ere garlanded and handed enonnous cht".Ckh rhcir every sntile ,vas trans,nined all over rhc \\'Orld . Aftcnv:lrd, ,vithour a can1era dogging

have been the sex...

To,n calined do,vn a hit. •Possibly. Lei's see." Reaching out he took Al ison in his arn1s. And fused ituo her ,na rvelous bodr. So1ne half an hour later.he

s.11 up :1gain. "Yes," he agreed, "ir l'tluSt have been the !iiCX .. An arn1 snaked u p and pulled hi,n back do,vn ag:1in .

Up on lhC ccilins: a h idden eye rrt11ls111ined evertrhiog.

The co,npetition organizers ,vere not to be

undcresri,n:Hcd ... Ther had recognized good ,,•eh<:a rn potential front Lhc st;irc.

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hc-,.it,.nc to c.a •NO,.. even i( you (c.1:- you 111ight offend your partnt•r ,tnd never ol•htru.;t 1he 111outh tHl<l noc.e under ,111) circu111s1,1n,..-s.

period.and do not bring in any third parties

I OOK ll'.G (;OOO, SIF.1.1.IKG GOOD

.\loc.t of u bathe •111d c;ho"•cr n:gul.1rly.but ho\\' n1.1ny of uc; pay sel'ious auencion co odors fron1 our 111outh.u1d gco1t,1b!' :\,:1

,,1Juablc g1.ner.1I rule, if you r µ('nira l<. )tart sn1cllin :1. t all unpleas.1nr and ,,._1,hin doec. 1\0t intpro,e thing:i..rake your,clf ro your doctor or th<.•nc:trec.t hospital. Genit tl infecrion':> ar<.•u)u.1lly e.t<.y ro 1rc. n and eaS) to ('fear up. 13ut the•sure can n1,1kl' ,1dr11ircr:, run :1 1111le...

louth odor 1nay 111c.u1 rh,n your gunh need attention. So.1tri p to thC' dentist and th<'

<.kntal hygienist should clc.1r th:tt prohle 1n up. And a s,\'eet•s111ellin n1outh is \'it.11. Thl' n1outh i') ahout the first piece of lnnnan

.111:ltOl\l} 111} of u:i. gt'ts dos(' to.

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ENJO YI:s;G

Jf!fo Jem

Prac-ricing sa(er sex is one o( the n1os1 i1n )ortan1 ,va•s in

'"hich you <.'.an help 10 pro1cc1 yourself a!:.1inst :., r.111gc oi sexually-1n111sn1iued diseases (Sl"Ds). including HI\'1hun1111 i1n1nuno•dcfiriency virus) and AIDS (acquired 1n11nu11e deficiency syndro,ne).

W H AT IS ,A FER SEX ?

Safer sex is any kind of sexua l acti\'ity tha( does nor in"olvc the exchange of bodily fluids. \'(lhe11 the penis penerrale.:; the vagin 1 during unprotected intercourse. the ,von1an is exposed to the rn 1n's scn1cn and he is exposed to her \\tj!inal fluids.

Since \'irus and orher infections n1ay he tr,1nsn1ined in these fluids. chis is a porcntiall•risk}• ac.::ri"ity. Ho\\•ever.if either the 1nan or the ,,0111.111 \\'Car a condo111.then ncirhcr panner is exposed co the other's fluids .1nd risk is signif1c:u1d•reduced. If you and your p.1nncr are.or ever ha"e been. intra,•cnous drug users and you shared needles ,vi1h Other users. you need 10 adopt safer sex rncthods to C'nsurc continued good he-a Ith.

W HO SHOU LD r RA CTICF. A l'ER \ F.X ?

An•ont ,vhu h:1.:; .:0111.:cr-ns or doubts.thou1 dh•'K',u.11 h1..•,1lth or hirory of a cx\1:., I pa rtn(.•r hould pr.t<'.t11 e ,.1rc' r ,._., . ()nly if ynu hoth h,1,•e a clean bill o( sexu:tl he.11th.1nd you h.,,._. ,t', onl•,virh each 01hcr i) it s:.i fc tO avoid 1>rac.:tic.:ing ...u ..•r ,... ,.

TII F. PR INCl l'I.ES OF

SAl'rn SEX

• Use a condon1duri11g any kind

o( penc-trati\'e ex.

• H:1vt• non-pcnctr.ui""' ){""<. A,ti\'itiC' ,uch as ,:areso:.ing :111d 1n,1ss.. ge :.lrc all lo,v ri;;k. Try 111urual n1.1,1urb.nion or or.ti sex ui.111 .1 condc,111.

