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Couples Sex Guide

Better Sex For You and Your Partner. A Couples Sex Guide That Will Enhance Your Relationship!

Ariana Hunter

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Table of Contents

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Introduction

Chapter 1: Confidence is Sexy Chapter 2: Communication is Key Chapter 3: Spontaneous Surprises Chapter 4: Set the Mood

Chapter 5: Pregame or No Game Conclusion

Introduction

Behold, The Couples Sex Guide! After reading this book you and your partner should have a completely enhanced sexual relationship. In the following chapters you will learn why confidence is crucial in sexual relationships, the necessity of excellent communication skills, the importance of spontaneity when trying to keep a long-term sexual relationship, some amazing sex positions you may have never tried, fellatio tips, cunnilingus tips, how to set the mood and the best ways to incorporate effective foreplay into your relationship.

Sex in all of its wonderful forms is a vital part of any serious, long- term relationship. If a relationship is not flourishing, you often need to look no further than the bedroom to determine what the root of the problem truly is. If a couple has a sex communications breakdown their general relationship will often breakdown as well.

They say that a couple that sleeps together stays together, but I don’t agree with that statement. Tons of couples sleep together every night, and plenty of them are miserable and sexually dissatisfied, but yet they still sleep together. I like to say that ‘a couple that is sound asleep together, dripping in sweat, sore, utterly exhausted, sexually gratified and with a big grin on their faces, stays together.’ Expressing your passion towards another person should come naturally and sex should be viewed as an act of beauty and love. But sometimes making slow passionate love is not enough to express your feelings. Sometimes you and your partner might want to get dirtier, rougher, and hotter and that’s totally okay, as long as you are both on the same page.

Sometimes you might want your partner to spank you and call you naughty, all the power to you! Sex means different things to different people. Something that might seem degrading and immoral to you might seem sensual and sexy to someone else, and vice-versa. Sex is something that should be between only the participants involved (there can obviously be more than 2 participants depending on what you’re into). You should not

have to answer to anybody about your sexual appetite because what happens in the bedroom should always stay in the bedroom.

This means that trust is a crucial aspect of a healthy sexual relationship. I didn’t include a chapter about trust because it’s so vital to a healthy sexual relationship that it had to be discussed in the opening pages of the book. Without trust you will never have a successful sexual relationship. If you and your partner don’t feel confident in the fact that you can trust each other with sexual secrets, then you need to immediately reevaluate the fundamentals of your relationship before even entertaining the idea that better sex could somehow fix your trust issues. If anything trying to save your damaged relationship with sex is almost always a counterproductive act. While sex is an integral part to a healthy

relationship, it is not the most important part. I am not here to discuss relationships in general, because that requires another book altogether. I am here for the sole purpose of enhancing sexual encounters and that is what I intend to do in this book.

Chapter 1: Confidence is Sexy

Confidence is sexy. When you look at someone, you are often attracted to the confidence they exude. That being said, confidence can be hard to find these days. We often look to the media, movies, commercials, advertisements and models to see what we “should” look like. When we do this, we create an unrealistic vision of how we should look and what we should strive for. While these models are all beautiful, we will never be able to look exactly like them, and, we shouldn’t want that for ourselves. When we look at ourselves, we have to learn how to truly feel confident within ourselves and our own skin. For many, this can be incredibly difficult.

While feeling confident can be difficult for both men and women, women are especially plagued with a lack of self-confidence. The good news is that confidence can be built within us. We first have to start loving ourselves and feeling confident with who we are as individuals and finding confidence with the bodies that we’ve been blessed with as well. While it’s ok to want to improve the way you look, confidence needs to begin within ourselves. We must first accept who we are and what we have and then find ways to tweak areas that we are unhappy with if we must. A woman with confidence can be a size 2 or a size 14, she can be 6 feet tall or 5 feet tall, she may have flaws, scars and so forth, but regardless of what she has or doesn’t’ have, she must show her confidence. It is important to feel confident with and without clothes. The reality is that you must at some point take off your clothes. Shocker right? Well, some women are unfortunately so insecure that they limit the amount of time they are naked due to their insecurities about their bodies. Taking off your clothes before you shower and when you change, may not seem like a big deal when you’re the only one in the room. However, being naked in front of your partner can be difficult if you aren’t comfortable with your body and what you look like without clothes on. The more confidence you can find within yourself, the better you will feel when you’re undressing in front of others.

Feeling confident is not an article of clothing, a job position, or anything else, confidence is an attitude, it is something that should not be

loud or overwhelming, it is a humble attitude that often comes when you are at peace with yourself and your body in its natural state. That natural state of one’s body is obviously when you are naked and free of restricting clothing. Many women like to leave the light off during sexual activities due to their insecurities; this is something we need to work on as women if we want a fulfilling sex life. I have found that most men are very visual

when it comes to sexual activity. Most men I’ve been with very much enjoy when there is some kind of light on during sex. If you are uncomfortable when you do not have clothes on, this can cause problems in the bedroom with your partner. When you’re in the bedroom, this is very important because if you aren’t feeling confident within yourself and the way you look, this may hold you back sexually. Finding confidence is incredibly important. You may have confidence with your clothes on but in order to have a truly fulfilling sex life you must be able to feel confident naked as well.

There are many tips and tools that can be used in order to build confidence. Many women often complain that they are not happy or confident with their bodies. When you take your clothes off and look in the mirror, you should first tell yourself how beautiful you are and how beautiful you look. That being said, we can always try and improve our bodies physically for our own health, energy and well-being.