TA KE CA R E

Be• sure of your p,,rf,rt•r before u111k111g lo1•e.

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\Xlhc..n it co111(',; to prort..'t'.:r1(nt again•a HIV.

condon1sare the ,;;afc,;;t forn1 of contrac<'pt101l. There are 1nany different tf pes ,1,,1ilablc::

colored.fl,1,•ored. textured, :11,d e\•en on1c th:n

have Sp("Ci,tl ,11t.:ich1nent. At- long as rhe- condorn p,1cke1 he-ars a recognized st,tndard 111t, rk.ul<.I ., u..t: hy date, you c;,1n he frtt to he experin1enttl. Buy .:i sck-ction of tinu.;u:il condon1s :ind try chc1n out.giving t>ach co11do,n a rating.

K E E P Tll f,.\I H A,-; l)y

Keep ..t condo1n undrrrtc:uh •our pillo\, and slip it out ,u the critk,11 n1on1ent. Hide condo1ns i,1 <;e<ret phti.:es all o,er •our hou-.C' ..o th,u ou can enjoy i1npron1ptu SC'X ,,•herever you are.

SIOOTH A PPLIC. TION

Develop ;,1 r.1r1gt> of coodon1 skills. Tc,1ch yourself to put thcn1 on slo,vly .1nd qui.:klr, in rhc dark.using only on<. hand.

Practice n1akc perfect. ,nJ i( ,ou \\\tilt :.t dununy penis to

,vork on. try a cucurnl'>t:r. Put :, condo,n on your p1rtner .,, \11u stinn1latC' hi-. p<'nic. ,vith your hands and tonu<'. Try the old Th:ii trick of .;;l ip1>inEt rhe condo,n inro your n1outh ,o rh,n y11u clad hi,n in it a.:; you hear do,vn durin1,t or,11 -.cx.

GA IES

• Try out different 1nethocls for putting on

condon1,, depcndins: on th('ir color or flavor.

• Ti111e your partner's speed ,u puning the

,:. oodc1111 Oil your 11i.

• Tell hel' rhat >ht•ha> ot to bl't' tk the- \\ Orld recor<I 111 ,l1rrnh.: a con,lo,n on w unobrru 1\'cly rh.u you do not notic 1t.

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A Body paints 31-3

Fantasic-s -12-5

cn:1c1inl,! 43

h.-. rin 42-.5

Feathers 64-5

- -l O t X

H I

Happy ..innivcrsarics 190-211

f-lorel sex 130-3

Aph<odisia(.'S 166--

:lSpar:1µus tip1:; 166

c,1viar 166

ch 11npanc 166

Body piercing 30

Bondage 82-S. 90-1

C D

Food sex g:une, 160--5

aphrodisi.-ic-. 166--

hanquets J ""0- 1

chillie1:;. danger of I 6-

Hygi,.:nc.•2:3 1

I nitiation ritt"S 58-6 1

l nteroet \t'x 120- 1

chocolat(' 16-

CUl'ry 16"'

1nseng I6-

n1ussels 166

O'ShI'.. 166

Tu rki,h deliht l6-

Auto1nohil(.•:,,('.X 1J4

C.u1i 11l-! 86-9, 91

C.1r ..c"' 1 34

c ondon,s 234-5

Oa\'Ored 2.)4

g,llllC) 23.)

Dini ng \Vith ..i difff.'rcni;e 160--5

ftt'<li11g •our p,utner 164-.5 J L

food ,1nd 1:;ex 162-3 jC\\'Cllcry.erotic JO

picnics. h,1nky p,1nk• Lc-,nht.•r SO

168-9 Losing your inhibitions 1 8-53

l.ov<•. .letters and notc-s I 08-9

Games M

Dret.iog up 98-9 ,1c1ions 15

B ;.1i1111:; 12-IJ

lass.agt"

basic:-. 3-

Bathroon, s:,..•nt.•:,, 4X-9

lkdroo,n cene 46--

&dri,ne <.torit•, 2 12-19 Blind fold:. 56-9.62-.; Body confidcnct 22-3

t,;:,1bri(

fur -2- )

silk 66--

\'('h•et 66--

code \\'Ords 14-15

general pnnciplt"-. 12-21

)Ccne. setting the 2.0-1 Ccuin,g \\'Ct 140-59

Gifts. giving sc-xy I I 0- 1 I

for her 188-9

for hi1n I 86--

props 34-5

suggtscions 35-6

.\ l.issage 1«hniqucs 1 86-189

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i\J.1qurbation 38-41. 14$.

:\lasturbatio1l techniques

1 $0-5

i\ lirrors 92-3

lotorcycle sex 1.35 lusic I04-5

N O

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