If you want to look better in your clothes, lingerie, or completely naked, start working out! Exercising not only gives you long lasting energy but it will help you feel more confident as well. Building a better booty is always a great place to start when trying to build confidence. A woman with a great behind is usually full of confidence and she also looks great in jeans! Start with squats. Squats can completely transform your booty and your whole body for that matter. Start slow without weights and gradually incorporate weights into your work out routing. Adding weights will help your booty become more firm and round. Squatting with weights and using squat racks are great tools because they help tone the lower half of your body and also help you burn fat overall. Men these days are usually more attracted to a woman with a nice butt rather than large breasts. This is because women usually have to work hard in order to achieve that toned

behind! When men see the hard work a woman has put into this process, he is often attracted to this type of dedication and hard work.

Start simply; when you wake up in the morning do 10 squats. The next morning do 20, and then 30 etc. Continue adding more squats every single morning until you have to start breaking them up into sets. Let’s say you get up to 200 squats, but instead of doing 200 squats in a row you can simply do 100, take a little rest, and then do 100 more. You could even do four sets of 50 squats. For your squats keep your feet at shoulder width apart, make sure your weight is on your heels and bring your bum down to the ground while keeping your legs parallel. When you stand back up straight flex your bum for some extra muscle activation.

While squats and building your booty is a great place to start, you may also want to add more cardio into your exercise routine as well. Cardio is helpful because it burns fat overall, which will help you fit into your clothes better and feel better overall. Looking for a great cardio workout that will help you lose weight and will make you look and feel sexier? Try pole dancing. Pole dancing classes are very popular and help you build overall body strength and will also help you embrace your inner stripper.

Your partner will appreciate your new skills in the bedroom! Kettle bell and TRX classes are also fantastic full body workouts that will tone your entire body.

Incorporating cardio into your workout routine will provide you with an immense amount of energy overall and will also give you more energy in the bedroom. The more energy you have, the more active you will be in the bedroom and your partner will definitely appreciate this. When you’re in the bedroom, you’re also getting another great cardio workout, while feeling good at the same time (if your partner is performing properly). This will help your body prepare for the next round of cardio in the bedroom as well. That being said, men do not want to do all the work, that’s a fact. While there are times where men like to be in control in the bedroom, you should have this same opportunity as well. Men like a woman with confidence and someone that can handle a

situation of any kind, especially a sexual situation. You, as a woman, should be able to dominate the bedroom at times with your confidence and energy!

If you feel confident, you will be more inclined to initiate sexual acts with your partner and you will feel more comfortable with your clothes off. Find that confidence, take off your clothes, curl your hair, throw on some beautiful makeup and get ready for a night full of passion and sex. If you want your man to look at you as the confident woman you are, then take off those old pajamas and turn on your inner Victoria Secret model any time you can. When you look and feel sexy, your sex life will automatically improve.

Have you ever heard of the Pubococcygeus (PC) muscle? It’s the muscle that both men and women have and it stretches from the pubic bone to the tailbone. In his book “The Multi-Orgasmic Couple,” Mantak Chia refers the PC muscle as ‘the primary sex and love muscle.’ Working this muscle is even more important for your sex life than doing squats at the gym. Strengthening this muscle can actually allow you to orgasm easier, have multiple orgasms and pleasure your partner more during sex. A strong PC muscle in men can mean the difference between early ejaculation and being able to have sex for as long as he wants. The ability to contract this muscle tightly will increase the pleasure that both you and your partner receive during sex, and if you can contract it a lot you’re sure to make his toes curl. The stronger you can make this muscle, the better the blood flow to your vagina will be, and thus the more pleasure you will feel. Well enough talk; let’s figure out how both men and women can strengthen the fabled PC muscle.

The great thing about the PC muscle is that you can work it out no matter where you are, and nobody will even know. The next time you’re urinating, stop the stream as many times as you can. The feeling you get when you are stopping your stream is the PC muscle flexing and pulling itself upwards into your body. This sounds strange but it is a good way to strengthen the muscle. Now that you know the feeling of a PC muscle contraction you can strengthen it no matter where you are. The next time you’re sitting at your desk or watching television, why not give your love muscle a little workout? Inhale deeply while you relax your PC muscle, as you exhale tighten your PC muscle and keep it flexed for ten seconds. Do this 5 times. Next you’re going to contract your PC muscle as fast as you can 20 times in a row. On the 20th contraction I want you to hold the

contraction for as long as you possible can. If you do this workout a few times a day you’re sure to strengthen your PC muscle in a hurry.

In my personal sex life with my partner, we vowed to strengthen our PC muscles to see if it would really have an impact on our sex life.

After about two weeks of exercising our PC muscles regularly, my partner told me that my vagina felt tighter and that sex felt better. I noticed that my partner was now able to last longer during sex, which in turn made the sex better as well. It can also be fun to work your PC muscle during sex with your partner. Get your partner to slide inside of you. Once you can feel him inside of you, count to three and both of you contract your PC muscles at the same time. This should be pleasurable for both of you since your vagina will be tightening and his penis will be stiffening. Get into a rhythm and see how many contractions you can both do before giving into the desire of thrusting.

Besides strengthening his PC muscle, another way to get your man to last longer is to get him to control his breathing. This sounds too simple to be true, but it really does work. Most men start to breathe heavily as they begin thrusting. This heavy breathing causes a lot of excitement and blood flow. By breathing in a slow, consistent pattern your man will start to last longer, maybe not at the very beginning, but with time and practice this technique is guaranteed to work.

Chapter 2: Communication is Key

While personal confidence is important to achieve as an individual, communication is important for any relationship with another person. That being said, when you feel more confident within yourself, you will be more inclined to speak your mind and let others know how you feel and what exactly you need from them. When you’re confident about who you are and what you need, then relaying this information will then come much easier for you as an individual and will in turn help your relationship with your partner. Communication is necessary in any relationship.

Learning how to effectively communicate with your partner and others is an incredibly important tool. Regardless of the situation or position you’re in, you must learn how to communicate effectively or you will never receive from others what you may need from them. For a relationship to be successful in all areas, you must be able to communicate your wants, needs and desires with your partner. The key factor to any healthy and successful relationship is communication. That being said, both partners must be open to this and must be willing to be understanding, listen to their partner, and discuss what they need as well. Relationships have a hard time developing

if we hold back from telling our partner what we need from them. This is often how adultery and other occurrences take place that can ultimately ruin a relationship.

The first place to start is learning how to communicate your general needs with your partner. This may include letting your partner know what annoys you and what you would like them to work on. Do not get out of hand with this! Take things slow and do not overwhelm your partner with unrealistic demands. Maybe it bothers you that your partner doesn’t help you clean the house, or maybe he doesn’t take out the trash when asked, or maybe he never goes down on you enough, well start by letting them know politely that it bothers you. Next, you may want to ask them what they would like you to work on as well. This will start opening the dialogue between the two of you and you will then start becoming more comfortable speaking your mind and letting one another know what you need from each

other. Once you initiate these conversations, it will then become easier to start discussing what you need from your partner sexually.

Sexual discussions can be difficult at first but once you get started, it will become easier. Start by letting your partner what you want during sex. Let him know what feels good. If you like being on top, you can

actually use your body language to tell him that. Push him over and straddle him and show him that you like that position. Do not lay there during sex and let your partner do all the work missionary style. This is not only boring but you most likely want other things to happen during your sexual activities. If you want him to bend you over and don’t feel comfortable telling him just yet, try positioning yourself on your stomach so he won’t be able to resist you. Many men love a woman to tell them what to do, so if

you like it rough tell him! If you want him to spank you why not yell out the command?

When it comes to sex, you can actually say a lot without saying anything at all. If something feels good, show him. He’ll be able to know what you’re feeling by your facial expressions, moans and groans. This is very healthy for your sexual relationship. Now this doesn’t mean that you have to fake an orgasm but if something really feels good, let go and don’t hold back with your sounds and let him know what you’re feeling. Move around more on him and show him that whatever he’s doing is making you go crazy and is making you want him even more. When he sees how your body is reacting to what he’s doing, he will start to get a feel for what you like. That being said, using your words to let him know what you want makes things pretty clear and he will be able to follow what you’re telling him to do. If he’s on top of you and you want him to go deeper, tell him, or you can help him by lifting up your leg and laying it on top of his shoulder. This will allow him to go even deeper inside of you and will provide a different feeling for both of you. If you want his hands on your breasts, grab them and put them there, men like when you’re controlling things sexually, don’t let things get boring! Try rubbing your breasts with your hands along with his to show him what feels good and what you want him to do on his own. If you’re on top of him and you want your breasts in his mouth, gently lean your chest over his face and he’ll get the hint.

Watching each other masturbate can be a very erotic and a very informative act. What better way to learn what feels good to a person than to watch them do it to themselves. Many men find the sight of a woman pleasuring herself and making herself cum to be highly satisfying. Bend over in front of you man and start to rub yourself. Moan and make noises and show him exactly how you like your clitoris rubbed. Slide you fingers inside yourself and show him how you like to be penetrated. This is sure to get him rock hard and also teach him exactly how you like being pleasured.

Chapter 3: Spontaneous Surprises

Everyone likes surprises. Regardless of what someone may say, we all know that we enjoy small surprises from others, especially from our partners. That being said, this is why it’s so important to communicate with one another to see what your partner likes and doesn’t like. Along with communication, trying new things and incorporating different items, or scenarios into your sex like if very important. There are many things that women specifically can do in order to surprise their partner. Lingerie is one of the oldest sex strategies, it still works and it often works well. Women’s bodies are already beautiful as they are, but when you add lace, silk, and other beautiful fabrics on top of their bodies, it makes them even more desirable.

Lingerie is a must for healthy sexual relationships. Wearing something sexy under your clothes not only helps you feel sexier and more confident, it is very appetizing for your partner. When you wear something sexy and beautiful, you will feel sexy and beautiful. Surprise your partner with new lingerie in order to spice things up! Go out and try on new lingerie, negligees, night gowns and other sexy clothing items. While wearing his t-shirt and other relaxing items may be very comfortable, these items are not sexy and if you want to spice up your sex life, you have to try new things and step out of your comfort zone. It’s easy to get comfortable within your relationship and let yourself go. Regardless of the stage of your relationship, lingerie will be a great addition to your sex life.

Start out with basic items in order to become more comfortable with sexual additives. Start out with sexy panties, bras, chemises, and work them into your sexual encounter. Surprise your partner with this. Either wear these items under your clothes or pull the old, “I need to freshen up” line and change into these outfits. When you put lingerie on, it is often a

very erotic experience for every woman, which already gets the mood going before you even show your partner what you’re wearing. These sexy items add to any sexual night and will leave your partner wanting more. Add sexy high heels and hosiery and you will seduce your partner before you even lay

a finger on him. Communicate with your partner about this, maybe he wants you to buy sexy, crotch-less panties for easy access, or maybe this as an item that you can surprise him with. When you come out wearing your sexy lingerie, you can then be in control and surprise your partner by completely dominating the sexual encounter.

If you don’t feel like wearing sexy lingerie you could always the pull the no underwear trick. This may sound corny but I’ve found that for some reason guys go crazy at the though of a woman not wearing any underwear. One night you could accidentally forget to wear panties. During your night out, whisper into your partners ear what you’ve forgotten and he will surely squirm in his seat at the thought of your naked body under your skin tight jeans.

Spontaneous sex is another great surprise for your partner.

Maybe you’re driving home from a nice dinner and that glass of wine or two is starting to kick in and you feel very confident about the night ahead of you. If he’s driving, surprise him by reaching over and touching him to let him know how badly you want him. Doing this will let your partner know how you feel and will definitely get the night going. This may even go further with you unzipping his zipper and taking care of business with

your hand or your mouth before you even get home. The best part about this is even if you take care of him once; he will definitely want you again after this. Once you’re home, continue the action by taking off your clothes in front of him to reveal your sexy lingerie that you have on underneath and

get ready for round two.

Does your partner like going to strip clubs? Let him know that he may not need to go see other women take off their clothes when he has you right in front of him. Take a stripping class and learn some new skills. Your partner will be very pleased with your new skills and he will be very happy that he has his own personal stripper right in front of him every night for free and he’ll actually get to seal the deal with you. While you’re working on your stripping skills, you can also surprise him with different sex positions. Men like change; they want you to show them what you want. After providing him with a nice little strip tease, try getting on all fours and pull him up behind you. If you’re trying this position, try

positioning his hands on your chest and let him hold you from behind while having sex in this position. Try this doggy style position and then straddle him and ride on top of him for a bit. Men want to see women in this position because they can see all of your curves and they can watch you actually be in complete control of the sexual encounter. If you’re out of ideas for hot new sex positions here’s a few that are sure to keep you busy:

- The Super Squat:

This position is really quite simple but it can be tough if you don’t have strong legs. The man is flat on his back and the woman faces him and squats onto his penis. You are not doing full squats every time; you are simply bouncing up and down in the squatted position. The woman can place her hands on her knees to aid her legs as they get tired. The man should be thrusting upwards as the woman is bouncing up and down. This provides extremely deep penetration and your man is sure to find it satisfying and you’re bound to get some nice g-spot stimulation.

- Arched Bridge:

The woman lies on her stomach with a pillow underneath her hips so that her bum is propped up in the air. The man enters from behind. This is like a lazy version of doggy style but it is easier for both parties. I’ve found when I give men the option they actually prefer this position to the conventional doggy style position and I actually find it more stimulating as will. The only benefit of doggy style that you often miss out on in this position, is that the mans testicles will not tapping your clitoris as he thrusts, as they sometimes do in doggy style.

- Reverse Cowgirl (Standing):

The man lies on the edge of the bed with his feet on the floor. The woman bends over, straddles the man and allows the man to enter her from the back. The woman bounces up and down onto her mans penis. This position is difficult for the man to contribute, but if he’s feeling energetic he

can always slide his bum off the edge of the bed and begin thrusting. While he’s thrusting you can either match his thrusting by simultaneously squatting onto him, or you can remain stationary and allow him to freely penetrate you.

- Kneeling:

Start in doggy style and then the woman leans back. The man should be on his knees as well. This is a very passionate position and the man is also able to easily stimulate the woman’s clitoris and or nipples with his hand since he doesn’t really have to use his arms for stability.

If you’re looking to be even more spontaneous, try having sex in different places. Maybe you’re visiting your mom’s for the weekend, if you find that you have a few minutes alone, pull your man into the bathroom or another locked room, rip off his clothes and surprise him with oral sex. He will be so surprised with this that you’ll leave him wanting even more from you. Having sex in the backseat of a car, outside, and even

in a public restroom are all great spontaneous areas for sex. The goal here is to have sex where your partner would least expect it. That being said, you always want to make sure the coast is clear and that you are safe wherever you choose to have sex. These spontaneous acts are just a few ideas that

will not only surprise your partner but it will show him that you want him in every way possible and you’re willing to step outside of your comfort zone for him and show him what he means to you.

Chapter 4: Set the Mood

Setting the mood for any sexual encounter is incredibly important. You can set the mood for the night ahead of you in many ways. If you get home early, you can set the mood by lighting candles, playing sexy, romantic music and even dressing up in sexy lingerie while waiting for him on the bed. No lingerie? No problem! Throw on a pair of heels and lay in bed naked. Your man will be so surprised that he won’t be able to resist

you. Switch things up whenever you can. Try surprising him with lingerie at times, or just laying around naked other times. You don’t want things to get boring. When you switch things up, you’ll leave your partner guessing what will happen next. Another way to set the mood is to make sure you are

ready for the night. Take a hot shower, shave your legs and any other area that should be hairless. Ask your partner what he likes. He may like you to have no hair down there, or maybe just a small line of hair, either way, ask him what he wants so you can get yourself ready ahead of time. When you’re getting yourself ready, think of all the fun things that you’re going to be doing together and you’ll get yourself in the mood before you’re even with your partner.

Now that you’re ready and the mood is set with lighting and candles, you still may need to incorporate different items into the mix to make the experience truly erotic. Porn may be a way that you want to start setting the mood between you and your partner. Lay back, have a glass of wine together and throw on a good porn video. Men like to watch porn, let’s be honest, but what they also like is their women watching porn with them. There’s nothing sexier than watching beautiful people get naked and have sex and then turning around and performing the same acts with your

partner. Watching porn together will get you both hot and bothered and ready for action. Find a good porno that you both would like and get things moving. Masturbation might be a good thing to add into the porn moment. Porn is great because you can get ideas from porn. If you aren’t sure what you want or what you want to try. Watching porn together and separately can help fix that problem. Making your own porn video with your partner and re-watching it before sex is another fun thing to do. If you watch porn

alone, try surprising your partner with what you’ve learned from watching it! He will love your new porn star techniques.

Try watching each other masturbate while the porn is on before you touch each other. Watching individuals please each other and watching your partner please himself will make you both want each other more than ever. Along with porn, the mood can also be set with toys. Masturbation can be down with sex toys that you can use on yourself. Men like to watch women have an orgasm and if he can watch you give yourself an orgasm, the next thing he is going to want to do is make you have another one.

Try incorporating vibrators, and other items that can be used on both of you that will make you both feel good. Let him try using the vibrator or other toys on you as well. He will love watching you go crazy with the vibrations and then he will want to make sure he makes you feel the same way as well. Just make sure you’re not more pleased with the vibrator action than you are with his penis. Remember, his penis is everything to you. If you want your man to be pleased, he must feel that you need him sexually. Some women love butt plugs and men can find the act of inserting a butt plug in a woman’s anus to be quite stimulating. Butt plugs can be pleasurable to a woman but they can also tighten the vagina, making the mans sexual experience better as well. Obviously if anal sex is something that you and your partner have discussed and wish to try, butt plugs are a great way to warm up for this new activity.

Yes, it’s great to incorporate other items into the bedroom, but you never want your man to feel like you’re fine on your own and you can achieve an orgasm without him. While yes, this is true, and you can achieve an orgasm on your own, you want him to feel like nothing compares to him being inside you. The more that he feels that you want him, the more satisfying the whole, sexual experience will be.

Setting the mood with whips, handcuffs, eatable underwear and other items are also great. Throw on a pair of eatable underwear and let your man eat every inch of these off of you. This will not only feel amazing

for you but he will get off on doing it to you. When a man is able to please a woman, it often makes him get even harder. If you don’t have eatable underwear, no problem, you can make some. Get out the old fashioned whip

cream, make your own bikini and lay on the kitchen table waiting for him as he walks in. When he walks inside after work and finds you lying on the kitchen table, tell him his ice cream sundae is waiting for him and he needs to come eat it. Feeling sticky after the whip cream? Suggest that you both take a hot shower together in order to get the whipped cream off and continue pleasing each other in the shower. If you’re curious about having sex in different areas, try them! Try having sex in every room and every area of your home. Make a game of it and tell your partner that you want him inside you all over the house. Talking dirty to him and pleasing him in different areas will keep him happy and will keep you happy as well.

Oral sex. Oral sex is different for everyone but for most, it’s an incredibly arousing and enjoyable experience. If you’re apprehensive about trying it, and you know your man wants you to do it, try lathering him up in something sweet like eatable oil, lubricant, whipped cream, or anything else that tastes good. This is a great way to ease into oral sex with your partner. Remember that trying new things and doing things outside of your comfort zone is incredibly important for any sexual relationship. Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to bring another woman into the bedroom if this is something your partner wants, however there’s nothing wrong with it if that’s what you choose, you should always be up for trying different things. While everyone is different here are some oral sex tips for men and women:

Fellatio:

- As you probably already know, there is no blowing in a blow job, you should only be sucking and licking

- A good blow job usually means that you are giving your man a great hand job while also using your mouth to lick and suck him. Use smooth strokes with your hand while rubbing his penis and try to ensure that the penis is well lubricated, either with actual lubricant, or your saliva.

- If he takes a while to get hard, try putting his entire penis in your mouth and this is sure to fire him up in a hurry

- Sometimes you should try using no hands and encourage him to thrust gently into your mouth

- Don’t ignore his testicles; you should try touching them and licking/ gently sucking them as often as possible

- Suck him and stroke him at the same time

- Take him deep into your throat but make sure you are communicating. Men love thrusting deep into your mouth because it feels a lot like sex, but you must control his movements to ensure that you are not in pain or going to gag

- If you’re getting tired and you want him to just have an orgasm already, try using your words to get him off. Take his penis out of your mouth and tell him that you want to watch him cum, tell him that you want to taste his semen and he’s sure to get off in a hurry.

- Lots of men find it highly erotic if you swallow their semen. This is something you should talk about beforehand so that you don’t get an unpleasant surprise in your mouth!

- The male G spot is not actually the penis it’s the prostate. You can stimulate your mans prostate externally but it’s not as intense as stimulation through the anus. Obviously you need to talk this over with your man before you start trying anything, but lots of men love getting sensual

prostate massages. There are plenty of men who cringe at the idea of a prostate massage though so you must discuss everything first

Cunnilingus:

- Tongue strength is crucial if you hope to properly pleasure a woman with your mouth. A great way for a man to strengthen his tongue is to spell the entire alphabet with his tongue three or more times a day. The simple act of sticking your tongue out and then bringing it back in as fast as possible will also build you up some great tongue strength

- Use your hands to separate her vaginal lips and open her clitoral hood so that you can stimulate her entire clitoris

- Rubbing her nipples while licking her vagina can be very stimulating for her

- Do not attempt to penetrate her with your tongue because it is nowhere near as effective as your penis and fingers at stimulating her G spot.

- Stimulate her G spot with your fingers as you continue to lick and suck her clitoris and vaginal lips.

- Pay attention to her moans and groans and react accordingly. Try not to overtly ask her what feels good as this may distract her. It’s fine to discuss oral sex after the fact, but during oral sex you should just try to feel her body language and listen to her sounds of pleasure.

- Rub her nipples while performing cunnilingus.

- Some women find anal stimulation with the tongue to be erotic and pleasurable.

- Keep in mind that many men find cunnilingus extremely difficult to master. Don’t get frustrated and don’t be afraid to ask your woman exactly what she likes. As a woman you should not be afraid to tell your man what to do and manipulate him with your hands. Most men love when women tell them exactly what they like.

You’re never going to know what you like unless you try it out. You may end up loving oral sex with your partner and you’ll want to do it more and more. The good news is that you can usually make your partner have multiple orgasms, so if you perform oral sex on him; it’s still very likely that you’ll be able to have intercourse soon after, you just have to incorporate moves and items that will get your partner hard again. After he has an orgasm, wait a few minutes and then whisper to him that you want more. This in itself will get him all hot and bothered and wanting to get hard again for you. Some men find it difficult to have sex once they’re already had an orgasm. Many men naturally feel tired after sex and you should be try to be understanding of this. Just because your man is incapable of having sex multiple times doesn’t mean he’s not attracted to you, often times you’ve simply made him feel so satisfied that he can’t physically handle anymore pleasure.

Teasing your partner, as long as it eventually leads to something is an effective way to set the mood. If you’re around family or friends, try sitting on his lap and caressing his leg under the table to let him know what you want. When you are more affectionate with your partner, your sex life together will often be much more passionate. Tease him by kissing him deeply and slowly and then leave for a bit. This will leave him wanting more and he’ll be thinking about what he wants to do to you the whole time you’re gone. When you come back, finish what you started and give each other what you want. Whispering in his ear, writing him a quick note or sending him a quick text of what you want are all things that you can do when sex isn’t an option at the time.

The goal is to be in charge of the situation and always have your man wanting you. Find out what turns him on, maybe it’s porn, maybe it’s naked pictures of you, or maybe it’s something eatable rubbed all over you.

Whatever it is, find out. Find out your man’s fantasy and let him know

yours as well, that way you can make those fantasies come true. If you want him to wear a firefighter uniform and come over with his water hose, tell him! You’ll make it worth his trip to the costume store! Make each other’s wildest dreams and fantasies come true, no matter what they are. If you

want something different, tell him and vice versa. The best part about setting the mood is that it can be set in any way that you choose. This is why it’s so important to find out the needs, wants and desires of your partner and it’s just as important that he knows yours as well.

Chapter 5: Pregame or No Game

Foreplay is often the sexiest and most erotic part of any sexual experience. This act is so important because it makes you want each other even more than you already did to begin with. Take things slow! Start with sensual kissing with your clothes on. Kissing sensually and slowly will build up the anticipation for what’s coming next. This will start spicing up the moment. Sensual kissing in a soft and erotic way is so important. It lets your partner know that you want more but you want to take your time with it. Once the kissing gets you both all hot and bothered start removing articles of clothing from one another. If you’d like, either remove your own clothing, or take turns removing each other’s clothing. Take your time with this, and keep kissing each other in between removing clothing items.

Touching your partner with your hands is another foreplay tip. Learn how to use your hands effectively to turn your man on. You don’t have to rub his package just yet, but what you can do is rub up and down his thighs and around his navel. Start out soft and caress his stomach and navel area first. Next you can drag your nails up and down his body very lightly and then switch it up every now and then by grabbing him tightly,

this will show him what you really want. Use your hands and your mouth to kiss and touch your partner’s ears, his head and his neck. Men love it when you kiss their neck. Kissing, licking and caressing your partner’s neck, stomach, shoulders and any other area leading up to the special package

will turn your partner on and get him aroused.

The good news about text messages these days is that they help you communicate with others without having to verbally describe your

feelings. Text messages can set the mood with your partner and will let your partner know what you’re feeling and what you want either during the day while you’re at work or maybe when you’re out with friends for the evening. Send your partner sexy text messages throughout the day and let him know what you want him to do to you when you get home, or let him know what you’re going to do to him. Better yet, let him know what you

would want to do to him if you were alone with him in his office or vice versa. If you start heating things up when you’re away from your partner, you’re going to want each other more than ever once you’re finally together and sex will feel even better. This will turn your partner on and he will be so excited to come home to you after work.

The thing with dirty talk however, is that you must follow through with what you’re talking to your partner about. If you’re telling him that you can’t wait for him to walk through the door tonight so you can rip his clothes and his pants off the second he walks through the door, you must follow through with this. Let him know what you want him to do and what you want to do with him and follow through on these actions. Following through with what you’re talking about will let each other know that it isn’t just a game and that the dirty talk will actually lead to sexual activities.

When a man knows that you’re thinking about sex, this thought alone will get him in the mood. Men like women who are sexual and comfortable with their sexuality. Sex is definitely not an area where you should be shy with your partner. Now, if you’re not very familiar with someone you may want to ease into things, but if you’ve been in a relationship for a while then go wild with this. Send your partner random text messages and maybe you can even meet at home on your lunch breaks for a quickie. Here are some text messages you could send that are sure to get your man frisky:

-“Hey handsome, I’ve been thinking about your hard cock inside of me all day long”

-“I want you to bend me over and fuck me tonight until I cum all over your big cock”

-“I want to take you deep into my mouth until you’re begging to be inside of me”

-“All I want to do tonight is make you cum. I want you to cum wherever you want, inside my vagina, in my mouth, on my tits, on my face or all over my ass, you can spend the rest of the day deciding”

-“I want to make love nice and slow until I’m moaning and screaming your name”

Here are some texts that you men could send to your ladies that will probably get them hot and bothered:

-“Baby I want to lay you down and take my time on you tonight”

-“All I want to do is lick you until you’re soaking wet, then I want to slide my cock in and out of you all night long”

-“I’m not going to stop pleasuring you tonight until you’ve cum three times. I want your bed sheets to be drenched baby”

-“Hey sexy, hurry home tonight so I can strip you down and tease you until you’re begging me to fuck you hard”

-“I want to taste your vagina baby. I want to make you squirt all over the bed, then I want to fuck you until you cum all over my hard cock”

Along with sexy text messages, talking dirty to your partner is another effective way of setting the mood and getting them excited about sex. The above text examples would definitely also work with dirty talk as well, depending on what your partner is into. The goal should always be to turn each other on as much as possible. Sending dirty text messages and talking dirty during sex is key. Talking dirty to your partner is something you can do as a pre foreplay activity. While this is something that can be done during foreplay as well, it really helps set the mood before and during sexual activity. Once again, the goal is to make your partner want you so desperately that it drives him crazy. Talking dirty to him in person and through text messages will definitely get him to this point. This doesn’t have to be bad or necessarily explicit language. Talking dirty can be either sexy and erotic or foul and filthy, it all depends on what you both like.

Expressing your feelings during foreplay, on the phone and through text messages is easy and can really create the mood. Try telling your partner how badly you want them, how you can’t wait to rip off his clothes and lick him from head to toe. Whatever you’re thinking about, whatever your fantasy is, tell him! Being open about your feelings and what you want will

show him how badly you really do want him. If you want him to be inside you, send him a quick text and tell him how you can’t wait for it to happen later and that thinking about it drives you crazy. Men and women both need to feel wanted, like their partner will do anything for them and wants them in every way possible.

When you’re with your partner, tell him exactly what you want. If you want something harder, slower, and faster or just a different position all together, tell him. When you tell a man what you want, it makes the experience even better for him; it becomes more fulfilling because he’s giving you exactly what you need from him. If something turns you on, tell him. Some women for example like having men start by touching them with their hand before sex. If this is something you like, you can either tell him where you want his hands, or better yet, grab his hand and guide it in the direction that you want it. Tell him where you want his hand, mouth, penis, and place it there. If you want his hand there first, grab his hand and show him what you like. Place your hand on top of his and guide it how you want it. Men love this. They want to see you touch yourself and better yet, the want you to touch yourself while they’re touching you as well. When you say things like, “I want your hand here”, “Touch me there”, “Do it harder and faster” these words will let your man know exactly what you need.

During foreplay, it may be helpful to show your partner exactly what you want by masturbating in front of him. This has already been mentioned but it is worth repeating. Look at him while you’re touching yourself. Show him how many fingers you’re using and exactly the way you like it. In turn, he may show you the same thing by touching himself.

This will be a very erotic moment for the two of you. This is often a fantasy for men, they want to see women masturbate and have an orgasm on their own. Luckily, if you’re unable to be with your partner all the time, there are video chats that can show your partner what you’re doing to yourself if he’s unable to be there all the time. Masturbating on video and sending it to your partner is incredibly erotic and will show your partner how sexy you can be. Now, this doesn’t mean go out and film a sex tape, it doesn’t even have to have your face in it, in fact, you may prefer to not have your face in the film at all. You can either choose to record a video or show your partner what you’re doing through a live chat on your computer or iPhone. Sending each

other dirty texts, pictures and videos when you can’t be with one another are great pre foreplay acts that are sure to spice up your relationship.

Conclusion

I don’t want to beat a dead horse here, but please allow me to reiterate; communication is key! I have probably mentioned communication at least once a page in this book. That should exemplify just how important this one aspect of a relationship is when it comes to sex. If your communication isn’t on point, your sex life will deteriorate, it really is that simple. Without communication you can make no sexual progress. There is nothing worse than being in a relationship where sex is a taboo subject. Sex should be one of the best parts of a relationship and by keeping an open mind and an open dialogue about what happens in the bedroom, you are sure to have a more enjoyable and pleasurable sex life.

Sex should not be about one person; it should be about the mutual satisfaction of everybody involved. I mention keeping an open mind, communicating and trying new things a lot in this book. But if you communicate with your partner and you find out that they are uncomfortable with certain things, you should NEVER try to force them to do something they don’t want to do. This goes for men and women. While men are normally the culprits of pressuring women into different sexual acts, women can also pressure men and we need to avoid any type of pressuring at all costs.

As I mentioned in the very beginning of the book, the most important, crucial, vital, essential and fundamental aspect of a great sexual relationship, the pinnacle, the zenith and the epitome of sexual communication and pleasure is……… Do you remember? TRUST!

Without trust you literally have nothing in a relationship. If there is a trust breakdown in your relationship you need to fix that trust issue before you even think about having sex. Trust and communication go hand in hand and if one is failing, then they’re both failing. This is not like the movies; sex is not some magical healing force that will make everything better in your relationship. Sex feels great when it’s happening, but the reality of the situation is that as soon as you orgasm, your relationship goes back to the

way it was before and if it was bad before sex, it’s going to be the exact same after sex.

Sex isn’t a one shot deal; it can take years for couples to feel sexually compatible with one another. While some couples seem to naturally ‘click’ sexually, it can take a lot of work for other couples. Don’t compare your sex life to anyone else’s. Focus on yourself and your own personal sex life, put in the time, communicate with your partner, keep and open sexual dialogue, trust one another and follow the advice in this book and you will surely enhance your sex life to the fullest.

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All the best, Ariana Hunter

Couples Sex Guide:

The Ultimate Sex Hacks That Will Ignite Your Relationship, Spice Up Your Marriage and Rock Your Bedroom!

Ariana Hunter

- From a Declaration of Principles which was accepted and approved equal by a Committee of the American Bar Association and a Committee of Publishers and Associations.

Respective authors own all copyrights not held by the publisher.

The information herein is offered for informational purposes solely, and is universal as so. The presentation of the information is without contract or any type of guarantee assurance.

TABLE of Contents:

Introduction

Chapter 1: On Top and In Charge Chapter 2: Manhandled Mania Chapter 3: Behind and Beyond

Chapter 4: So you want to be a Superhero? Chapter 5: Standup for Sex

Chapter 6: A Little Bit of Spice Makes Everything Nice Conclusion

Introduction

Our sex lives aren’t as complicated as they may seem. We make our sex lives complicated by doing and not doing a number of things. For one, we’re not communicating enough with our partners. The breakdown of communication in any relationship can lead to a break up in no time. Learn how to communicate with one another. Learning about each other’s wants, needs and desires will improve your love life and your relationship overall. When you learn about what your partners wants, you will be more inclined to incorporate different sex positions and even different items into the bedroom! I have tried to write this book in a way that is helpful to both men and women. At some points in the book I am trying to connect with the woman in the relationship and at some points I try to connect with the man. My hope is that either a man or woman could read this book, find value in it and then suggest the book to their partner. I think if you want to read this book in the most effective way then you should read it in bed with your partner. That way both of you can read it together and benefit from the book immediately. Sometimes it’s hard to suggest new things, but if you read them in a book it becomes easier to simply say, “let’s try what she’s talking about here.”

I have written this book in a way that may be offensive to some people and for that I apologize. If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, polygamous or into group sex or something of that nature, I hope you are not offended when I say man and woman. I am speaking from my own personal experience as a straight woman and this tends to show through in my writing. It’s not intentional; it’s just the way I write. I am fully aware of the fact that sexual relationships mean different things to different people. For some people, having sex with 4 people at a time is liberating, and if this true for you, then all the power to you! Since I am a straight woman who only sleeps with one man at a time, this will be the way the book has been written.

Having an open and free sex life is a truly satisfying and liberating feeling. I, like many women, have had relationships in the past where I felt extremely sexually neglected and I was just too shy to say or do anything about it. I felt like my pleasure was of secondary importance to my partner’s pleasure and I just believed that this was the way it was supposed to be. I would continue to have unsatisfactory sex with my partner and I didn’t say a word about how little pleasure I was experiencing. I would often fake orgasms as I did not want my partner to feel bad about himself because he couldn’t bring me to a sexual climax.

Faking an orgasm is the worst thing you can possibly do as a woman. Not only does it give your partner a false sense of pride and satisfaction, but it also tells your partner that what they are doing is perfect and that they shouldn’t change what they are doing at all. This creates a horrible situation because you are eventually going to have to tell your partner to change something so that you can experience an orgasm.

Eventually, if you stay with your partner for long enough that is, it will come to light that you were faking orgasms and that’s never good for anybody. The fake orgasm lie is stupid and if you’re frustrated because your partner can’t make you cum, then it’s time you take action and have an in- depth conversation.

You learn from every past relationship and now I am at the point in my life where I am not afraid to ensure my own sexual pleasure. Women have just as much a right as a man does to “get off” during sex so we must ensure that we are maximizing our sexual experience at all times. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner EXACTLY what you want! If you want your partner to grab your hair and spank your ass, tell him! If you want him to tenderly make love to you while he looks you in the eyes, tell him! If you want him to lightly lick your clitoris as he pulls on your nipples, tell him! If you want him to deeply finger you while he slides a lubed up butt plug into your anus, tell him! If you don’t want to have anal sex but you feel like he’s pressuring you, tell him!

Nothing should be off limits in the bedroom, at least as far as suggestions go. If your partner tells you that he wants to fuck you in the ass, or do some strange role-playing, don’t judge him! People should never feel judgment for offering sexual suggestions or it will make them become standoffish in the bedroom. Just because you welcome all suggestions does not mean that you have to accept all suggestions. You must develop an open sexual dialogue between you and your partner, but you both have to be of the understanding that both people (or the group if you’re into that type of thing) must be 100% comfortable with anything new that gets introduced into the bedroom. This book is going to show you different ways that you and your partner can heat things up in the bedroom in a cooperative way, so get your dirty minds prepared and let’s dive right in!

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